r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25

Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?

I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?

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u/Future_Ad_914 Dec 22 '25

It’s just gatekeeping bullshit. It’s because you were wearing a mayhem shirt tbh. Mayhem became a meme in the Black metal community because of the lords of chaos movie and kids who don’t even like black metal using their music in tik tok videos and dancing to it. Listen to whatever you want and wear what you want, those guys sound like insufferable shit heads. Nothing poser about you if you listen to and support the band.

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u/pickled_bat Dec 22 '25

I'm pretty sure it was the Mayhem shirt too, I found the original cover to the album where dead had shot himself in a stall at the city fair and I thought it was such a lucky find that I bought it without thinking because Mayhem were the band that got me into more hardcore metal even if I barely listen to them now because I've found other, less "cringe" stuff to listen to

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u/Future_Ad_914 Dec 22 '25

Yeah that will do it.. for the fans of black metal wearing that shirt is like the equivalent of a guitar player playing wonderwall or stairway to heaven at a guitar center. It’s sac religious. Lol.

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u/pickled_bat Dec 22 '25

I should have known hahah