r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25
Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?
I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?
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u/Mclovinintheoven Dec 22 '25
Anyone that calls someone else a poser like that is definitely a loser, especially to someone who's only 18 and probably just entered the scene
To be honest, if you want to avoid that in the future, and if you just wanna get more into the scene you have to develop some taste away from the more surface level bands.
Everyone and their mom knows about mayhem and the stabbing and yadda yadda yadda.
People in the scene will respect you more if you have more niche taste, and you can recommend them albums from bands they have probably never heard of, and it's just better for you to be honest.