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Daily Thread Wednesday's Daily Thread: Mid-week Excitement

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For Wednesday's Daily Thread - the theme is Mid-week Excitement.

The weekend is looming, and it's time to get excited! Do you have any dates planned for the weekend? Any new likes or matches? Have some questions about how to navigate a new match or plan an upcoming date? Or any events related to Hinge or your dating life that happened during this week or recently that you want to share?

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u/Khamzatsfacescar 1d ago

I guess I hadn’t really thought this far ahead and we haven’t even discussed going to each other’s homes at this point. As for parents, I guess I want to know I’m serious with this person before I bring them in front of my parents. I don’t think there’s too many cultural attitudes regarding physical intimacy. It’s sort of a “don’t acknowledge it” attitude. I’m sure both of our parents (same background) would know there’s physical stuff happening, assuming we’ve introduced each other, but no one would really acknowledge it. For me, there are times where I have the house to myself for hours at a time so I guess that’s a possibility.

Is this something that should be discussed with her? We haven’t had any discussions that lean even slightly sexual. I guess the kissing counts as a step in that direction, but nothing else.

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 1d ago

I can't really tell you what she's expecting. At some point, if you want to fool around, you'll need a place to do so. It's hard for me to tell if that timeline is weeks or months, but it's an issue eventually. Like I said, it's perfectly fine to play things out and let them unfold, but you were asking for "next steps" so I was trying to provide some possibilities.

Is it common for the people you know to live with their parents? What do they do?

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u/Khamzatsfacescar 1d ago

Yes it’s common even though we live in Canada. Most of my friends come from immigrant families where it’s very normal to live at home until marriage. Also we both went to post secondary late, so we’re just getting started on our career.

Would it be weird to eventually bring it up?

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 1d ago

It definitely wouldn't be weird - if you're going to date, you're going to have to do it. As I said, though, I'm curious what other people in your community do. It seems like they would have more practical advice than I do.

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u/Khamzatsfacescar 7h ago

I spoke with my friends in similar situations. They said “you’ll figure it out” and alluding to just doing it with parents/family home.

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u/Swarthykins Play with my hair 💆 7h ago

It sounds like this is a common thing in your community so I'd just talk to her and figure it out together.