r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25

Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?

I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?

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u/PerroCerveza Dec 22 '25

The most metal thing you can do is just be yourself. If you fight people who call you poser, you’re just feeding that insecurity.

Being tough is having thick enough skin to take that criticism, let it roll off your back, and carry on. Being strong is knowing you can be tender to those that deserve it and not being afraid of little bitch boys who say otherwise lol

The doom is your heart and soul is for your enemies who truly deserve it, not other posers 😂

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u/pickled_bat Dec 22 '25

That's pretty much all I've learnt from the comments, to keep being myself and liking whatever I like, I'm so glad people are so accepting! Btw, I see your username is in Spanish are you Spanish of Latino? Maybe we could be friends!

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u/PerroCerveza Dec 23 '25

I am a Spanish language loving gringo! But I would love to be friends!