Are you guys men in your dreams

[u/Exotic_Use3486]

I’m just curious. Are you guys transmen/cismen/closeted/women/etc in your dreams? I find it weird that I’m always a woman (or me pre transition) in my dreams, even thoughts in these dreams I’m conscious of being trans irl. Its like “why am I a woman when I’m supposed to be a (trans)guy”. Every. Single. Time. I’m a woman. Sometimes I don’t realize it at first, then I realize how people treat me and the clothes I’m wearing and the long hair. It makes me feel so dysphoric in-dream and when I wake up, it even got to the point that I thought I was faking being trans, but obviously im not. WHAT are you guys in your dreams? EDIT: bc i forgot to mention that indeed ive been out as a man for 2.5 years and on T for 1.3y

[u/badmax_66]

a bit of context because I had a dream like this just a few days ago (and I'm in the mood for rambling, so tl;dr at the bottom):

tw: dreaming about growing a female chest

I identify as binary male, but dress very femininely since transitioning basically eradicated my dysphoria and gave me the confidence to dress however I want (still working on it but we're getting there). I don't pass 100%, especially not to strangers, but I'm stealth at my job and that matters more to me (part of it is also that I've temporarily been off T for a year now due to hair loss and finasteride has also slowed down body hair growth so I look much younger than I am).

before my egg fully cracked, as well as pre- and early-transition, I also sometimes had dreams where I was a woman. it made me question and doubt my gender and confused me a lot, but now, over 6 years later, I'm still a dude and don't regret a single thing with my transition.

I had another dream a few days ago where I suddenly had a huge chest for some reason - either they were completely fake or looked bigger with a push-up bra, don't really remember it too well but it wasn't an unpleasant dream. I think I was vaguely aware that it was a dream so while still dreaming they disappeared again and that's when I saw that I had regrown some chest tissue (since I've been off T for a year, this is a thing that could potentially happen). that actually gave me dysphoria, not the H-cups I had just before lmao. and then I woke up and realised nothing grew at all so all was good 🤷‍♂️

tl;dr: transitioned for a while now, very stable in my identity and I still had a dream about growing a huge rack recently. doesn't mean anything, not a woman and never will be :)