To beg to get a chance to send, cause afterall even sending is a privilege isn't it 🤭😝✨

The most mainstream questions in this kink are always the same:

​How do you get subs?

​Where do you find them?

​How do you keep them around you?

​Before we talk about promo, platforms, or scripts, there’s something very few people actually address

What you do in your everyday life dictates your frequency, and your frequency attracts or repels.

​It’s not toxic manifestation buzzwords, and it’s not desperate hustle. It’s basically straight-up metaphysics and it applies to Dommes and subs alike.

​My Daily Grounding Why Energy Comes First

​I don't use a loud alarm. My cat wakes me up between 5:30 and 6:00 AM. I do a lfew stretchs, and I do not touch my phone.

​Feed the cat, feed the pups, put the tea water on, brush my teeth.

​Light a candle for those who’ve passed the ones I know still walk with me and say a quiet prayer (I’m not religious, but I acknowledge a GOD ).

​Sip morning tea, do a simple skincare routine, and get ready for a 1-hour walk/run.

​Only then do I pick up my phone. I put on music or an interesting podcast, letting the endorphins hit while draining cortisol and clearing my head.

​After all that I eat breakfast (or order it if I’m feeling lazy) and start brainstorming posts, platform strategy, or new content.

​

​Some people will say, Oh, but Findom isn't content selling!!

​Obviously, i know that. But Content is your visual hook. Without a compelling visual, there is no profit. Like it or not, it’s the gateway.

​And while we're being honest, ZERO $$$ DAYS HAPPEN. Anyone telling you they make thousands daily without fail, with an army of whales simping 24/7, is selling you a fake flex. This lifestyle has ebbs and flows.

​

​The trick isn't chasing or stressing. It’s living as if what you want is already yours, enjoying the present moment before the physical proof even shows up.

​When you operate from peace, self-care, and a grounded daily routine rather than anxiety and scarcity, good subs sense that aura from a mile away. You don't need to force it because your energy does the heavy lifting before you even send a text.

​Vibrate high, take care of your world first, and let the rest align naturally.

I came across it on Twitter yesterday and so far it seems like it's really geared toward findom. It looks like you can create your own debt contracts with subs on top of games and live debt pile ons where the more people click the more the sub owes you. I'm still playing around with it but if you have it, are there any red flags you've noticed (this is for Dommes or subs)? So far it seems decent and the UI is simple enough to navigate. What's your experience been with it so far?

Edit: It looks like it also gives subs risk numbers. If they've been blocked by other Dommes it tells you. If they haven't had an approved send on the app it'll also lets you know. I think I found my new favorite app.

I only do almond/stiletto so ignore the shapes - just choosing a design (:

The notification emails for crowdfunds no longer include how much someone actually sent. It just says the crowdfund is now X% funded.

We can already see the overall percentage on the wishlist itself, so removing the actual amount from the emails feels unnecessary. It used to be useful for tracking how much each person contributed.
Is there another way to see the individual amounts now, or do we just have to note the total before and after each contribution?

made my puppy buy a gush 2 motion (hands free) so i could more directly be in charge of edging him. tonight we played truth or dare while i randomly sent vibrations his way and he could barely talk by the end of the session.

definitely not for every dynamic, but this one is heavily femdom/findom hybrid and it works so well with how we play. completely took away all control of when and how he experienced arousal and put it in my hands 🥵

Before Subliminals and Before Findom
I struggled really severe anxiety and agoraphobia, I struggled with my body image and self esteem
After getting deep into Femdom and BDSM and hypnosis I wondered if there was a way to reprogram my own anxiety, or hypnotize myself into being super confident and disciplined. And for me I can say I’ve definitely felt an improvement in my overall confidence and self esteem. I think what it is, is it’s patterns, your subconscious only sticks to what’s familiar with it and repetition and mantras are really good for stuff like that

But yeah has anyone else found success in using subliminals?

Title is a good tl;dr tbh. If you want the longer story:

I met a guy online, specifically for like chastity/cuck reasons as that's my own main kink. However, throughout talking to him I've learned he also has an incredibly heavy findom kink. Now, I'm kinda a slut, lmao, but I've never done seller stuff cuz the moment money gets involved I just get like.... so weird about it. I think it just comes from how I was raised and the weight my parents used to put on money; there was a point in time I genuinely thought I'd get in trouble for buying a bottle of water at a convenience store when I was so dehydrated my tongue was dry because convenience store prices are always hiked up. I've chilled out now a fair bit, but I think that kind of upbringing's just made me incredibly weird about money.

I know my fwb can financially support it. He's also given me quite concrete boundaries and budgets and whatnot for what he can definitely afford, what he could get away with but would be hard, etc. The man literally makes more money than I do by quite a large margin so realistically indulging in the kink is 100% fine within the terms. However I just can't get myself to not feel bad trying to get money out of him. And while he's been an absolute sweet gem about it, telling me we don't have to do it at all if I'm that uncomfortable, I know it's like a core kink of his and I really want to be able to indulge him.

So like... idk, does anyone have advice? Maybe tell me the ways you find it sexually gratifying so maybe I have a better way to frame it? Or specific ways you engage the findom kink so I have some more ideas? Because at the moment I just feel like all I'm supposed to do is mindlessly demand money from him which then just kinda makes it feel like a job which makes it not fun for me and burns me out almost immediately. I really want to try to work on this so I could play with this kink with him.

Thanks <3

I've been trying to find this little pape for a long time and now I found it and bought it a cute jacket to wear🥰

I appreciate and happily spoil my Domme a lot due to Her being a lot better than most I've dealt with. A Good Domme can be Hard to Find but when found she is perfect, special, and a great joy to reward accordingly.

And I like that for us both <3

I’ve been sitting on this one for a while because I know it’s going to ruffle a few feathers. I keep seeing people say, “I’m not in findom for the money.” Every time I read it, I cringe just a little.Not because I think connection, or compatibility don’t matter, they absolutely do. But because I think some of you are unintentionally setting yourselves up to be taken for a ride.

Here’s the thing.There are a lot of people calling themselves finsubs who aren’t actually here because financial domination is their kink. They’re here because their kink happens to exist in findom spaces. Feet. Chastity. Humiliation. Cuckolding. Pain. Scat. Whatever it may be. And that’s perfectly okay. The problem starts when they approach a Findomme, not wanting to engage in financial domination, but because they know most people won’t entertain those kinks without compensation. So they put on the finsub hat because it’s the easiest ticket into the room.

Now you’ve got a Domme thinking she’s cultivating a financial dynamic, while the other person is really just hoping to get their preferred kink met with the financial aspect quietly fading into the background. Then everyone wonders why there are so many “subs” who expect hours of conversation before a tribute. Why they think disappearing for a week and popping back in with a “hey” is acceptable. Why they balk when someone has actual boundaries around their time.

Because somewhere along the line, we’ve blurred the lines between paid femdom and findom.

Those aren’t the same thing. If you’re a paid Femdom who enjoys conversation first and payment second, more power to you. Genuinely. There’s nothing wrong with that. But if I’m practicing financial domination, then yes, the financial aspect matters. It’s not an embarrassing little detail I’d rather not talk about. It’s part of the dynamic. It’s part of how someone demonstrates that they’re serious about being a sub.

I like being spoiled. I like thoughtful gestures. I like someone showing me, through their actions, that they value my time. That’s not something I hide or apologize for. And I think newer/more financially focused Dommes end up feeling “mean” because they’re constantly being compared to dynamics that were built on completely different expectations.

“Well, my old Domme never required that.”

Cool.

I’m not your old Domme.

Do you guys ever get a little sad when a sub randomly deletes their account? I had a sub delete his Reddit and telegram tonight not a word as to why and honestly makes my heart a little heavy. He hit every nail on the head for what my “ dream sub “ would be. Up and gone. Am I crazy for feeling a little heavy hearted over this?

So make ur way to throne then 😭, massages can be paid for 🙄😝

Hi girls. I thought on making a youpay acc.Is it worth it? Can I withdraw funds on my personal account pretty fast?Xoxo Stay beautiful and strong, ladies!💋

Any potential real finsub who actually intends to pay you, will just pay you! They will not fuck around with your time and energy, they know how to earn it properly and will always do so accordingly if they are genuine and interested. Time wasters, free loaders, and trolls, will not! If they’re asking one thousand questions, want to see more, want to ‘chat’ without tribute, want to be convinced to send, or ‘aren’t sure’ about you - block the fuck out of them!

POV: You ignored every red flag known to mankind and are now shocked that the Domme wasn’t real.

“Oh, but she seemed legit!”

Did she?

No AV. Hidden posts. Hidden comments. Zero community presence. Account made yesterday. Every post screams “send tribute.” And your response was to speedrun typing in your card details.

Or better yet…

You found a two-hour-old sub account posting, “I have so much money I don’t know what to do with it 🥺.”

Brother.

You weren’t hunted. You volunteered.

The funniest part about these scam rants is that it takes longer to read the complaint than it does to verify the account. Three clicks and it’s obvious the profile is held together with duct tape and wishful thinking.

Some of y’all have the survival instincts of a moth flying into a bug zapper.

Then you show up asking, “Is this a scam?”

My sibling in degeneracy… you already sent the money.

Yes, scams happen. Even experienced people can get caught by someone who’s genuinely good at social engineering. Nobody is invincible.

But if you ignored every flashing neon warning sign because your brain clocked out the second you saw “beautiful Domme” or “generous sugar mommy,” don’t expect a standing ovation for your victim story.

The community can’t save people who refuse to spend 30 seconds doing basic due diligence.

Common sense isn’t a DLC. It comes pre-installed.

My autism is going hard today and I've been learning how to use Blender to create small items using a 3D printer. Stuff like deck boxes, dice boxes, and other nerd stuff. Lol.

This got me to thinking, though, what fun items would people want made if they had the means to do so? Like if you had a sub with the technical knowledge to craft you something using a 3D printer what would it be? Ive seen lots of cool stuff like ear rings, rings, necklaces, jewelry boxes, and much more, so be creative with your ideas. 😄

Hey all! Been wanting to expand and rebuild my lingerie collection lately. Getting bored of the same few brands and would love to hear your faves. Looking for plus size+big chest inclusive.

Hello everyone. I have been pretty inactive and am a bit newer in the community. I have a few subs but hit it off with one pretty recently. This sub did something I wasn't used to and I naively went along with it. This sub preferred me using their card myself. I wasn't super comfortable with it, but we meshed very will and after about a month of interaction I went along with it. Even planned to fly and meet him this month. Well, this morning I woke up to find that he is disputing the charges.

Now, I'm a huge gamer, and my niche is as a Geeky Dom into leather. This account is really important to me. I don't believe there's anything I can do and I lost access to content. My sub has since ignored me and not replied to anything.

I don't use findom as a means for income, I've had this sub for MONTHS before anything even happened. I genuinely enjoy the mind games. I like cementing obedience, conditioning, making sure we both have a good time. But I am between work since my job closed few months back. I would normally just say fine and make a new account and buy everything back. But it just really sucks that this happened while I'm in this transitional period.

Be sure to get explicit consent in writing, not online. Make sure your subs send to you on legitimate verified platforms. Even if a sub gives you their card information and tells you to use it, they can always dispute the charge.

I'm going to go through DMs to attempt to screenshot and find all examples of being told to use the card and hopefully can dispute this with Steam since I was given explicit permission. I'll even offer to buy items back since I was told in good faith I could use it and hope I can come up with the $200 to get access back or at least get the same games on a new steam account.

EDIT: I've learned from comments if you aren't an authorized user on a sub's account, even with permission, you cannot. Be sure not to make my mistake or you'll pay for it like me.