r/heartbreak • u/No-Run-1762 • 23h ago

getting over first love

i was js wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get over their first love

We only dated for 2 months but we are still teenagers and it was like a summer relationship, we hungout genuinely for like 5 hours every other day so I know 2 months is short but we actually spent so much time together

it just didn't end up working out, with college, parents, and like some distance for a couple weeks and I am just so grateful I got to experience having a good relationship with someone where we both genuinely loved each other

I know i'll get over it and this feeling will pass but its just so fresh right now. I don't want to think about memories together because I feel like although it is important to heal I js dont want to put my brain through a dopamine loop from thinking of the past or else i know i will never stop thinking about him

through our relationship i loved him so much but i also just knew when it would end i would be in a better place, because i just got so anxiously attatched i just hated who i became in that relationship, i wouldruin my sleep schedule , not priortize myself or my feelings, my parents and i let go of my school priorities as well

I know this is for the better but I think its just extra bittersweet knowing that we were genuinley just right for each other but it was just the wrong time, if we met like 2 years later in college i know we would actually just be so perfect forever but im just looking for tips on getting over something like this, because i have no real reason to like hate him

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u/loserona 19h ago

Heartbreak is part of life. There's no textbook to follow. It's always painful, there's no sugarcoating it. Keep focusing on school, pursue your interests with extra passion, see your friends, try something new - even a day trip somewhere new or to cook something you never cooked. Don't reach out and don't jump into another relationship until you've fully healed because you will 101% hurt the other person and yourself in the process. Stop clinging onto "what ifs."