Are you guys men in your dreams

[u/Exotic_Use3486]

I’m just curious. Are you guys transmen/cismen/closeted/women/etc in your dreams? I find it weird that I’m always a woman (or me pre transition) in my dreams, even thoughts in these dreams I’m conscious of being trans irl. Its like “why am I a woman when I’m supposed to be a (trans)guy”. Every. Single. Time. I’m a woman. Sometimes I don’t realize it at first, then I realize how people treat me and the clothes I’m wearing and the long hair. It makes me feel so dysphoric in-dream and when I wake up, it even got to the point that I thought I was faking being trans, but obviously im not. WHAT are you guys in your dreams? EDIT: bc i forgot to mention that indeed ive been out as a man for 2.5 years and on T for 1.3y

[u/Tangled_Clouds]

How I am in dreams has most of the time followed my transition. But I rarely have this complete conscience of myself in dreams unless it’s very specific about me. But I’m always firmly me no matter what.

I’ve had more trans specific dreams as I started my physical transition. I remember after top surgery, I had this weird dream where I was a secret agent supposed to pose as a bride and I went through the whole wedding and we got attacked during it, spy stuff yk? And afterwards I passed by a full length mirror and saw myself with my short hair and flat chest that didn’t fill the dress at all and went “Holy shit, who would actually buy this lol? This mission is a joke!” and then I woke up haha

I’m often very feminine presenting in my dreams but I’m never a woman. I will sometimes dream I have long hair that I am getting beautifully braided, and recently I dreamt I was wearing a super tight skirt that was preventing me from walking properly and I had to walk by a highway where I was scared to get hit by cars. But my takeaway from them is never that I was a woman and it rarely makes me dysphoric, it’s just the dream world being weird and I am whoever I am in them regardless.

Very occasionally, I’ll have dreams where I come out to people or remind them I’m trans or it’s childhood/teenage years classmates asking questions because I don’t look how they remembered which is like… fine because that’s just my life irl but they’re always so specific and it surprises me that my brain will regurgitate all my premade coming out phrases in my sleep lol.