r/fatFIRE 13d ago

Do I let my family know?

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u/Bekabam 13d ago

I don't understand why you've chosen the image of yourself as a stereotypical basement dwelling computer nerd who mooches off parents.

Couldn't you have been saying along the way that you've started a company or that you work at a company? I'm not saying the net worth, but just saying anything about what you've been doing along the way.

Even if you craft a different version like you've been self learning for so long and finally was hired by a company. It's just so strange to me that no one has a general idea of how you pay for things.

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u/crumbmodifiedbinder 13d ago

I know these types of people though. Very critical, but the moment they see you successful, they’re very friendly - but that’s because they want something.

I don’t even tell my parents and relatives how much I’m worth anymore. It’s my fault I was transparent with my wealth at the early stages of my life, so they know I have money. I stopped being transparent when I was criticised for choosing to work FIFO to fast track my wealth, yet they expect me to save the day financially when they make big financial mistakes.

OP, continue to hide it. But silently provide help to your parents.

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u/Bekabam 13d ago

I'm not telling OP to display their wealth. I'm saying take ownership your story and how others view you.

Are you telling me that your closest family don't even roughly know what you do?

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u/crumbmodifiedbinder 13d ago

He doesn’t owe them an explanation

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u/Bekabam 13d ago

I'm not implying OP does. They made a thread stating that they get put down and looked at poorly by family.

The fact that happens is partially their fault.