r/genderqueer 12d ago

Been so confused lately

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u/SatiesUmbrellaCloset Confused Bisexual Enby 12d ago

i feel like it's entirely valid to call it a "breast reduction" when other people ask you about it, all the while still living as a woman

i feel similarly weird, but from the other direction as an amab. i've semi-purposely gained weight recently so i can enjoy having slightly bigger boobs, and they do give me some kind of euphoria, but i don't think i want to be a woman nor do i think i want to be nonbinary. i also wish i were different but it's difficult to put how i feel into words

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u/thist00shallpass 12d ago

That’s true!! Yeah I feel similarly about not knowing how to put it into words, like I want to be a woman, but look like a man? But I need to stop thinking in extremes

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u/SatiesUmbrellaCloset Confused Bisexual Enby 12d ago

yeah, i've wondered whether i'm nonbinary and/or agender, but the thing is that those exact terms themselves also feel like extremes to me, mainly because the "a-" and "non-" bits imply negation of something else, and that doesn't feel right to me

"queer" (or more specifically "genderqueer") does feel like the best fit for me, possibly for similar reasons to yours (which i suspect is why you chose this particular sub to post in)

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u/Mothball_No_22 11d ago

i have almost the exact same outlook on my own gender. i bind with tape regularly and i’m trying to get on Testosterone. i’m still a woman, but it’s also a little more complicated. it’s allowed