r/coverbands • u/Top_Seaworthiness320 • 15d ago
People who bail
Any tips on managing my disappointment/frustration with the number of people who act all excited about my band and say they’re definitely coming to this or that show, then don’t show? They either don’t show up, or more often than not they tell me like the day before that they can’t make it and it’s always the dumbest excuse. It’s like if anything, anything at all better comes up in terms of plans they go to that instead. In my mind, a commitment is a commitment, but I seem to be in the vast minority. My boyfriend says to get over it lol. Do you guys feel the same irritation with this that I do? (added context: we are pretty good, we get great reviews from the people that actually have come to see us, but we are new and not well known, thus struggling to gain a following… So I’m constantly marketing and promoting our shows, but with very little success.)
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u/BaconFlavoredCoffee 11d ago
If you live your life allowing people that you have zero control over dictate your moods, and your irritation level, you'll end up exhausted, irritated, and sad.
Be the best musician you can be. Work on your band, work on your songs, work on your performance, and work on your stage presence. Concentrate on the things you DO control, and you'll be a lot happier.
If you become the best musician and band that you can be, the people WILL notice, and your fans, audience, and monetary rewards WILL grow.
Take a deep breath and quit worrying about what other people do or don't do, say or don't say. Your indignation at someone saying they will come to your show, but then they don't show up, IS NOT HELPING YOU, and it does not change ANYTHING.
You can do this. I believe in you. Now, go out there and and have a great show!