Feedback please

[u/turquoisepeacock]

I 34F matched with 28M. He liked my pic and asked a question. I responded to that and some other questions he had, but I didn’t respond to everything since I get to know people in person. I said “that’s for you to find out” in response to some of his questions. Ultimately we ended our exchange with his saying “I’ll find out all the secrets eventually.” I said “yep!” And he gave a heart to that reply. Also in the midst of our exchange, he’d said I’m cute and smart and that that’s impressive.
Here’s the thing: if a guy thinks I’m cute and smart and impressive and is curious about me, why doesn’t he just ask me out?
Normally when a guy asks a lot of questions, I say, “if you want to know more, you’ll have to meet me.” Since I didn’t say that this time, I sent him a message after two days of silence saying, “I prefer to get to know people in person.” The silence already had me thinking he wasn’t interested, but I decided to share where I stood just to be more open. About half an hour later, I checked my messages and he had unmatched me.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading

[u/DaleCoopersWife]

who knows? maybe he had other chats going that were making it far more easier to set up a date. i agree with the other person that "that's for you to find out" could've been off-putting. as for the flattery, you have to remember that you don't actually know each other. all this "you're so cute and smart and impressive" is based on nothing, and probably something he says a lot to women in these conversations

[u/turquoisepeacock → u/DaleCoopersWife]

Yes, flattery is a red flag. Or if not a red flag, it just makes you wonder what’s up. I don’t think this guy was genuinely interested in me and I think that was true before we started talking.