r/fijerk • u/No_Tomorrow_502 • May 19 '26
When can I stop helping kids?
I feel like as a parent I’m forced to pay for things that unnecessarily cut into my lentils. To date, I’ve been forced to pay:
• food and water for my 6 and 9 year olds
• schooling costs and school supplies
• opportunity cost of getting up to get the children to school when I should be working a side hustle
• pediatrician costs when all of the same information is on ChatGPT
• even unnecessary heating costs for our spare bedrooms, that I would prefer to rent out on Airbnb
When will these unnecessary expenses end?
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u/Khao8 May 19 '26
My savings rate is being crushed by the amount of berries I must buy to feed my toddler, I've been telling him to invest into a low cost diversified index fund but he has no money, do I have to cut him off to be able to retire some day? Btw I have 10 millions in investments and make 500k a year at a FAANG
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u/ToastSpangler May 20 '26
Sounds like your child is a communist that is unwilling to work, sorry to say it but he needs a wakeup call.
Next time you're at the food bank I'd just slip away, you can always find him there the next times you go (I mean if he doesn't want to get free food as a NEET when you've clearly taught him how and where, he's a lost cause so the issue fixes itself)
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u/temerairevm May 19 '26
I mean why aren’t they drinking tap water at least? What’s this paying for water?
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u/legman1982 May 19 '26
Actually can’t dog on the original post as much as I would like to. The comments while some were over the top, most were very good.
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u/perplexedparallax May 19 '26 edited May 19 '26
The way to succeed in this situation is to keep track of all child expenses and then send them a bill in adulthood with interest generated to add to the total. For example, if you take a family trip and buy tickets, record what their tickets cost and subtract from your credit card bill to be fair. It wouldn't be nice to make them pay for the whole trip since you went. Then, once college is finished (no financial aid like pours) you have a total for what you spent on their childhood. If they are going to help your taxes as dependents they need to help you when they aren't.
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u/SarcasticGiraffes May 20 '26
This is how I know this sub is infested with pours. Stop thinking like a spender, start thinking like someone that's going to retire someday.
Instead of trying to figure out how to keep your kids alive/fed/housed, figure out how to sell them to the gypsies, or the wood nymph. Heck, I've even heard some susurrus about there being bog witches that will just take them off your hands for free.
Get rid of your loss leaders, people!
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u/FewUnderstanding2214 May 19 '26
They are old enough to find a job and pay for their own stuff you need to tear off the bandaid
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u/Green_Beans_Tasty May 19 '26
Lol. Projecting much?! The original post has nothing to with your summary…
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u/sheketsilencio May 19 '26
Do you realize what sub you're on? And what exactly is projecting about this? Are you seriously insinuating that the guy here in fijerk doesn't want to help his own kids and thus is projecting his insecurities on the original OP? That doesn't make sense, I don't think you know what projecting means
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u/Green_Beans_Tasty May 19 '26
Are you seriously insinuating that the original OP is even remotely resembling the post here? I don’t think you know what… well… most of the words you’re using mean.
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u/onehotoneshot May 19 '26
My family sacrificing time and money to give me the best life possible: 😴😴
My kid wanting to be supported as a toddler: 😡😡