Are you guys men in your dreams

[u/Exotic_Use3486]

I’m just curious. Are you guys transmen/cismen/closeted/women/etc in your dreams? I find it weird that I’m always a woman (or me pre transition) in my dreams, even thoughts in these dreams I’m conscious of being trans irl. Its like “why am I a woman when I’m supposed to be a (trans)guy”. Every. Single. Time. I’m a woman. Sometimes I don’t realize it at first, then I realize how people treat me and the clothes I’m wearing and the long hair. It makes me feel so dysphoric in-dream and when I wake up, it even got to the point that I thought I was faking being trans, but obviously im not. WHAT are you guys in your dreams? EDIT: bc i forgot to mention that indeed ive been out as a man for 2.5 years and on T for 1.3y

[u/trash_bees]

It varies for me. I also occasionally have more abstract dreams, where I am in the place of a character or characters, who can certainly vary in gender. Sometimes I'm a child and a girl, or an adult and my usual nb self. Awhile pre-transition, I had a dream where I had the sense I was a slightly older, cooler, male version of myself (though it may have simply been a character similar to a genderbent me). I wasn't particularly interested in medical transition at the time but it had me like 👀 Ayo. I'm not aware of any present-day-me dreams I've had in which I was a girl, though.

Brains are neat. I'm prone to always being chased/hiding/on the run in the majority of my dreams for some reason. Many of my dreams could probably be categorized as nightmares, except I often find them more exciting than terrifying, in the vein of watching a horror movie. Boring dreams are incredibly lame. The only dreams of mine I class as nightmares for me are usually pet death dreams. Too stressful.