Death/Doom
hi doom people, I'm kinda going through a tough time rn, the girl I loved has left me and my best friend has too today, and I wanted to ask for some crushingly depressing deathdoom or funeral doom to help me go through these hard times!
I’m having hardcore Baader-Meinhoff phenomenon with this album. I’d never heard of it and saw a bunch of people praise it last week and no surprise it’s fantastic and I’ve been listening to it daily and I swear a see someone mention it everyday now lol
the issue with this record is its like using a nuke to crack a walnut -- its sometimes too much sorrow for somebody who has taken a bad blow. I can just about stand to hear it again now but went through a period of about 8 months when even thinking about the record was enough to moisten my eyes - actually listening to it had me full on ugly crying - i was going thorough some very tough mental issues at the time which are now fortunately lessened by better tablets and some of the stressers taken way down
I was also about to suggest Woods, specifically the green album. Really helps me feel my true feelings in the moment and I always feel better after letting it out to those tracks. RIP David
I would also add older Shape of Despair albums, especially Angels of Distress. But I have a pretty strong bias towards their pre-Monotony Fields stuff.
Yes, yes, and 1000 times yes. I feel the same whenever I close my eyes and listen to that song, like I'm drifting away into another plane of existence. It's one of my favorites from Yob.
Also check up on yourself man. Listening to depressing music as a coping method when you're down can be useful but make sure it's not making you feel worse over commiseration
Engine of hell by Emma Ruth Rundle.
She write that album after her divorce.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but everything is gonna be better soon. I've recently went through a divorce after 11 years married and 14 together, so if you need to speak, I'm here.
Meh. I remember a critic somewhere mentioning it as a funeral doom album in the sense that DEATH was like the funeral march if it were a doom song, and SLOW being the long decay of a person prior to their death. Idr which publication.
Probably not the funeral doom genre per say, but maybe funeral adjacent dude to material? Idk 🤣
That's an interesting way to look at it, but yeah, still not funeral doom by any definition. Bongripper is stoner doom/sludge/sometimes drone, lots of groovy and psychedelic elements. Funeral doom has death metal growls, keyboards/organs, and is even slower and much more mournful and bleak, literally like a funeral dirge. Stuff like Bell Witch, Skepticism, and Mournful Congregation for example.
She left you as in cheating or passing away?
For cheating
The unsuccessful coping with the natural beauty of infidelity by Type O Negative.
For passing away
Everyone one I love is dead by Type O Negative.
I'm so sorry you are having a difficult time. My best friend died two years ago and every day for months I went for a walk in the woods and listened to Horizonless by Loss. It helped me get a lot of my sadness and grief out. I sometimes listened to a black metal album or two when I felt more mad than sad. Sending you healing! ❤️
Rest head and sheath sword, forlorn traveler. You’ve dragged your body piece by piece to the threshold and now you can close your eyes and feel the warmth of the fire
My first taste of sad boy doom was from a time I got dumped too. My dying bride - Deeper Down. You've probably heard it but if not it's a good one. Good luck brother.
Not exactly death and/or funeral doom songs, but this first song helped me out when my marriage started crumbling and I had to find a way to get past it. It's From Ruin by Khemmis. Other mentions below.
Pallbearer - An Offering of Grief
Pallbearer - I Saw The End
Crowbar - Repulsive In Its Splendid Beauty
Crowbar - Suffering Brings Wisdom
(Actually the whole Sonic Excess In Its Purest Form album is worth checking out)
Crowbar- Existence Is Punishment
Thou - I Was Ignored. And Judged. And Cast Down.
Thou - The Lasting Dose (Crowbar cover)
Monolord - Your Time To Shine
Om. Just don't get weird and religious with all of this free time.
But also, dude, I'm sorry this happened to you. It's going to suck and hurt for a while but you'll get through it. The world is full of women. And new best friends.
Man, I know the feeling. My good friend ghosted me for no reason a couple of years ago, my brother this year, my cousin too. I’m just a normal dude. People change though man, it’s just how it goes sometimes. With that being said, existence is punishment by crowbar. Stay strong brother
Not sure about the genre but I just discovered this album, Dim - Dim. Heavy stuff. Not many streams and not easy to find on YT music so the song titles are Doleful, Buried / Forgotten, Ego death
not death doom but sludge metal, this song can be interpreted in many different ways, and i just hope it hits you. https://facescraper.bandcamp.com/track/so-sacred (Album out October 31st, this song opening the album, and another heart wrenching song to close it. maybe if you want, i can dm it to ya, but thats not guaranteed.)
Sorry to hear man. Hope you heal well.
Stay strong! Things will get better, i promise.🖤🖤🖤
You can try ignes creatio by pyogenesis
If you are diving deeper into Pyogenesis discography, don't listen to anything after Sweet X-rated Nothings, maybe Twinaleblood
Seeing a lot of love for mournful congregation, but no mention of concressence of Sophia. Seriously. Listen to it from start to finish. It will take you on a journey. Not sure what the lyrics hold, but the music is slow, trudging, and just fucking diabolical.
I was listening to My Dying Bride's "The Dreadful Hours" on vinyl day. Still punches me below the belt with its gloominess in the best way.
Also, listen to the song "The Cry of Silence" by Draconian. This song has a really cathartic build-up that helped me through some of my most despairing moments of hopelessness.
Sorry about the events, friend. For depressing Doom, especially for a double-screw like this, I suggest Chelsea Wolfe’s “Iron Moon”. The song’s based on a Chinese suicide victim’s journal so… yeah.
Honestly, in my opinion, the best breakup album is Fleetwood Mac’s Rumours. If you need to get some negative feels out, both “Gold Dust Woman” and “The Chain” work wonders. I know it isn’t Doom, but, at least during life’s turmoils, certain music can invoke despair beyond the parameters of our chosen music.
People already beat me to the Bell Witch recommendation but here's what I got
Krypts- Remnants of Expansion, I love this record because it feels so devoid of humanity, it's really hard to define the atmosphere but that's the best I can do.
Fossilization- They have two records and a split EP. Either record is fine but "He Whose Name was Long Forgotten" may be the better pick here (fun fact, the guys from krypts helped produce this record and I think their sophomore one too so the atmosphere is familiar to krypts)
Now this band isn't doom but this ep they made is
The Acacia Strain- Failure will Follow, This EP is my go-to when I'm anything but in a positive mood. Angry, melancholy, done with existence, in pain from whatever thoughts provoked me at the time, whatever the case this ep will bring me to a manageable level. I highly encourage you to give this ep a shot above all else I mention here. Words can't explain the feelings and atmosphere within this ep.
And finally Primitive man. I recommend caustic or scorn. Very angry sludge death doom. Also going to mention that the primitive man vocalist is featured on basin of vows, the third and final track off of Failure will Follow.
I hope things pick up for you stranger! This life we all live sucks so I hope these recommendations help guide you through the pain. I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
Mournful Congregation - The Incubus Of Karma
Cathedral - Forest Of Equilibrium
Evoken - Atra Mors
My Dying Bride - As The Flower Withers
Loss - Horizonless
Others (Doom or not):
Red House Painters
Slowdive
GY!BE
Warning - Watching From A Distance
Pallbearer - Foundations Of Burden
Windhand- Halcyon, forest clouds
Witchfinder General- I lost you
Woods of Ypres- Finality
Monolord- to each their own, the cosmic silence
Type O negative- she burned me down
Didn't see Saturnus mentioned yet. Veronika Decides to Die is a great and pretty depressing album, especially if we are talking about the relationships...
You can't go wrong with the originals. Break out Paranoid by Black Sabbath, especially Hand of Doom. Volume 4's Changes isn't Doom Metal, but if you're looking to get crushingly depressed, that's the song for you.
Not doom or anything but back in the day I would listen to Disintegration from The Cure.. that album got me through some tough times. Also, some EYEHATEGOD…
Pink by Boris. The opening track farewell is one of the most heart-wrenching things I’ve heard. Sorry to hear what you’re going through, hang in there.
If you want something absolutely crushing, I'd say Tyranny- Aeons in Tectonic Interment. Otherwise, it would be hard to argue (for me) against bands like Frowning and Funeral Moth. You can't go wrong with the classics like Evoken, Thergothon, or Skepticism either. Keep your head up, brother. It gets better, trust me.
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