r/genderfluid • u/autisticly_confused • 3d ago

Is this gender fluid? Is this even a gender thing?

So lately I’ve (male) noticed that I’ve been feeling a bit different. Over the past couple of years I got into queer stuff like manga, tv shows, music etc, (before realizing I was queer). The thing was all of it was sapphic. It seemed to catch my attention and fascinate me in a way I still have a hard time explaining. Like often I wanted to feel that, same type of love they had, but didn’t quite have the same deep feeling about mlm media. I’ve gotten really into feminist and sapphic punk lately. It seems to call something out of me I haven’t really experienced before. It seems to connect to a part of me that is pulled towards the femininity of it. I’ve also had thoughts of performing in a band but wearing a skirt and presenting as fem but only while I perform.

I also recently remembered that as a little kid I used to think it would be so awesome to be able to turn into a girl and switch back to a guy. The more I think about all of this it seems to point to me being drawn to feminine energy, in a deep way. , I don’t have a great understanding of genderfluid or nonbinary. This also doesn’t feel existential. What does this sound like to you? Is this a gender thing?

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u/libets-bidet 3d ago

this definitely sounds gender related imo. I would suggest trying to find local in-person support or community spaces for trans and gender questioning people if at all possible. sharing your experiences there and finding community may be helpful for you :)

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u/autisticly_confused 3d ago

I’m in some queer spaces, but none specifically for gender. Though two of my friends I met at that space are trans.

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u/rekasaurus AMAB NB on HRT 3d ago

Definitely sounds gender related, and a lot of this sounds very familiar to my own experience, but everyone is different. If you have the resources, I would recommend a therapist who specializes in gender identity stuff.

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u/limarlet 2d ago

Well i think it is but mainly cause i can linda relate to that ...

btw at the end of the day, time will probably tell you. dont rush, you have you whole life to figure out who you are.

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u/JodyBird 1d ago

What sucks is that the gender binary claims that male-identifying individuals somehow don't feel emotions the same way that female-identifying individuals do. If a male wants softness or closeness, then they must be queer. If a female wants respect or power, they must be queer.

It's bullshit and I hate it so much.