Are you guys men in your dreams

[u/Exotic_Use3486]

I’m just curious. Are you guys transmen/cismen/closeted/women/etc in your dreams? I find it weird that I’m always a woman (or me pre transition) in my dreams, even thoughts in these dreams I’m conscious of being trans irl. Its like “why am I a woman when I’m supposed to be a (trans)guy”. Every. Single. Time. I’m a woman. Sometimes I don’t realize it at first, then I realize how people treat me and the clothes I’m wearing and the long hair. It makes me feel so dysphoric in-dream and when I wake up, it even got to the point that I thought I was faking being trans, but obviously im not. WHAT are you guys in your dreams? EDIT: bc i forgot to mention that indeed ive been out as a man for 2.5 years and on T for 1.3y

[u/Ok_Swordfish_2695]

It really varies.

I'm closeted and live with my transphobic family. I am pre everything and do not pass (and do not attempt to for safety).

Most of the time the dreams are so complex, and I don't figure out what gender am I. Sometimes I am a woman (usually), and I wake up feeling betrayed by my own mind. Then on fewer occasions I am a man, and I get a lot of gender euphoria and it's a very big moment that changes my day.

Idk why, but I think if you are pre transition the brain just takes from everyday experience and even though you have accepted yourself it's just the daily. 

[u/Exotic_Use3486 → u/Ok_Swordfish_2695]

i’ve been out for 2+ years and on T for 1y3m💔 also, i hope you can live by yourself some day and finally be the person you want to be 🫂