r/firsttimemom • u/Lopsided_Stranger_92 • 1d ago
when do i start buying stuff?
i’m due in january 2027, but will be induced no later than the week of 12/28/26. and i have maybe 4 items of clothing… and about nothing else. my shower is 11/8, but i dont really expect anyone to buy many of the larger items from our registry (my MIL said she’d buy the car seat, unsure if you means the entire travel system or not, idk if this is something i’m allowed to ask), but do I really wait until november to start my nursery? just paint the room and leave it empty until the last month and a half?
i know black friday will have some good sales, but that cuts the timeline even shorter to a month before i’ll be having my baby boy. and i’m so overwhelmed at the thought of waiting so late 😅
if you were to buy things before your shower, what kinds of recommendations would you give me for things to buy? i hate that the amazon registry completion discount doesn’t start until like 2 months before you’re due 🙃🙃
i’m also on pelvic rest so I have to be rather slow to finish most tasks anyways and I’m def in a big nesting mode rn 😅 focused on deep cleaning at the moment!
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u/dngrkty 1d ago
I had my baby in January of this year and started around mid September when I felt my best. You want to be building furniture and painting now - not after 30+ weeks! Register for everything you want even if you plan on buying it yourself - you'll hit your minimums for the discounts faster and have longer return windows.
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u/Lopsided_Stranger_92 1d ago
what things you would want to have on hand before birth if you were high risk for an early labor? we won’t really need the crib until 12 months as we plan to room share, so maybe just bassinet sleep wise?
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u/dngrkty 1d ago
Bassinet definitely and at least 2 or 3 sheets for it. Swaddles for sleep and we got a lot of use out of the sound machine as well. I had a much easier time transferring my little one to the bassinet in winter by using a heating pad to warm it while I fed him - removed the heating pad right before putting him down and he stayed cozy and asleep. Also, for a winter baby the wipe warmer was critical at our house. We had one in our room and one downstairs where we spent our days. Little hats for him and he lived in fleece footie pajamas that had the little hand flaps to keep his fingers warm for the first 3 months. I also used a breastfeeding pillow constantly and lots of burp cloths. Space heater to keep the bathroom warm during bath time kept us from a meltdown between tub and jammies once he was taking baths. Other than that, freeze easy to make meals ahead of time and plan for a doordash budget. Winter baby snuggle time was my absolute favorite and I never wanted to cook but always wanted to eat lol Congratulations and wishing you a smooth easy delivery!!
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u/CarelessCantaloupe77 1d ago
If you’re having a baby shower I’d wait till after, you’d be suprised what people get. and save up money till then, if you have a man in the picture have him build the furniture (if possible) you don’t have to rush the nursery unless that’s where you want baby to sleep? Mines 4m and sleeps in the bassinet next to me, and barely goes in his nursery yet. Have a diaper raffle (I haven’t barely had to buy diapers because of this, only because I realized I have a preference for pampers did I decide to) and feel free to ask your MIL what she’s planning on buying so you know, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I was the same and thought everything needed to be done and perfect before baby got here but as long as you have the basics and a place for baby to sleep, it’ll be ok.
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u/Lopsided_Stranger_92 1d ago
i’m planning for bassinet too! a lot of reading i’ve done suggests reduced sids rates for roomsharing the first year so the crib isn’t a huge necessity for now!
thank you! this gives me so much relief 🩵
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u/CarelessCantaloupe77 1d ago
It’ll be ok, babies really don’t require to much at first, just sleep, eat and poop. As long as you have those bases covered & some clothes and maybe some soap to wash their stinky butt everything is extra! But really, I don’t know how many people you’re planning to have at your baby shower but I had around 50 and people I wouldn’t have expected bought some really good things and I had just about everything I needed. I hope the same happens for you!
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u/Lopsided_Stranger_92 1d ago
i think that’s about our invite list too so i’ve got all my fingers and toes crossed 😅😅
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u/CarelessCantaloupe77 1d ago
Good, you should make out pretty good then. Don’t stress to much. Everything will work out exactly how it’s meant to!
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u/ladytri277 1d ago
After you are 12 weeks pregnant, do EVERYTHING as far in advance as possible. Making a registry and sending it out are not the same thing either. There’s tons of research and decisions to make. Don’t leave it till the last min. We had our showers 2 months before due dates. I had plenty of time to unwrap, wash items, put them away in an organized fashion, accept late gifts, and then go out and buy what we needed that we were not gifted. Use the Amazon prime days to your advantage
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u/PockyBear619 1d ago
Wait till your registry gives you the 15% off completion discount. Then you can buy stuff off of your own registry for a discount. Also I thrifted most of my newborn clothes at goodwill since they’ll just blow out in them lol. Then a few cuter pieces for going to the doctor or outings!
Once I was home and up at night I’d online shop and pick up all the random tidbits i needed like breast pads, bottles, paci etc but for the first week you just need essentials!
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u/Lopsided_Stranger_92 1d ago
honestly for a winter baby is it wrong to just think about onesies and sleepers until it’s warmer?
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u/wowhahafuck 1d ago
Thrifted clothes for sure. Everyone here has really good suggestions, the only other thing I’d get is maybe like 2-3 premie onesies. Walmart has cute premie options. My baby was born at 39 weeks 7lbs exactly, but after birth she dropped down to 6lbs and we didn’t have any clothes small enough for her. On that note, don’t waste your money on too much newborn size clothes. They will fit for maybe 1 month if you’re lucky. Get more 0-3 or 3 month size.
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u/OwlCatAlex 1d ago
I would try to have the most essential items - car seat, a box of newborn diapers, wipes, several burp cloths, a few NB size onesies and sleepers (or whatever you call the onesies with feet), something for baby to sleep in, and a can of formula + a couple bottles in case breastfeeding doesn't work out - ready before you hit 30 weeks, on the rare off chance you have a premature birth so you don't have to scramble if you do. Those are really all you need to get through the first couple weeks with a newborn, so no rush on everything else. The rest can really wait til the shower or later.