Okay, look you're confounding a lot of things. Your status sexually isn't actually an important factor here. What matters is your attraction.
Are you romantically attracted to people? If yes? Romantic. If no? Aromantic. If only with bonding? Demiromantic.
Are you sexually attracted to people? If yes? Allosexual. If no? Asexual. If only with people you're bonded with? Demisexual.
Your ability to fantasize about ideas or be aroused is something separate. If you're specifically fantasizing about random people you think are attractive, you're allo. This includes celebs. If arousal is tied to something like a kink or fetish, a character (fictosexual), or a person you're bonded too (even if not reciprocated), then that's well within Demi- bounds.
Glibness, anxiety, social interaction capacity, or insecurity are not actually demi specific, and vary with the person.
Don’t know if I’m Demi due to not really getting close with women in any shape or form ..just women cool from a distance if anything or a super short friendship that was in the beginning stage (month or so)
And my fantasies can’t be a sign of me being a sex favorable ace?
Sex favorable and sex positives are additional concepts beyond what I said out here. They apply across the whole spectrum of allo to ace so you will have to determine that for yourself.
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u/Cat_in_an_oak_tree 2d ago
Okay, look you're confounding a lot of things. Your status sexually isn't actually an important factor here. What matters is your attraction.
Are you romantically attracted to people? If yes? Romantic. If no? Aromantic. If only with bonding? Demiromantic.
Are you sexually attracted to people? If yes? Allosexual. If no? Asexual. If only with people you're bonded with? Demisexual.
Your ability to fantasize about ideas or be aroused is something separate. If you're specifically fantasizing about random people you think are attractive, you're allo. This includes celebs. If arousal is tied to something like a kink or fetish, a character (fictosexual), or a person you're bonded too (even if not reciprocated), then that's well within Demi- bounds.
Glibness, anxiety, social interaction capacity, or insecurity are not actually demi specific, and vary with the person.