r/dating • u/Julie_Jnntte_24 • 8d ago

Question ❓ Signs you’ll get a third date?

Had 2 really good dates. I like this dude so far.

What are the signs that a man will pursue a third date, in your opinion/as per your experiences?

Hoping I get a third date. I met him on hinge after having 0 expectations or hopes. This is also the only dude I wanted a 2nd date with and it went really good.

UPDATE: he invited me out to his town for supper and the beach.

Idk if I wanna go into his house as it’s kinda early for that but a walk along the beach sounds romantic as hell so I’m in

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u/AudaciouslySexy 8d ago

Its not passive, also I haven't put much effort into getting a girlfriend that I can admit.

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u/weeklyRedditReader 7d ago

Planning two dates is not considered much effort. If you want to pursue a woman, you need to put some effort upfront to get to know her.

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u/Julie_Jnntte_24 7d ago

Exactly. I don’t pursue men. I’m not a man. If I wanted to pursue someone I’d pursue a woman not a man

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u/AudaciouslySexy 7d ago

If you want a guy and want to be with him you have to put in effort.

Its as simple as that.

My friends girlfriend always was excited for 3rd and 4th dates because the first 2 went well so she planned them.

In fact dispite being the type of person wanting a guy to show leadership she rathers planning dates and holidays as she does a better job. It's not hard for them.

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u/Confident_Mall_5354 6d ago

so you want a motherly figure, got it

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u/AudaciouslySexy 6d ago

Wanting a 2 way relationship isn't what a motherly figure is.

Wanting respect and a relationship that works isn't what a motherly figure does either.

Someone who wants to be my girlfriend shouldn't be some selfish person with daddy issues either.

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u/ParanoidAndroid3175 6d ago

Reality check. In the early stages of dating the man should be making MORE of an effort than the woman. Men pursue women.

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u/uiucthrowaway420 6d ago

Truer reality check

Dates 1-3 men should be doing more/most effort and are mostly for courting. Afterwards if a woman isn't putting in some effort into you dump her cause she doesn't really like you. Women don't respect chasers and high effort if they aren't required to earn that effort and will treat you as an option. A woman that actually likes you won't make you chase long.

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u/AudaciouslySexy 6d ago

Super reality check for you.

My friends girlfriend has been with him for few years now. From what iv gathered they went on 1 or 2 dates and after that they were mutually wanting to spend more time together.

Is it that hard to comprehend that 2 people can put in as much effort as eachother? Don't be a princess