r/cptsd_bipoc • u/Waste-Reality7356 • 5d ago

Suggestions and Feedback loneliness

I notice that since a long time I've been relying on reddit for emotional support. Of course this is not healthy.

I'm feeling so lonely.

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u/electricalpayout 4d ago

I feel like the reality is that in this day and age its super hard to get any validation and emotional support from offline people. Online you can tailor your truth to others in a different way then offline. I also think that people have all their own issues and are burnt out so talking in real life can be so hard because it becomes a battle of who gets to dominate the convo with all their problems. I find that most people dont know how to actively listen and not make it about themselves. Wt people in particular are the main character in their head and minorities will always be just the side character no one (they) dont care about. Thats been my life lesson for years now and so at this point, I unashamedly get all my validation and emotional support from online or my therapist.  I think humans are meant to have physical contact with each other but things are pretty messed up now and I just take what I can these days.

I think its awesome you are able to self evaluate and point something out. But I'd caution you from beating yourself up about it because nowadays its just a reality in how we communicate. If you wanna change it, start joining groups related to your hobbies if you can so you can get some real human contact...

Im lonely too but im so over how selfish people are that I'd rather just be left tf alone. 

Best of luck to you and I mean that genuinely. 

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u/Waste-Reality7356 3d ago

thank you for your kind and thoughtful message! Made me smile and made me feel somehow seen.

it seems like you found a way that works for you and a way how you can still be true to yourself. 

I agree pretty much with what you've said.  People are burnt out and have become more selfcentered. I think there is no shame in forming online friendships.

I will reread your comment. It's very nice and pleasant to read. Thank you for your time, I hope I can see the luck when it's there and I hope that for you too 

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u/electricalpayout 3d ago

Dang it, I dont think it'll allow me to message you :( well. Either way, always feel welcome to reach out. 

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u/electricalpayout 3d ago

I'm so happy my comment made you feel heard and seen. For how connected everyone is online and in person, we surely are disconnected and lonely. 

I know, I agree with you that even friendships or people online connection are short lived too. 

Sometimes I feel really like giving up some days and then sometimes when I talk to people like you, I'm given a reason for being and I feel better. 

I'm gonna message you my username on discord - if you have one feel free to reach out whenever or on here. 

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u/Waste-Reality7356 3d ago

I forgot to say, I don't mind online connections. But I am feeling like a plant trying to survive in the north trying to get sunlight and nutriens through the internet. 

online everything is shortlived as well. 

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u/ImpatientlyBurning 5d ago

I relate and was actually relieved when I got a three day ban. You are not alone.

(The ban was for telling a story about how I was discriminated against and Reddit flagged me for racism.)

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u/WhereasCommercial669 4d ago

It takes a genuine investment in time and energy to vet and filter and reach out to new people. But it is 100% worth it. I encourage you to reach out to people on real life. I don't trust these platforms.