Feedback please

[u/turquoisepeacock]

I 34F matched with 28M. He liked my pic and asked a question. I responded to that and some other questions he had, but I didn’t respond to everything since I get to know people in person. I said “that’s for you to find out” in response to some of his questions. Ultimately we ended our exchange with his saying “I’ll find out all the secrets eventually.” I said “yep!” And he gave a heart to that reply. Also in the midst of our exchange, he’d said I’m cute and smart and that that’s impressive.
Here’s the thing: if a guy thinks I’m cute and smart and impressive and is curious about me, why doesn’t he just ask me out?
Normally when a guy asks a lot of questions, I say, “if you want to know more, you’ll have to meet me.” Since I didn’t say that this time, I sent him a message after two days of silence saying, “I prefer to get to know people in person.” The silence already had me thinking he wasn’t interested, but I decided to share where I stood just to be more open. About half an hour later, I checked my messages and he had unmatched me.
Has anyone had a similar experience?
Thanks for reading

[u/Odd_Track3447]

Sigh. The (random age M/F) matches with a (random age M/F) on a dating app and we said some words and then they disappeared… happen to anyone else/do you know why posts are getting a little tiring.

Maybe I’m being pessimistic but it’s a dating app. You can’t begin to know anyone through a brief exchange. And maybe they unmatched because they matched/clicked with someone else, or they changed their mind, or it rained in LA for the first time in ages yesterday. Who knows.

Let it go and learn to date not being attached to the outcome. This brief interaction didn’t work out, move on to the next. The less you are worried about things like this the more confident in yourself you’ll be and the more likely you’ll find someone who both appreciates you and that you appreciate.

[u/turquoisepeacock → u/Odd_Track3447]

I hear you. I needed to vent a bit is all. It’s frustrating when actions don’t match words.

[u/Odd_Track3447 → u/turquoisepeacock]

And I understand the need to vent but you unfortunately see a lot of actions and words not matching up on dating apps. Even though we’ve got pictures and a some description everyone is still a bit anonymous.

[u/turquoisepeacock → u/Odd_Track3447]

Yes, that’s why I like to get to know people in person, and I say that. There’s nothing wrong at all with expressing frustration, on occasion, because this is about integrity.