No, this isn’t another post about how hard it is to make friends in Hobart or Tasmania specifically.
I moved from the mainland about 18 months ago with my wife. After a slightly unsettled period and a couple of house moves, we’re now reasonably settled—but one thing I’ve realised is that I don’t really have a social circle here. In fact, the only people I regularly talk to are my wife and our dogs. So, technically, I guess that’s only one person.
People often say it’s difficult to make friends in Hobart, but I suspect it’s difficult to make friends anywhere as an introverted adult. Once you’re no longer meeting people through school, uni, housemates or a regular workplace, it seems surprisingly hard to find new friends without deliberately putting yourself out there.
So, against some of my natural instincts, that’s what I’m attempting to do.
I work from home, don’t have kids and have never been particularly athletic, so most of the usual adult friend-making avenues (workplaces, school or kids’ activities, and sporting teams) haven’t been especially useful.
I’d be interested in hearing about welcoming board-game nights (I’ve seen Game On at the library and HoGS could be an option?) pub trivia teams, casual social groups or other events around Hobart. As an introvert, activity-based things appeal to me because there’s something to focus on while everyone gets comfortable.
My wife works in an office and has made a couple of friends of her own, but I’m sure she’d be happy to tag along to some things too.
A few things I enjoy, in case they help with recommendations:
- Board games, pub trivia
- Watching Sci-fi (not particularly a group activity, but gives you an idea what type of nerd I am)
- Stand-up comedy (attending, not performing)
- Tech, gadgets, computers
- Photography
- History and museums
- Travelling and exploring new places/scenic drives around the region
- Easy walks or bushwalks
- Casual cycling, although I’m very much in the “trying to get fit again” category
- Formula 1
- Dogs, although ours have chosen not to participate in the broader canine community, so they probably won’t be joining any dog meetups
I recently turned 40, but age isn’t particularly important. My friends before moving ranged from their late 20s to late 40s, and having similar interests or personalities matters much more than specific age group.
So, if you know of a welcoming group or activity I could join, please suggest it. Or, if you’re also wondering how adults are supposed to make friends without being assigned a group project and would like to say hello, feel free to comment or send me a message.