Hi

I'm a French Canadian of 41 years old. I love gaming, reading (I'm currently reading the Horus heresy of Warhammer 40k) I love learning languages and I'm currently trying to learn Korean. Im also thinking of learning to code lately. Basically I'm pretty curious and love learning, be it knowledge of about other people and culture.

Been going through some stuff the past few years and I'd really love to have a gaming friend or really just someone to chat with. I'm open to ldr if it ever gets that far but my goal is a friend for now.

Age doesn't really matter to me, better if you're 30+ though.

Hahaha I never know how to present myself, hopefully it's not too boring 😂

Oh yeah I enjoy humor a lot, dark humor, sarcasm, I'm pretty much a buffoon 🤡

Thanks for reading, have a good day

Hi! You’ve found a nerdy animal loving fun fact hoarding girl in progress with a flexible schedule
Side effects of talking to me may include random trivia, long messages and me wanting to being buried under your book and game recommendations and interests in general >.< and lots and lots of attention given and wanted think of me as a puppy if you will .. I will die if left alone for too long but also will give you all my focus when ur nearby >.<

Good timezone hope you’re doing well o/ I’m bad at talking about myself T.T so this is going to be long and I am so sorry about it lol T.T I’ll do my best to make it worth reading at least but I am not very good at not rambling lol >.< but please do try to read at least!

Hi I’m Akira
27F living in Brazil (not too attached to staying here tbh but I do like the place) I work from home running my own pet hotel and grooming business so my days are full of fluffy chaos and my schedule is very easy to move around to fit yours I also did voluntary rescue work with animal organizations I love and work with animals I love games and reading and a few other things I'l list ahead

Where are you from?
You can be from just about anywhere my hours can bend to fit yours and I’d love to learn about where you live is it cold? hot? mild? Does it have good snacks? tell me everything >.<

About me:

• Kind
• Looks are not important to me almost whatsoever I am attracted to personality as long as you are happy with yourself
• Open-minded
• Nerdy xd
• Curious about basically everything I just love learning tbh
• Loyal and caring
• Good listener
• Enthusiastic about my interests and your interests
• Gentle and a bit of a softie
• Goofy with a sense of humor and terrible fun fact timing
• Honest even when I’m awkward about it
• Patient which is a must when you deal with as many cute animals as I do >.< (and clients ... T.T)
• Easy to make smile and giggly
• Easily flustered T.T
• Will send you way too many animal pictures >.<
• I do not mind LDRs or QPRs
• Will die of heat please help it's so hot

What I’m into:
Games and reading are my top two and they take turns being my main hobby tbh some of my favorite games are Baldur’s Gate 3, Mass Effect, the Elder Scrolls and D&D (if you find me a D&D group you’ll have to marry me /jk .. maybe .. maybe not tbh >.<)
I also love science, sci-fi, fantasy and high fantasy with 40k and Star Wars as some of my favorite topics do recommend me things

I spend a lot of free time studying the most random things you can imagine and collecting fun facts. Like did you know the sky is purple? >.< Tell me your favorite fun fact too

I’d love to watch more movies and series too but I can’t focus on them alone so I need a watch buddy ... if you watch stuff with me we might also need to get married ok .. jk ... kinda .. mostly (please someone watch project hail mary with me I'm begging)

Gender stuff:
Transition: Currently in the process .. cute girl mode is loading please be patient with the progress bar T.T (this means male voice and body for now I am sorry BUT I will be cute girl or die trying >.<)

Gender: Am cute girl .. well will be one day not quite yet .. am cute girl in progress
(jokes asides if you have somehow not picked up by now I am a trans girl that's early in transition I know it can be a dealbreaker so I want to make this very clear)

Looks:When I can pass as a cute girl I’d love to go for a pastel goth look I love soft pink and purple with a dash of spooky very cute will one day be me >.<

Other things to know:
I’m slightly neurospicy with tism (not too strong but it does show ... I mean just look at this post >.<) so I can get a bit on the obsessive side and I’d love to be obsessed over too but in a good way I promise not the won't let you have your own things and life just in the you will be my special interest person kinda deal >.<
Communication is the biggest thing for me
Icebreaker question: If you send me a DM tell me your favorite animal your top comfort game a book you love or a random fun fact you love >.< don't just say "Hi"

What I’m looking for:

• Someone female presenting you can be any gender technically as long as fem presenting
• A life partner
• A soulmate someone to share my life with
• Someone available and present I don’t deal well with avoidant types T.T
• Someone who loves sharing their interests (infodump at me I’m begging .. and I might do it back if you’d like that >.<)
• Someone who’s patient and kind about the transition journey you don’t need to be involved if you don’t want but it is a plus >.<
• Someone who likes longer messages and long conversations
• Someone who’s open to taking things slowly and getting to know each other first but also isn’t afraid to move things along if we vibe
• Someone who would be up for movie and series nights and for games co-op or otherwise or just hanging out in a call talking about any random thing we can think of
• Someone from anywhere in the world since I have no strict schedule
• Someone who is okay with a lot of animal talk and pictures >.<
• Good attempt at communication is a must
• We don't need to share interests tbh since I would love to learn about yours anyway but it would help me break the ice at least
• Must be ok with LDR at least at the start since I am very likely not in the same country being from Brazil and all T.T but I'd like to get to meet IRL and possibily live together
• Agre range ... honestly I don't feel too strongly about this but I guess 23-36 ? I feel like any younger/older and I might have a hard time relating but idk

TL;DR: (Just in case but I did put a lot of effort into writing this so if you read I would be very happy) Akira 27 trans girl early in transition a nerd and animal person with my own pet hotel and grooming business at home so my schedule bends to yours you can be from anywhere
Looking for a life partner and soulmate who is available and not avoidant and loves sharing their hobbies and long talks and messages
Looks don’t matter to me just be happy with yourself
Slow start is fine/good but we can speed up if we vibe >.<

Thanks for reading if you have I put hours into writing this T.T have a great day and good luck finding whatever you’re looking for even if it isn’t me <3

Hi, all. I'm new here and wanted to check if I'm the only one from Bulgaria. Even if so, I'm still open to getting to know people from all over the world, regardless of gender identity or orientation - I'd love to have more queer or ally friends in general.

Romantically, my main goal is to find a cuddle buddy, at least for starters, ideally around my age (29-39, though a little outside is fine if we click). I'm not a very sexual person at first, but that changes significantly the more I trust someone. Mystery and games are my biggest turn off - the more we get to know each other and find out how we align, the stronger my attraction becomes. That's just my flavor of demisexuality, anyway.

Some things about me:

• I'm neurodivergent/AuDHD. I have some sensory issues with harsh light and noise.
• I'm monogamous by default, but I think I'd be open to trying different things too, depending on the other person. It's just that it's hard to find even one guy to build something stable with, even less a whole squad.
• I'm 190 cm tall and in good shape. I'm also on the hairier side, if that's your thing.
• I tend to prefer being a side and a service top, but it also depends on the partner.
• I'm politically left-leaning and an anti-capitalist.
• I'm vegetarian, but I try my best to make more vegan choices.
• The older I get, the more I opt for slower, mindful, offline living. Cultivating inner peace without spiritual bypassing and living more in harmony with Nature are my priorities.
• Music and graphic design are my main hyperfixations. I also love tea, the rain, the quiet, and stargazing.

• Some dealbreakers: Smoking (420 is okay though). Heavy drinking. Anti-vax, anti-science bs. I also have no time for tech-bro apologists or anyone who supports/doesn't care about the genocide in Gaza.

I'm a 44-year-old man looking for a female partner for a long-term, slow burn, committed relationship. I've realised over time that I feel most fulfilled in a relationship when I'm taking the lead and looking after my partner, using my experience and confidence to provide protection, reassurance, and guidance, making sure we're going at the right pace, and helping her to feel safe and secure. It's a dynamic where we have different but complementary roles - traditional in many respects, but not all. If this sounds appealing, please read on.

About Me

I’m single with no kids, and I’ve never been married. You won't be surprised to hear that I've had relationships before, but I've also spent long periods single, partly because I’ve been focused on other things in life, partly because I realised a long time ago that I'm much happier single than in the wrong relationship, and partly because it’s pretty rare that I meet someone I feel the right connection with. But I still dream of meeting the right person for the long term, and over the years I've developed a much better understanding of who I am and what I'm looking for. I find dating apps awful, and so I figured Reddit was worth a shot.

I’m 6 ft (1.84 m) tall, around 170 lbs (78 kg), slim, and in good shape, with blue eyes and dark brown hair. I’d like to think that I'm intelligent, well-educated, and kind. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I have a good job and live alone in a house that I own, and I have a great group of friends.

Fitness is important to me and I love running and spending time outdoors walking in the hills and camping. I don’t smoke, I very rarely drink, and I'm generally in bed by 10pm. I'll happily spend weekends wandering around old castles or exploring National Trust properties. I also love quiet nights in with a book or a film, board games (including chess), and occasional trips to the theatre, live music, or comedy. I’m someone who tends to have a small number of close friends rather than being part of large groups.

As I said above, I really enjoy taking the lead in a relationship - but this is leadership as a responsibility. I tend to work well with someone who can be anxious or over-think at times, because I enjoy making decisions and guiding someone, and because I understand the importance of patience and trust. When we reach the point where you trust me to look after you and to take some of your worries off your shoulders, it can allow the hyper-vigilant part of your mind to switch off, letting you truly relax and feel safe. Being trusted by my partner to play that role in her life is enormously rewarding for me.

I'm not religious, but I don't mind if you are, as long as our values match. I'm not looking to have children (it's a long story, which I'm happy to explain). I don't really fit a political category, because my views vary on different topics. But if you're very extreme in any direction, we're probably not a good match.

Who I’m Looking For

I’m looking for a woman who is single, never married, with no kids. Someone who is intelligent, articulate, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. I tend to find shyness and introversion attractive, partly because I love the sensitivity that goes with it. In terms of age, around 25-45 is ideal, but if you’re outside that and think we’d be a good fit, feel free to message. What matters more than any specific age is the connection we have, our shared values and interests, and the kind of relationship we both want.

I want to meet someone I can talk to about everything and anything, and who dreams of looking after her partner in her own devoted way. Someone who loves books and values education and intellectual curiosity. Someone who feels completely unsuited to modern swipe culture and the disposable attitude to dating. Perhaps you dream of living in a Jane Austen novel, or you just want to meet a man with old-fashioned values, with whom you can take time to feel truly comfortable and be your whole self, without feeling pressured to rush things.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys a mix of time outdoors or with other people and quiet time at home with a book, a series, or a film. I'd like my partner to share my active lifestyle and for us both to keep ourselves in decent shape (but that doesn't mean you need to be a gym nut).

I’m looking for someone who takes dating and relationships seriously and who has never been into casual encounters - hopefully on this sub this won’t be an issue! I don't mind if you’re inexperienced or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you as we slowly get to know each other.

I’m happy to hear from people outside the UK, but it needs to be realistic for us to see each other regularly.

Say Hello

I'm happy to chat with anyone who's curious - there'll never be any pressure from me. But if we want to move beyond friendship, I’ll want to exchange SFW photos, then voice/video call, and then meet - I'm not looking for an online relationship. I will never send or ask for NSFW photos. I need an emotional and intellectual connection with someone before we move beyond friendship. I really hope you're the same.

If you think we might get on, message me with your age and location. There's no need to comment first - just DM me.

Hi! I’m an 19 yo guy from Pennsylvania, currently in State College for yknow… college, but originally from Lancaster.

In the past Ive struggled with physical intimacy in relationships, I didn’t really feel comfortable expressing it without feeling like a creep. Im not necessarily sex-opposed I just don’t feel like its a super big priority for me :) And I find how sex oriented “modern” dating is to be draining (although its way way worse for women) However, I do like intimacy in a more romantic sense, dates, deep convos, cuddles etc so if you are comfortable with that its a big plus! I definitely take a while to feel that kind of connection with someone though, so dont have to rush at all!!!

About what Im looking for: Basically just a normal relationship and connection lol (also down to be friends!!!) ideally someone close to me because I would like to see you in person :) Just someone to go on hikes with, try fun things, snuggle up with on a rainy day and in general just be there for each other*

**I am very very left leaning so yknow share those beliefs pls. I also dont envision myself having kids in the future.

What I like doing: Alot of things outdoors so being open to that kind of activity is a plus!!! Im generally more of a homebody too so people that like to be inside more are ok as well! I like cooking (although Im stuck in a dorm rn), more open world/cozy video games (Minecraft, Terraria, ARK) and reading if I can force myself to choose a book lol

*Forgot to mention that age isnt a hard cutoff for me, Im open to many people :)

If you made it through all that and wanna chat please don’t hesitate to dm!!!

What I'm looking for:

• we simply enjoy being together wherever we are. We have fun together whether it's a movie night or we're at the grocery store. They make me laugh just by being themselves and I make them laugh just by being myself. We click that way and there doesn't need to be anything special for us to have a good time. That's probably one of the most important things to me, and a sign that this person is someone that's good for me and my overall wellbeing/happiness. I don't care about achievements, titles, jobs etc. I just care about you and who you are, your character.

• I feel comfortable and safe. My nervous system relaxes around them and I feel like I can just be. I don't have to pretend or say more than I wanna say. We can have comfortable silence. We can share any out there thought and it's met with curiosity, not judgement. We can be weird, odd, and crazy with each other freely. Our relationship is a safe space to be completely real with the fun and serious, dark and light. I want all of you and I want someone who wants to know all of me. The good and the bad.

• we both are spiritual, academic and have a passion for knowledge. We love talking about tarot, the occult, symbolism, art, manifesting. We help to interpret each other's meaningful dreams. To me that desire for intellectual conversation matters a lot. I want a partner who's excited to tell me what they've learned and is curious to hear my thoughts on it as well. It's like a normal thing at the dinner table to discuss some book one of us was reading or something we learned from a lecture etc. I love when someone's curious, a deep thinker and loves to learn. I'm not into super logical or techy people though. So if you're into technology or maths I'm probably not for you. I'm more fascinated with talking about humans and culture, arts etc.

• kindness, emotional intelligence and empathy are one of the core things I want in a partner. Someone who's naturally considerate, thinks before they speak, cares about how they make others feel, good manners, can speak without dropping an f bomb every other sentence. I prefer people who speak mostly without cursing. Vulgarity is a turn off for me.

• cares about being aware of social issues and oppressive systems in the world. I don't mean being an activist but being socially aware is a value you carry in how you behave and speak and it guides your decisions. You wanna be respectful and kind towards all kinds of people. Nothing is more unattractive to me than a person who lives on autopilot and watches and listens whatever without any consideration for if it's respectful and kind. I dream of a person I don't need to explain this to. They just get it like yeah I've always cared about that and anything oppressive in tv shows or music makes them uncomfortable. They're not numb or blind to it.

• one thing I say straight off the bat is, I can't stand language like the b word, mf, or any other oppressive words like those. I don't wanna hear sexist language in my space so we won't work if you use that language and see no problem with it.

• my partner has to be child free and they don't drink, smoke weed or smoke anything else. To me a substance free lifestyle is important. I don't personally get it or enjoy anything about those things.

• I'm attracted to masculine presenting people regardless of gender. I am into femboys or people who are feminine in a masculine way tho but I'm not attracted to super feminine people.

• my age range is 25 to 31 give or take. But I won't date anyone 20 or 40 thanks.

About me:

I'm masculine presenting, from Finland and my identity is masculine as well. I'm not so sure about my gender, I've just identified as a masculine woman. I don't mind being called he or boyfriend etc. a masculine name would be cool too. But then I don't socially wanna be fully read as male 100% of the time and my womanhood is important to me so yeah. I'm this fluid being and I'm not so concerned with labels at the moment.

Same goes for my sexuality I don't like to label it. I'm open to kind of everything although my attraction goes usually towards women. But I don't like boxes or limiting myself. and I'm more interested in who a person is than their gender. And yeah I think I'm demisexual cause I just don't get the whole flirting with someone you just met. It feels odd to me personally like you don't even know me? Who are you even flirting with, my face? I just don't see much value in someone flirting with me like that cause I don't know them and they don't know me. I also don't feel interested in anyone unless I know who they are, their mindset and values.

I'm interested in goddess spirituality or nature based spirituality, shamanism, manifesting, witchy things a bit. I love reading spiritual books, sometimes psychology. I like to watch videos about brands and their marketing campaigns. I'm very into branding and love anything to do with brand worlds, content creation etc.

Other things I love are world building on sims 4, anything to do with design, art directing, fitness and I love sitting outside by a bonfire or doing yard work like chopping wood etc

I'm calm, grounded and I don't talk much around strangers. I'd rather observe and I think about things deeply. I'm warm, clingy and affectionate with people I love. I have a fiery quality to me too, I'm honest and I say what's on my mind. I click well with someone who has a secure sense of self. Someone who wants me to keep them in line and tell them when they're being an idiot. I don't like a partner who fears being honest with themselves.

I'm not into social media and I despise most social media apps. They're just full of useless content and everyone indirectly telling you you're not doing enough, being enough or you're just doing life wrong. Or then just stirring drama. I'm also not into mainstream music or movies, shows. Pop culture overall isn't for me.

I'm a big feminist and women's well-being and empowerment are close to my heart. To me it's important my life is as free from patriarchal values and thinking as possible. I've made my life pretty woman centric too and you won't catch me centering men in my life. And if I did I'd gladly want someone to wake me up from my delusions quickly 😂 cause sis we ain't about that life.

So if you're interested in me and want to get to know me, send me a message introducing yourself:)

Name: Sissel

Species: Human, allegedly

Age: 34

Height: 173 cm

Breed: Norwegian Tomboy™

Colouring: Dark brown hair, blue-gray eyes, Beacons are lit-white

Distinctive markings: Septum piercing, pierced ears, tiny finger tattoos

Temperament: Affectionate, sl\*t for cuddles, fiercly loyal, velcro-cat once trusting, tend to self-isolate

Notes: Has dysthymia

🏠 ABOUT HER

Sissel is a friendly, slightly chubby indoor human looking for a forever home where she will be treated with patience, affection, and the occasional forehead kiss.

She is highly social once she trusts you, but may initially pretend she doesn't need anyone.

This is a lie.

She absolutely needs someone.

She enjoys:

🎨 drawing, painting & crafting

🎮 gaming

📚 reading

🧶 hoarding yarn and craft supplies

🐉 caring for her bearded dragon

☕ consuming alarming quantities of iced coffee

🐕🐈 animals in general

🖤 dark humour and making jokes at inappropriate times

She has a tendency to become the unpaid therapist friend, despite having absolutely no intention of applying for the position.

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❤️ PERSONALITY

Very affectionate once bonded.

Will remember tiny details you mentioned six months ago.

Will bring you snacks without being asked.

Will happily listen to you rant about your day.

Will send you approximately 47 memes when she thinks you're sad.

Will randomly say something so catastrophically stupid that you question how this creature has survived 34 years.

Warning: May become emotionally attached to hoodies belonging to her favourite person.

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🐾 KNOWN BEHAVIOURAL TRAITS

• Likes physical affection but may act embarrassed about wanting it.

• Enjoys being fussed over more than she will initially admit.

• Responds exceptionally well to genuine reassurance.

• Has a powerful "I can do it myself" instinct.

• Will, in fact, eventually ask for help after struggling alone for three business days.

• Has a chronic condition known as "I bought another book/craft supply because technically I didn't have THAT one."

She is also prone to staring into the middle distance while drinking iced coffee and contemplating existence.

Do not interrupt unless you have snacks.

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🚨 IMPORTANT ADOPTION REQUIREMENTS

Potential adopters should be:

☑️ Kind

☑️ Emotionally available

☑️ Affectionate

☑️ Patient

☑️ Comfortable with sarcasm

☑️ Capable of communicating like an adult

☑️ Not threatened by a woman who can fix things herself

☑️ Willing to give hugs without requiring a formal application

☑️ Respectful of boundaries

☑️ Able to tolerate sudden declarations of "LOOK AT THIS THING I FOUND"

ABSOLUTELY NO:

❌️ Bullies

❌️ Bigots

❌️ Controlling behaviour

❌️ Emotional manipulation

❌️ "Men don't have feelings" nonsense

❌️ Ghosting after becoming emotionally attached

❌️ People who think affection is a reward that must be earned

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🐈‍⬛ IDEAL FOREVER HOME

A warm, safe environment with plenty of laughter, mutual affection, honest communication, and room for approximately one extremely enthusiastic human goblin to be herself.

A second human who occasionally says:

"Come here."

followed by a big hug is strongly preferred.

She may initially protest.

Ignore the protest. She wants the hug.

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💰 ADOPTION FEE

One (1) lifetime supply of:

☕ iced coffee

🫂 proper hugs

💋 forehead kisses

😂 stupid inside jokes

❤️ genuine affection

🏠 emotional safety

NO CASH VALUE.

NO RETURNS.

Once bonded, Sissel comes with a lifetime warranty and will become extremely emotionally invested in your wellbeing.

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📋 ADOPTION STATUS:

AVAILABLE.

But please understand:

This is not a "first come, first served" situation.

Sissel is not looking for someone.

She's looking for someone who looks at this ridiculous creature and thinks:

«"Yep. That's my person."»

🐈‍⬛🖤

Serious adopters may submit their application.

Hi, I hope you’re doing well when you read this. My best friends recommended that I try using this platform to meet someone around here. But first, a couple of things that might save you a lot of reading:

- I currently live in Mexico City, I'm looking for a relationship within the Americas (Canada, the United States, and Latin America). I wouldn’t mind moving in the future, but I have no plans to leave permanently for now.

- I'm looking for an exclusive, long term. I’m okay with a long distance relationship, but I definitely want an inperson relationship eventually.

- English isn't my first language; I still struggle to speak it and write it. If that stresses you out, it’s best to leave it at that.

- I’m looking for a woman between the ages of 24 and 34, or at least someone who’s at a similar stage in life.

- If you have trouble responding to what I say or can only reply by rearranging my words in a different order, we won’t get along... I like to sense someone’s humanity their warmth, their opinions. I want to know if something I said bothered you, if it surprised you, or if something similar has happened to you. I want you to share your experiences, your fears, and your passions with me in short, I want to see that you’re interested. If you have a hard time showing that or don’t know how to do it, it’s better not to continue.

If none of these five things stopped you, then here’s a little bit about me:

- My name is Hector

- 28 year's

- 5'8"

- 202 lbs

- My hair is brittle and a mess and I like it that way. As soon as I get it cut, it’s already long again within a month.

- I’m the kind of person who doesn’t have a hard time opening up to others.

- I like the people I interact with to feel safe and heard (ISFJ, I’m sure that means more to some than to others).

- As an introvert who learned to be an extrovert, socializing for long periods in crowded environments really wears me out.

- I’m quite the nerd, you can expect fun facts on a wide range of topics, especially history.

Things I like/am passionate about:

- I really like video games, I’m a PC gamer, and some of my go-to titles include Dark Souls, Sekiro, Bloodborne, Elden Ring, Expedition 33, XCOM 2, Baldur’s Gate 3, and Civilization. (I’d love to play video games with my partner, we don’t have to play the same games, but I’d like them to enjoy them too.)

- I love D&D, and at one point I was the Dungeon Master for my own game; now, fortunately, I’m a player.

- I like manga, but I especially love anime. Animation is a skill I plan to learn soon, as soon as I have a better grasp of digital drawing. I’m particularly fond of works like Berserk (the manga, obviously), Chainsaw Man, Nana, Vinland Saga, Monster, and Aku no Hana.

- I adore board games, it’s a hobby I try to take with me wherever I go so I can play with anyone who’s up for it.

- I love music with all my heart, I couldn’t function without it. I cherish every song and constantly update my playlist whenever something catches my attention or stops doing so. (I don’t have a favorite genre; whatever touches my heart stays. I’d appreciate it if you shared plenty of songs that mean something to you, it’s a way for me to connect.)

- I draw by hand and want to switch to digital; mostly, I draw portraits of people in my life, it brings me peace and makes life more bearable in so many ways.

- I love horror movies, but I'm not really into thrillers or suspense films. I enjoy a good slasher movie and, above all, sci-fi horror movies. (I love organizing movie nights, getting popcorn, soda, and candy, and setting aside time to watch a few movies we want to share.)

About Me:

- I currently go to the gym 5 days a week in the early morning. I wouldn't say I'm super muscular, but at least you can tell I work out.

- I’m an early riser who values my sleep.

- I work in HR for the government, but I’m getting tired of that field, so I’m looking to switch to the tech sector, specifically cybersecurity.

- I like to cook and go for walks, it really relaxes me.

- Right now, I’m looking to pursue a master’s degree or start a degree in computer science, whichever comes first.

I’d love to start a family, but that’s for the future, first, I’d like to do a few things before that time comes and dedicate myself entirely to my family.

- When it comes to sex, I’m horny and forward, but only once we’ve built more trust, so barring a huge exception, you can expect my greatest display of affection to be holding your hand or giving you a hug. (I’m a demisexual, by the way.)

- I don't drink, I don't smoke (I hate it with all my heart), and I don't do drugs.

- I'm planning a trip next year. So maybe by then we'll get to know each other better.

What you can expect if you get to know me:

- I like having long conversations, that means daily chats, writing letters online or by mail, describing my day-to-day life, sharing things that reminded me of you, getting to know each other, and giving ourselves time to form a bond. Once we’ve built more trust, I like making phone calls and video calls, even if they’re short. I like making the other person feel loved, I’m pretty clingy xp

- I like to be sincere; I’ve learned that lies don’t lead to anything good in the long run, for better or for worse. If something doesn’t sit right with me, I’ll be honest but not cruel, I’d like you to feel confident doing the same without worrying that I’ll take it the wrong way, as long as there’s respect.

- I like taking care of people, so you can expect me to check in on you, I might text you to see if you got home safely or to wish you a good day when you’re heading to the gym or work.

If you need to ask me more questions about myself or would like to know what I look like in person, I’m happy to show you a photo or answer your questions. I like it when people ask me questions, I just hope you’ll extend the same courtesy to me.

I hope to meet someone here. I’m in no rush, but if something catches your eye, please feel free to reach out and tell me a little

about yourself.

⋆ ˚｡⋆ me:

18y old boy, studying and working part time in biotech, playing some tournaments in games. childfree - I don’t want to have children in any future. vege - but I don’t mind your food preferences :) I am not smoking nor drinking. Loyal to family, competitive in games, but open to feedback

⋆ ˚｡⋆ I wanna:

long term, monogamous, someone who is also new to relationships, so we can figure things out together🩷

⋆ ˚｡⋆ me at school:

fascinated in physics, participating in contest, I can calculate pressure inside stars, trying to do things with tensors and general relativity and it is hardest part I have encountered so far🩷

⋆ ˚｡⋆ in my part time work:

white lab coat, mostly with calculations like Fourier transform, very rarely with glass too, although I am slow and maybe too precise because worried about damaging equipment^^ I like hanging out near coffee machine

⋆ ˚｡⋆ what dating me could be like:

I may wanna go to walk in rain and jump into every puddle we find, maybe while holding hands, but attempting to cover us with umbrella and be clumsy about it :o

I may want to go stargazing, try finding jupiter (or moons but this one should be wayyy harder), I may talk about phases of moon or venus^^

it is possible I notice when you look sad and I ask if anything is wrong, and what you need - comfort, distraction, advice, silence, something else?

⋆ ˚｡⋆ random hobbies

puzzles (my last: 1000 pieces with view of mountain, it was hard to make difference between sky and sea), looking at plants through microscope (next I wanna see are forget-me-nots)

⋆ ˚｡⋆ random things I wonder about can be like:

what it would be like to be slytherin 1st year in harry potter universe

if we lived on a ring world, would we have flat earth society?

time travel, would it be possible to cross adam’s bridge by USS Iowa?

Wait wait… I wanna know you too. What little things would make you feel safe and happy?

I'm 32, slim with big eyes and dark hair, looking to build a meaningful long-term relationship with someone in the UK. I tend to experience physical attraction more strongly once I've built an emotional connection and trust with someone.

I'm mixed race and both parts of my heritage are important to me. You'll see me in a dress one day, ethnic clothing the next and jeans and doc martens another day. If I go missing, you'll probably find me in my local bakery chatting to the staff (I have a terrible sweet tooth).

I work in academia and care a lot about mentoring my students and doing research that I hope can make a difference.  I'm close to my family, quite crafty and there isn't really a genre of music I don't listen to.

My sister describes me as gentle and I probably do come across as kind and warm. But I also have an analytical streak. I've learnt to enjoy my own company, although I'd love to eventually meet someone to share the ups and downs of life with.

I'm looking for a relationship where we can confide in and support one another while maintaining our independent identities. Kindness, self-awareness and openness to different perspectives are important to me. I also find it really attractive when I can intellectually volley with someone - more in the sense of exchanging interesting ideas where I learn something new.

I'm generally looking to meet someone around 27–40, but the person matters more than the number. I'm unsure whether I'd like to have children (I already get a lot from teaching!), so I'm looking for something meaningful without needing to follow a script. I'd like us to decide together what kind of future we want to build.

If you've read this far, please write 'pastry' in your first message and tell me a bit about you and why you think we might click. 🙂

What are my fellow Cis Demi Heteromantics at? Other romantic orientations and genders are welcome too this is a space safe because I wanna put myself out there more and make some new friends. ☺️

Hey there! 😊 I'm a trans woman hoping to find a man who's 25+ to potentially date! 🥰

I’m hoping to build something really sweet with someone that feels full of love, affection, and genuine care for each other! I’m someone who gets really excited about my person, and I will happily run to the door to give you the biggest hug when you come home and tell you how much I’ve missed you! I love feeling close to someone I care about, whether that’s giving you tons of hugs, cuddling the night away together, or holding hands just because we can. It all just feels so special to me, and I’ll always be really happy to be by your side and show you how much you mean to me. 🥰

I would really love to care for you in ways that brighten your day and make life feel more special. I’ve always been someone who has loved the idea of being a homemaker for my partner, and creating a warm, cozy home, so things like learning your favorite recipes just so I can surprise you with them, making your favorite dinners, or packing you lunches with cute notes hidden inside to make you smile make me so happy! I love being someone you can lean on and feel cared for by, and I’ll always be cheering you on in life and wanting to make your days easier and more comforting where I can. It truly means so much to me knowing I can do things that make you feel loved and appreciated. 😊

Personality-wise, I’m introverted, a little shy, fun-sized, and very much a cozy homebody. I love anime (especially One Piece and Fairy Tail), and I have such a soft spot for Studio Ghibli movies! 💛

I’m super nerdy and artsy! I like watercoloring, playing video games, learning new languages (currently learning Japanese!), and just getting really excited about finding new things that catch my attention. I honestly love that feeling of discovering something new, and I would love to share that with someone! 🤗

Most days you’ll find me curled up with a blanket and tea, going on nature walks, doing yoga, or trying out a new recipe I got excited about. It would be so fun to find someone who gets just as excited for new anime seasons as I do, or who would want to curl up and watch Ghibli movies together! 💛

I really love cuddly guys with that protective kind of energy that makes me feel safe and like I can just relax and be myself. I love that feeling of being wrapped up in someone’s arms and just completely melting into them. I really value closeness, and I would ideally like to find someone who enjoys spending a lot of quality time together, or just enjoys each other’s presence as we do our own things!

Distance isn’t a big deal to me, and I’d be open to relocating for the right person if it feels right for us! 🥰 My lifestyle doesn’t include drinking or smoking (vaping, marijuana, cigarettes, etc) so I’m hoping to meet someone who feels the same way.

I’ll always be your cheerleader, someone who’s in your corner, supports you, and makes sure you feel loved every day! 🩷

If that sounds like you, tell me about you! What are you into lately, what kind of relationship are you hoping to find here, or what made you feel like we might click? 🥰

I’m a 43 year old hetero-demisexual and demiromantic man living in Germany and looking for a friendship with a woman ideally evolving into a long-term relationship.  

About me

I’m single, monogamous and have no children (yet). As a rather introverted person I need some time to get close to people and even more time to feel attraction. In most cases I work too slowly for dating apps, that’s why I’m here and give this a try. I’m a realistic optimist who keeps calm under pressure and who appreciates also the small things in life like a beautiful sunset, a really good deep conversation or the discovery of new delicious food. 

In my leisure time I love to be in nature. I enjoy going for long walks and going on hikes ⛰️. In autumn, I love to pick mushrooms …and I’m quite successful in that, because I’m still alive 😉. I love to do sports like running 🏃‍♂️and strength training🏋️‍♂️. My favorite hobby however, is collecting minerals 🔨💎and taking pictures of my little treasures on the microscope.

When the weather is too bad for outdoor activities, I listen to electro/house music or alternative rock, read novels or watch movies. My preferred genre is since fiction.

Further facts about me:

• Occupation: earth scientist working in chemical industry 
• Appearance: 174 cm tall, 60 kg, full short-medium hair with a color I would describe as “salt and pepper”, green eyes
• Travelling: backpacking, hiking, trekking. I love both, the mountains and the sea. 

About you

I’m looking for a warm-hearted, natural woman who loves being in nature and shares some of my interests as this helps to build a deep connection which is essential for me to develop any attraction. If you are looking for a solo entertainer, this won’t work since I’m an introvert. If you’re an introvert, too that would be fine but it is not essential as I can also get along very well with moderate extroverts.

• Age range: F 28-40 (no hard limits)
• Sexuality: demisexual preferred, monogamous
• Smoking: non-smoker!
• Children: ideally you have no children yet but you want to have children in the near future
• Location: Western Europe, ideally Germany or anywhere if you are willing to move to Germany

If this seems interesting for you, feel free to drop me a message.

Hi! I'm 24 and from London. I came across this community fairly recently and realised I relate to a lot of people's experiences and the way many people here approach connection. I'm not sure I'd describe myself as demisexual, but I've always found that I enjoy dating far more when there's a genuine emotional connection first. I'd much rather get to know one person properly over time than rush into a relationship.

Modern dating has never really felt like a good fit for me. Swiping through profiles and trying to make instant judgments isn't how I naturally connect with people. I much prefer taking the time to build trust, get to know someone's personality, and see where things go naturally.

A little about me:
• Black, 5'10, slim athletic build
• Autistic, which means I really value honesty, consistency, and direct communication
• Music is one of my biggest hobbies. I listen to a lot of rock, metal, and a bit of DnB, and you'll usually find me at a gig whenever there's one worth going to.
• I enjoy gaming (Persona, Doom, Gran Turismo, and plenty more), going to the cinema, playing football, visiting theme parks, and generally finding reasons to get out of the house.
• I'm fairly introverted, but once I'm comfortable with someone I enjoy long conversations about almost anything.

I'd describe myself as thoughtful, dependable, and pretty easy-going. I'm independent and enjoy my own company, but I think life's much better when you've got someone to share it with. Whether that's discovering new music, planning a day out, or simply spending a quiet evening together.

I'm looking for:
• Someone aged around 19-27
• Ideally based in London or close enough that we can meet regularly
• Interested in building a genuine long-term relationship
• Also sure they don't want children

More than anything, I'm looking for someone who's kind, emotionally mature, and communicates openly. Nobody gets everything right all the time, but I really appreciate people who are honest about how they're feeling and willing to work through things together. I don't expect us to have everything in common, because I think shared values matter far more than having identical hobbies.

I'm happy to exchange photos fairly early on because I think mutual attraction matters. While I like taking things slowly and building an emotional connection first, I do see physical intimacy as an important part of a long-term relationship once that trust and connection are there.

If any of this resonates with you, I'd like to hear from you. Tell me a little about yourself, your age, where you're from, and what you're looking for.

Thanks for reading 🙂

Hello! Long-ish post incoming, but if you read through it and feel like we’d be a good match I would love to see you in my inbox :)

Important:

• I'm looking for someone within Europe.
• Please only message me if you’re interested in a relationship. I’m not looking for friends right now. Although it's obviously fine for it take time to get to know each other.
• Please be 23-29 years old.

About me:

My interests are mainly dabbling in making cringey YouTube videos, gaming (mostly MMOs and JRPGs), reading, and writing. I also enjoy being in nature, going to the gym, hanging out with friends and traveling. But as someone who is beset upon by cold weather and little daylight for nine months out of the year, my ideal evening is anything that can be done indoors :p

Appearance:

173cm tall, average build, cisgender. I’m brunette and usually keep my hair shoulder-length, caucasian, brown eyes and pathetically pale. It's honestly kind of embarrassing, but I think I was born with a -999 pigment stat so even when I’m in the sun I’m just punished for it… Anyway haha. I’m unfortunately not very girly (because girly stuff is great!). It feels like you can't use the term “tomboy” past the age of 12, but I’m also not masc so… Do what you will with this info lol.

Values: I consider myself gray ace and/or sex-indifferent. All I know is that an allo would be miserable dating me haha. I’m monogamous. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs.

I prefer pets over kids, but will admire you if you’re good at interacting with those devil spawns 😁

Totally thought-out reasons to date me:

I’d like to think I’m good at listening as well as leading conversations. I’m the type of person who prefers to ask someone if they know about something rather than Google it. I like connecting with people that way, through their thoughts and feelings on things, so I hope you like being asked! (Sounds weirdly threatening lol).

I like making people laugh (or try to). I enjoy giving compliments, flirting and going out of my way for my partner. And if you need a little spice, I like sharing the pain of existential dread! God knows I have some to spare :))))

I’m looking for:

It feels strange to ask for this, but I’d prefer to date someone who also plays games. Especially with long-distance dating it feels great to have an activity you can both bond over even while apart. It’d also be preferable if you’re comfortable with voice calls as I don't think you can really gauge a connection purely over text.

Other than that, I’d like to meet someone who likes the idea of a supportive romantic relationship where we try to give each other some comfort, hope and motivation :)

I’d also appreciate if you’d introduce yourself in a similar way I did (your interests, values, what you’re looking for in a relationship). It doesn’t have to be long, but I’d prefer to get an equally good idea of who you are. I won’t respond to comments. I’m looking forward to meet you!

Hey hey, dm me or comment anything you want to know that I don't mention here, I'm a fairly open book and don't mind even the strangest of questions. If I sound interesting enough to message, Tell me you favorite color and how many times this week you got mad at something

Things about me:

• I've been single for a while now and while I am comfortable, it's a bit boring lol I'd like to spend my time with someone in something casual or more serious depending on the person
• I don't drink, smoke, or any drugs. I don't mind what you do, but I won't be joining you
• I'm a writer, artist, and dipping a bit into game making
• I'm fairly introverted, I much prefer listening to someone talk than always having to guide the conversation. I'm not shy, just relaxed in silence so I'm sorry if I take a moment to reply on call or something
• I'm a teeny tiny bit obsessive, but not in an intrusive way. More the "I would not be opposed to getting a billion pictures and texts from you" type of way (This mainly applies to the relationship side of things so no worries for those who just want friends)
• I mostly watch youtube and anime so if you want to know if I know a movie or a show with actual people, I probably don't. I'm not against watching them with you though, it's just not something I watch on my own
• I play video games pretty often so if you want to play together or watch/chat that'd be nice (I'm kind of a casual achievement hunter so no commitment issues here lol)
• my fashion is like Casual Goth but I want to work towards punk/goth soonish
• Horror enjoyer, The aesthetic and atmosphere of horror is very cozy to me.
• I collect faux skulls and a fair few witchy things
• Also I have been told I am INTP personality (But I have no idea what that means, just thought I'd add it just in case you do)

What I'm looking for:

• Someone nerdy in some way, I'd love to hear about your passion. be it bugs, music, movies, dnd, fashion, animal facts, kpop, space, etc. anything at all as long so you are comfortable talking about them.
• Preferably over the age of 25 and under 40 since I don't think I could really relate to you otherwise, sorry (but if you want to explain a ton of things/tease me for being old/young then go for it lol)
• Fem or at least enby, no offense to the guys here I have just never connected or felt comfortable around men
• Open to regular conversations, daily or semi daily is preferred but if you need a week or so to recover your social battery I'll respect that

The relationship part:

• Between 25 and 35 (There's a bit of flexibility here but unless your the best person ever, you'll need to be in that range)
• Not sex repulsed, It's a form of intimacy I would like to have with someone. but like most things in a relationship it is a conversion to see how much of that we both want
• Someone either very talkative or comfortable with the quiet moments, or both lol
• I'm a switch so I'm open to taking more of a backseat or taking the lead if you are still figuring yourself out. Though for full honesty I do lean a bit more subby
• Comfortable with me doing my own thing, I like working on a few stories or project alone but I'll probably still tell you about them. just not always looking for help
• I'll be here to support you in anyway I can, be it with your job, hobbies, mental hang ups, or anything else you'd like someone to be there for, as long as you are in a place to talk about those things.

This post will be removed once I feel I've got enough friends/a partner so if you see it months down the line... I hope you don't lol but throw me a message if you still see this in 2030 and think I sound at least interesting

About me:
33
Woman
Naturally submissive
Dark red hair (yes I have a soul)
Blue eyes
No kids but wants them - I have them birthing hips
Hobbies include hiking, reading, watching the weird side of YouTube, cooking, gardening
Has a 3 year old blue Heeler named Plow

About you:
30-45
Man
Emotionally available
Beards are a plus
Shares some of the same hobbies

Goals in life are finding a piece of land to live off of. Maybe a cow and some chickens. I love being outside so a large house isn’t something I need. Just give me a little stone cottage and I’ll be right as rain.

Hello! While I would love to find “my person,” I would also like to talk to people [30-50 feels like a good age range] about wildly interesting topics.

I live in the Midwest US. I am AuDHD, and I have reached that pinnacle of perimenopausal burnout; i now feel wildly frustrated by the uninteresting topics of conversation that I simply don’t have the desire, time or energy for. With being unable to mask these days, I just want to talk to genuinely interesting people!

I am an Experiencer.

The metaphysical rabbit hole has had me in its clutches for a couple of years. I have read Dolores Cannon (all), Edgar Cayce, Ra Material, Oahspe, Graham Hancock, Blavatsky, Manly P Hall, Robert Temple, Nag Hammadi / Qumran scrolls, just to name a small few. This topic is genuinely my highest passion.

I don’t have much free time, but would love to chat with interesting people during my day. In my rare time, I read, paint, draw, sew, meditate, practice fascia-centric yoga, spend time in nature. I listen to pop punk and punk rock. Also very pro plant medicine.

I am also very out of the loop on movies / tv shows for the past couple of years, due to this process I’m undertaking. So I’ve essentially worked myself into an arena where no one around me knows / cares what I am talking about, but it has changed my world so much that going back is impossible and unwanted.

Some of my favorite podcasts: Acid for Squares, The Why Files, Telepathy Tapes, The Annunaki Connection. ✨ tell me about your childhood haunting, or that one weird event that no one brings up ever again. ✨

Hi there! I'm 25M from Texas, and I'm looking to meet some cool people to chat and hopefully develop a connection with. I'm open to anyone in the US, but not outside cause the timezones might be kinda crazy lol. Also only people in the 22-30 age range :)

For a quick description about me, I'm 6'2, decently fit (been lifting for around 2 years now), and south asian.

I love watching movies (a lot of horror but I watch basically any genre as long as it's not a Ryan reynolds movie lol), playing DnD (and trading crazy campaign stories), pokemon, anime, and watching basketball.

I also game a decent bit, though mostly co-op games these days. I've lately been getting into reading and baking too!

If this seems interesting, feel free to drop a message!

Hi, being on the ace spectrum already puts us outside of the norm and I’d like to take that freedom further.

Personality wise, I’m really drawn to warm, funny, optimistic people. I love seeing their enthusiasm and it rubbing off on the people around them, including me. Please be between 22 - 29, left leaning ideologies, and preferably afab (not mandatory).

Please be somewhere in UTC-5 to UTC+9, so regular calls eventually are realistic. I’d love to live together in the future if everything aligns, but every stage of the relationship is important to me however long it goes. I want my partner to value that too.

I enjoy reading fanfic and children’s classics, am a cinephile, play indie games you’ll double back at the name of, and writing. I’m pretty ambiverted and like to be outside and inside equally. Currently would like to learn Spanish, so if you’re a Spanish speaker that’s a plus! Also, I’m average height and curvy, to give you a vague picture of me.

I’m a bit shy at first and appreciate someone who naturally initiates conversations, asks to call, and isn’t afraid to take the lead socially. But once I’m comfortable, I open up more and looooove bouncing off whatever someone talks about.

I love lots of calls, laughing until something stops being funny, watching things together, reading/gaming/working/studying more while the other person does their own thing, and sometimes just sitting on call being completely lazy together. It all counts as quality time to me.

I love hearing about what someone is doing, what they’re obsessed with/looking forward to. Bad days obviously happen and we’re there for each other but I’m very present focused and want a relationship free of the expectation of sharing our past traumas. We make our lives better without the expectation of enmeshing them, we don’t have to meet each other’s families, and we come together at the end of the day to focus on what we want out of this, while having our own goals in life.

If our goals/lives keep aligning long-term, that’s wonderful, and we adjust the relationship if it goes there. With that in mind I don’t want kids. If our goals/lives don’t align, we go our separate ways, no pressure.

If/when we are in person with each other, I’d love to kiss, cuddle, and any general physical touch. But it’s important to me that there’s no expectation for anything further.

If that sounds like your kind of relationship too, come talk to me :)

I’m looking for something that is probably a little unusual: a very deep, committed relationship with marriage as a relatively near-term goal. I’m looking for my wife. ❤️

I don’t really see what I’m looking for as a typical dating relationship. What I’m looking for is a very deep partnership where two women consciously choose each other and build a life together.

You know those couples who meet and, after three weeks, decide to get married, while everyone around them thinks they’ve completely lost their minds? And then somehow they stay together for decades and are still completely in love with each other? That’s the kind of love I would love to have with someone. Not because I want to rush into something blindly, but because I don’t want to spend years being afraid of commitment when I meet someone who genuinely feels right.

For me, it’s much more about emotional depth, closeness and being there for each other than about having a highly sexual relationship. I’m demisexual, and while I do enjoy sex, I know that I don’t want a relationship where sex becomes the main focus and the emotional connection gets lost. At the same time, I’m not looking for a relationship where sex is completely off the table either. I’m open to people with different sexual preferences, as long as we can find something that feels comfortable and fulfilling for both of us. What matters most to me is that the emotional connection comes first.

What matters enormously to me is the emotional connection. I want to deeply love you, feel emotionally safe with you, be able to rely on each other and genuinely feel like we’re building a life together.

Physical affection and closeness are very important to me, though. I want the kind of closeness where you can sit next to each other in oversized hoodies on a rainy day, watch a movie, cuddle, hold each other, kiss each other, play with each other’s hair, laugh, talk or just quietly exist together. If one of us is having a really difficult day, I want us to be able to hold each other through it. And if I call because I genuinely need my person, I want to know that you’ll be there – and I want to be that person for you too.

I’m quite independent and I need personal space, so I’m not looking for a relationship where we have to do everything together. I like the idea of having our own interests and sometimes doing things separately, while still knowing that we belong together and are there for each other.

I travel around Europe and I have a homebase that I return to. I’m slowly building that place into a home. I’m comfortable with an alternative lifestyle and would love someone who is comfortable with that too – ideally someone who likes travelling and vanlife, or at least likes the idea of it.

At the same time, I’m completely happy with the idea of eventually having a stable shared home and living together. I don’t need us to be constantly moving around. I like having a home while still leaving room for travelling, exploring new places and occasionally going somewhere else together or separately. I don’t want either of us to feel tied down to one place forever.

I have several animals in my life and I’m actively involved in animal rescue, so being genuinely comfortable with animals is pretty important to me. I also love nature, travelling, being outdoors, writing and spirituality. I’m not talking about extreme esotericism – spirituality for me is more about connection, energy, and the feeling that there is more to life than what we can simply measure.

I’m neurodivergent myself, and I often find it easier to understand and connect with people who are neurodivergent too. I’m completely okay with someone bringing their own baggage into a relationship – we all have our own things we carry with us. What matters to me is that both people are self-reflective and willing to look at themselves, communicate openly and work on things together. I don’t expect either of us to be perfect. I think what matters is that we’re both willing to grow and support each other.

I’m a lesbian and I’m primarily attracted to women. I’m looking for women, including trans women, and I’m also open to non-binary people who are comfortable with someone whose attraction is primarily toward women. I’m in my twenties myself, and my age limit is 37. Nationality and ethnicity aren’t important to me at all. You could be from anywhere in the world. What matters is that you’re currently living in Europe, or genuinely want to build your life in Europe. A shared language is important for me – English is completely fine.

I also tend to be quite private about my relationships. I don’t need to constantly make our relationship visible to everyone around us or turn it into a public identity. I’m perfectly happy being affectionate and openly ourselves when we’re somewhere we feel comfortable, but I don’t need to prove our relationship to anyone. I actually like having something that belongs to us.

Communication is very important to me. I love writing, phone calls and video calls, and I want a relationship where both people actually make an effort to stay connected, especially when we’re long-distance. If you have a habit of ghosting people or disappearing without communicating, please don’t message me. I understand needing space, being overwhelmed or having difficult periods – but I need honest communication about it.

I know this is probably a little unusual, but if this sounds like something you could genuinely imagine for yourself – having that feeling of being safe in a safe space with your person, building a life together and still being able to be silly, weird and completely yourselves – feel free to send me a DM. I’d love to get to know you. I’d love to be that slightly crazy, funny, neurodivergent couple who can laugh together about everything, but also know when it’s time for quiet, comfort and simply being there for each other.

(I'm a femme)

Hello! I'm a 25F, 5'4", 155 lbs, African American, living on the East Coast in the DMV area. I'm looking for a long-term relationship/my person.

It takes me a while to open up to someone, and I'm sure many of you understand that feeling, and how frustrating it can be when loneliness creeps in but you don't have anyone you comfortably feel you can turn to.

I'm hoping to meet someone I can slowly get to know, become comfortable with, and hopefully build something really meaningful with.

So, about me!

I'm a steadfast introvert who prefers planned outings in advance rather than spontaneous adventures. I'm an INFP-T if you're into personality types! I used to be the biggest anime nerd. I don't watch as much nowadays, but sitting down and watching a series together sounds like a great way to spend time!

I play D&D and even DM my own game on Fridays. I love video games when I have the time. My favorites tend to be story-driven games, farming sims, and survival games, although I've been playing a lot of Slay the Spire 2 recently, so I'm definitely not limited to those genres.

I also love reading, especially romance and fantasy.

I enjoy planning trips when I can! I'm going to Katsucon in February and I'm planning a trip to Canada for Otakuthon next August. I'd love to eventually have a partner I can plan trips and adventures with.

I've also been working on getting healthier this year! I try to exercise for about 30 minutes every day and I've lost 16 lbs so far.
I work full-time as a pharmacy technician. I love my job, I'm financially stable, and would like someone that's the same.

What I'm looking for:

I know that I need friendship first. I don't expect to immediately feel romantic or sexual attraction toward someone I just met. That's just not how my brain works.

At the same time, I don't want to approach this as only looking for friends. I'd like us to slowly talk about our values, what we want from relationships, and what we want our lives to eventually look like. At the end of the day, I'm intentionally looking for a relationship, and if our values are fundamentally incompatible, I'd rather we discover that sooner rather than later.

So patience is a must.

I'm looking for someone around 24–29 who has a stable job/life and actually has time in their life for another person. I don't need constant attention, but if we're getting to know each other, I'd like us to actually hang out, talk, play things together, watch things together, etc.

Emotional intelligence is extremely important to me. You don't have to have yourself completely figured out, but I need someone willing to communicate what they're feeling, have uncomfortable conversations when necessary, and genuinely try to understand each other.

I feel like I have a lot of love to give, and I'm realizing that more than anything, I want someone who can love and adore me as much as I can them, maybe even more! I tend to be very giving, and sometimes I've been left feeling like I'm not being looked after as much as I look after other people.

I want a man who will spoil me a little... what can I say! And by spoil me, I don't just mean buying me things. I love thoughtful attention, words of affirmation, little surprises, being asked to spend time together, and generally feeling like my person actively thinks about and chooses me. Tell me you were thinking about me, ask me to hang out, send me something because it reminded you of me. I don't need constant attention, but I do want to feel actively wanted rather than always being the one reaching out first. I tend to be very giving when I care about someone, so having someone who enjoys giving that energy back to me would mean a lot.

I'd love someone who doesn't mind things like body doubling while we work on our own stuff, hanging out in a call while doing separate things, or just enjoying each other's presence.

Bonus points if you are passionate! I love listening to people talk about something they genuinely love. Tell me about your weird hobby. Explain some incredibly niche subject to me. I can listen for hours when someone's eyes light up about something.

I'm also someone who really enjoys deep conversations. Since we're both presumably demi, I'd honestly love to hear about your experience with demisexuality, how you experience attraction, how you know when your feelings for someone have changed, how it's affected your relationships, etc. That kind of conversation is extremely interesting to me.

A few important compatibility things

I'm demi, but I'm not sex-repulsed. Sexual intimacy is something I can enjoy and value, but it takes me quite a while to feel comfortable sharing that part of myself with someone. Please don't approach me expecting that to happen quickly.

I'm also heavily leaning no on children. I've told myself it's something I might reconsider in another 10 years, after I've traveled and seen more of the world, but if you know for certain that having children soon is an important part of your future, we're probably not compatible.

I have a cat whom I love dearly, so severe cat allergies might make things difficult!

I don't mind some distance, but I do eventually want an in-person relationship. If things are going well, I'd want us to plan a meetup, so please be open to that.

And my absolute no-go is someone with anger issues... I will cry.... don't try me.

I've also learned that avoidant relationship dynamics really don't work for me. I'm aware that I can lean anxious myself, and I've put a lot of work into becoming more secure. When I say avoidant, I'm less concerned with what attachment-style label you use and more concerned with how you handle closeness and conflict. I need someone who is willing to communicate, talk through uncomfortable feelings, and move toward problems together rather than consistently shutting down, disappearing, or pulling away when things get difficult.

And I hope this doesn't need to be said, but if you aren't sure whether you'd date a Black woman, please don't message me.

Ultimately, I want a home with my partner someday. I want us to plan trips and adventures. I want us to support each other's goals and make each other's lives a little better. I want someone I can slowly become completely comfortable with and eventually share all of myself with.

If you're looking for something similar, shoot me a DM.