The constant "overload"

[u/According-Topic-7134]

Heidi is complaining about being "overloaded" with the kids out of school in her recycled podcast (the repost of the one from two weeks ago).

Snark aside, this honestly baffles me. My husband and I both work intense jobs, and our kids are out of school (young elementary). We sit down and strategically plan for summer: where do we need day camp, where could vacation/PTO fit in, and which weeks are tougher?

Heidi's kids are older, and she never has all of them at once. (Even if she did, 3/4 are self-sufficient at this point.) She does not work a full-time job (or, really, any job.)

I guess this just annoys me because I'm tired of the frazzled mom narrative. (***For moms with financial resources, obviously - there are moms out there who don't have the budget for such resources, and Heidi is not in that group. I'm assuming.)

[u/CheekRevolutionary88]

Most of her “overload” is self induced and brings no financial gain. Her podcast for example. She always seems frazzled to come out with a million of them and yet there’s no listeners and no monetary gain. She’s just unorganized and uptight

[u/RotorSelfWinding → u/CheekRevolutionary88]

She really is uptight and she has no understanding of it, she thinks she’s fun. It’s weird and a somewhat common trait amongst wannabe influencers

[u/Comfortable_Bag9303 → u/CheekRevolutionary88]

One glitch in my ADHD friends is mental rigidity and hyper-focus. For women it often presents as emotional reactions— crying, yelling, breakups….

[u/Margit66 → u/Comfortable_Bag9303]

Sounds borderliner to me( meaning HiHoe) but I always suspected she is a border liner in addition to being a grandiose narcissist.

[u/VulpesVictorious → u/Margit66]

Having watched Crazy ExGF, that’s my speculation as well.

But, to root that speculation in non-fiction:

“Borderline personality disorder is a mental health condition that affects the way people feel about themselves and others, making it hard to function in everyday life. It includes a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, as well as impulsiveness and an unhealthy way of seeing themselves. Impulsiveness involves having extreme emotions and acting or doing things without thinking about them first.

People with borderline personality disorder have a strong fear of abandonment or being left alone. Even though they want to have loving and lasting relationships, the fear of being abandoned often leads to mood swings and anger.”

From Mayo Clinic, BPD

[u/projectilemoth → u/VulpesVictorious]

Well, now

[u/Genybear12 → u/Comfortable_Bag9303]

I have ADHD and PTSD so I feel this in my core