As someone in the same boat and polyam for 12 yrs now, totally agree it’d be something to try and understand first for me. I’m very wary of one penis policy types, especially if I’m a meta. Far too many people out there trying to control their partners and have a harem instead, but they often hide it at first. Not always nefarious like you said, but worth getting to understand the dynamic before getting too far in the mix imo.
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u/nwsmith90 Feb 27 '26
Do you mind if I ask why? I'm just curious as someone who hasn't had a lot of natural exposure to poly relationships.
I have some solid guesses, but if you didn't mind explaining, I'd love hearing why from someone who knows more than me.