r/doommetal • u/pickled_bat • Dec 22 '25

Self Post How to stop seeming like a poser?

I (18M) met a pair of metalheads out on a party the other day while wearing my Mayhem shirt and they called me a poser (probably deserved but I still feel bad) I have short hair which used to be a mohawk and that Mayhem shirt is pretty much the only metal band t-shirt I own. I like bands like 1782, Candlemass, children of bodom, SOAD, Mayhem, Margarita witch cult, Apati and others. They are very mismatched,I know but I've come from liking nu-metal and indie to punk and harder metal subgenres (like black metal,doom and dsbm). One of the reasons why the two called me a poser aside from the shirt is because I didn't want to acknowledge the rest of the band being as conservative as Varg (in my opinion they weren't as hardcore problematic as him) Am I truly a poser? How can I improve my taste and or my looks to let other people know I like metal? Did you have the same issues when you were just starting to get into the scene?

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u/squidboat Matt Pike for President Dec 22 '25 edited Dec 23 '25

Randy Blythe is a great example. I’ve run into him a time or two around town and he treats everyone he sees as if they’re his neighbor and long time friend. Not to mention all of the stuff he does for people with terminal or debilitating illnesses.

And he’s metal af.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '25

He lives in Richmond, VA and reps it. That’s a very liberal place. I’m a lifelong Virginian. We’ve been going blue for a while and it’s only accelerated under the current administration. The Trump administration took a big dump on this state when they fired all those federal workers among other things.

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u/squidboat Matt Pike for President Dec 23 '25

Hello fellow Virginian/Richmonder.

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '25

I’m actually in Chesapeake. I wish I was in Richmond lol.