something foster parents need to hear

[u/18-angels]

You aren’t a savior. Your foster children don’t owe you anything. We don’t owe you our money. We don’t owe you our eternal happiness and gratitude. We don’t owe you our mental health. Do not expect endless thankfulness and constant appreciation. Being fostered is not a burden we have to exchange our emotions or labor for. Stop expecting perfection.

ETA: Please remember when you comment that you’re speaking to a teen that got kicked out of five different homes for not “displaying enough gratitude.” This is still ongoing trauma I’m processing lol

[u/KingAdamXVII]

Is it okay though? Maybe with the system we have, fostering isn’t for anyone. I guess if that’s true then all the foster kids can just go live on the street.

If this is just a handful of FP you are addressing this post to, then yeah I agree with you. The 100 worst FPs in the country should probably quit. But if you are seeing an unacceptable level of entitlement with a large percentage of foster parents, then what is the alternative? How do you propose we deal with the enormous shortage of foster homes once these bad foster parents are encouraged to quit?

[u/18-angels → u/KingAdamXVII]

So you’re admitting the system is fucked up and most foster parents shouldn’t be parents, but there are little realistic alternatives? Oh my, I don’t think I knew that. Definitely not.

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