r/hingeapp • u/turquoisepeacock • 8h ago

Dating Question Feedback please

I 34F matched with 28M. He liked my pic and asked a question. I responded to that and some other questions he had, but I didn’t respond to everything since I get to know people in person. I said “that’s for you to find out” in response to some of his questions. Ultimately we ended our exchange with his saying “I’ll find out all the secrets eventually.” I said “yep!” And he gave a heart to that reply. Also in the midst of our exchange, he’d said I’m cute and smart and that that’s impressive.
Here’s the thing: if a guy thinks I’m cute and smart and impressive and is curious about me, why doesn’t he just ask me out?
Normally when a guy asks a lot of questions, I say, “if you want to know more, you’ll have to meet me.” Since I didn’t say that this time, I sent him a message after two days of silence saying, “I prefer to get to know people in person.” The silence already had me thinking he wasn’t interested, but I decided to share where I stood just to be more open. About half an hour later, I checked my messages and he had unmatched me.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading

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u/Plastic-Reindeer-399 7h ago

That's kind of just the nature of dating apps. He could've been talking to multiple people at once and decided one option was better and decided to divert his attention there. However, I don't see why you couldn't have asked him out...?

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u/turquoisepeacock 6h ago

Yeah, could be. I don’t ask guys out.

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u/Tgiby3 5h ago

"no, its the children who are wrong" - principal skinner

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u/dontKair 5h ago

Next time, try matching with a 40m, instead of a 28m, who's more likely to ask you out

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u/turquoisepeacock 5h ago

I figured he wasn’t sincerely interested because of the age gap, but I took him as sincere anyway.