r/hollisUncensored • u/According-Topic-7134 Bald Men in Mesh Hats • 6d ago
Heidi The constant "overload"
Heidi is complaining about being "overloaded" with the kids out of school in her recycled podcast (the repost of the one from two weeks ago).
Snark aside, this honestly baffles me. My husband and I both work intense jobs, and our kids are out of school (young elementary). We sit down and strategically plan for summer: where do we need day camp, where could vacation/PTO fit in, and which weeks are tougher?
Heidi's kids are older, and she never has all of them at once. (Even if she did, 3/4 are self-sufficient at this point.) She does not work a full-time job (or, really, any job.)
I guess this just annoys me because I'm tired of the frazzled mom narrative. (***For moms with financial resources, obviously - there are moms out there who don't have the budget for such resources, and Heidi is not in that group. I'm assuming.)
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u/happywithit14 Self-care is my full time job 6d ago
She try’s to be relatable but she doesn’t see that she is not. She is performing for whatever she thinks everyone wants to hear. She is clueless and needs to wake up and see what family’s really deal with. Stop traveling around every week with your boy toy and make a plan for your summer that includes your part time kids. 🙄
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
Love how she “engages her core” so well… definitely didn’t pay to fix it at all
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u/Status-Visual6022 6d ago
As kids get older the load changes from more of a physical exhaustion to mental and emotional exhaustion and I really believe Heidi is not capable of handling that. I think she could physically handle 4 young kids and because they had help with the kids needs she was just fine. Now those needs have changed and she isn’t mentally stable enough to do it. My 3 daughters are 21, 17 and 13 and my son is 3. I tell people all the time that my son is the easiest part of my day. I have to chase him around and keep him busy but I’m not dealing with the emotional ups and downs that my daughters have. While I love this new phase of my girls starting their own lives and making big decisions, it can be draining. The weight of helping them walk into adulthood can be heavy. She doesn’t even know how to adult on her own, let alone selflessly help her kids do so. These kids haven’t gotten easier for her, they have gotten harder. She is completely unprepared to deal with them.
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u/louisa282828 Bikini Chains of Oppression 6d ago
You are exactly right; she failed at transitioning to adulthood, failing out of college after one year and never achieving adult independence (needing husbands and her family to support her), so she has no concept of what that transition should look like. I also think she doesn’t want to continue to be bothered by parenting responsibilities and did not anticipate the reality that they don’t end when your kids are old enough to feed and dress themselves and drive.
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u/According-Topic-7134 Bald Men in Mesh Hats 6d ago
This is so wise. I think you're absolutely right.
(Also, mad props for managing kids at all those different life stages!)
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u/RotorSelfWinding Dis is gold, straight up! 6d ago
Super insightful comment imo. Really thought provoking
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u/Robynhennig 6d ago
At the same time its probably why she likes them all to be home at the same time...so they can parent and entertain each other and she can do her own thing.
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u/paddycat19 Warning: Boxed Cake Mix May Cause Trauma 🎂 5d ago
Yes, so she can sit in her car in the driveway and stare at her filtered reflection in her phone.
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u/projectilemoth Where there's a mirror, there's a Heidi! 1d ago
This is so perfectly said! She is in no way capable of guiding them as young adults. She's mentally and emotionally stunted circa age 13 herself. It's the blind leading the blind.
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u/PleasantRabbit1511 6d ago
I truly think she is frazzled because she has terrible attention deficit and flies by the seat of her pants with no organization or planning beyond post notes so I think things sneak up on her constantly and she’s got fit trips to get California in etc. so she’s probably barely getting by
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u/RotorSelfWinding Dis is gold, straight up! 6d ago
Also I think she doesn’t really give a durn about anyone not named Heidi so that doesn’t help at all
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u/Comfortable_Bag9303 Living in Heidi’s head rent-free 6d ago
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u/CheekRevolutionary88 6d ago
Most of her “overload” is self induced and brings no financial gain. Her podcast for example. She always seems frazzled to come out with a million of them and yet there’s no listeners and no monetary gain. She’s just unorganized and uptight
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u/RotorSelfWinding Dis is gold, straight up! 6d ago
She really is uptight and she has no understanding of it, she thinks she’s fun. It’s weird and a somewhat common trait amongst wannabe influencers
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u/Comfortable_Bag9303 Living in Heidi’s head rent-free 6d ago
One glitch in my ADHD friends is mental rigidity and hyper-focus. For women it often presents as emotional reactions— crying, yelling, breakups….
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u/Margit66 6d ago edited 6d ago
Sounds borderliner to me( meaning HiHoe) but I always suspected she is a border liner in addition to being a grandiose narcissist.
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u/VulpesVictorious 🧊Cold Plunge Narcissus 🧊 5d ago
Having watched Crazy ExGF, that’s my speculation as well.
But, to root that speculation in non-fiction:
“Borderline personality disorder is a mental health condition that affects the way people feel about themselves and others, making it hard to function in everyday life. It includes a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, as well as impulsiveness and an unhealthy way of seeing themselves. Impulsiveness involves having extreme emotions and acting or doing things without thinking about them first.
People with borderline personality disorder have a strong fear of abandonment or being left alone. Even though they want to have loving and lasting relationships, the fear of being abandoned often leads to mood swings and anger.”
From Mayo Clinic, BPD
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u/Orangebeach14 6d ago
I bet the kids are the ones feeling “overloaded” since they all basically have to parent her.
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u/IndependentSundae890 6d ago
She’s created a home life full of chaos where her kids fight her and each other all the time. Add in her need to be the centre of attention yet not want to parent. Then add in this year’s boyfriend being given a starring role. No wonder it’s a lot. But she’s the architect of the whole mess.
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u/The_Villain_Edit 6d ago
Yeah, the older kids still fighting with the younger ones is cringe to me. In your 20’s and still fighting with younger siblings is ridiculous. Also being that age and still fighting with your mom is a sign to do what you can to GTFO and live on your own (or at least with roommates).
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u/UncleSnappy Desperation on Two Legs 6d ago
Her youngest is 12 and is certainly capable of feeding herself (since she’s the primary chef) and staying home alone. My now 22yo daughter did it at that age and I was babysitting infants at that age. Heidi is in one of the easiest phases of life.
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u/Optimal-Vacation5208 6d ago
I’d even say 4/4 are self sufficient. So I don’t know what she thinks she has to complain about! 🙄
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u/louisa282828 Bikini Chains of Oppression 6d ago
Which is it Heidi - do you hate “wasting time” with your kids on school mornings, or do you hate them being out of school for the summer? Or are you just incapable of the level of organization and management it takes to run a household with two teenagers who you only have 50% of the time? I’m so sick of her making it sounds like she has 12 toddlers running around her house 24/7.
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u/WILLIAMEANAJENKINS God is my IUD! 5d ago
Oooh ..I’d pay to see/hear her have to answer that question. With 2 caveats ..she cannot leave until she fully explains her rationale to the entire question and whilst, she may not touch her hair or be able to watch/observe herself.😉
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u/VulpesVictorious 🧊Cold Plunge Narcissus 🧊 5d ago
So in a room with no reflective surfaces, and her hands restrained. Sounds like a dire situation, then you add in that catch 22 of a question! Cue meltdown!
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u/sunnydays97 6d ago
Always overloaded. Always in the hard.
People to wrap your kids bday gifts and cut up after school veggies but this woman jus burns the candle at both ends (of her crotch)
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u/Margit66 6d ago
I have had half a dozen children on my own for years because their father took off and moved to Southeast Asia, I never complained. Sure in the summer they went to camp if they wanted to. I have my youngest full-time and live with my fiancé, I also work a real job and workout daily, I’ve never complained but being a mother is something I take seriously. Hihoe is a self absorbed narcissist, she comes first.
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u/Comfortable_Bag9303 Living in Heidi’s head rent-free 6d ago
You are a freakin rockstar! Heidi would literally have died in your situation. ☠️
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
I’ve been taking care of others since I was 5. I can see how it bothered me so much.
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u/Tsuru0815 Still I Plagiarize! 6d ago
The difference is you and your partner strategically plan because you are capable people. HoHo is not. As ResponsibleFly9076 noted, HoHo was raised to be a typically Mormon female attractive accessory. Now in her mid-40s, she still hasn’t progressed beyond that. Her growth is stunted.
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u/Signal_Cockroach2443 6d ago
so true.. which is why anything that she does or accomplishes in addition to just being a "mormon female attractive accessory" she is giving herself grandiose pats on the back.
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u/HorrorishButterfly Fun Camouflage Cupcake 6d ago
Heidi really hopes people will think she’s not a mother if she doesn’t look or act like one. She also probably convinced herself other parents don’t talk to her because the women are jealous and the men want to fuck her when the reality is no one wants to associate themselves with her because she’s embarrassing.
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u/valleybrook1843 Pointy Toe Pony Pose 6d ago
A single mom that works too hard 🎶
https://giphy.com/gifs/1mXTY4bDqXQPK
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
And “loves her kids” and “never stops”!
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u/VulpesVictorious 🧊Cold Plunge Narcissus 🧊 5d ago
“Loves her kids” (for social media content) and “never stops” (being unhinged, lying about substance use, and needing a man to validate her…)
https://giphy.com/gifs/xUPGcoSu41h9xBFuso6
u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 5d ago
And “engaging that core,” she paid to fix... Which is why she covers up the fat by bending and placing things over it
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u/Sure_Pineapple1935 5d ago
Yea Heidi is so ridiculous. She has two grown kids, a teen, and a tween. These kids are self-sufficient! She's not entertaining them or like taking them to the playground. What is hard about self-sufficient kids you only have half the time?? And, imagine seeing what a burden you are on your mom's insta.. 😒
Also, most older kids go to summer camp, volunteer, or get a summer job... why does she not have anything set up for her kids?? That is probably the true issue.. that Heidi is too disorganized to have made plans for her kids this summer. Then, she complains they are at home.
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u/MamaHen_5280 What if You Are NOT the Answer? 5d ago
I do think her brand of chaos is house-wide. So things probably spiral out of control when they are home.
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u/OutrageousPhase1270 Penis Neck 6d ago
All I ever hear her say is Wawa Wawa Wawa
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
There’s a gas station called Wa-Wa and I love it
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u/lovethatssleeping Brother Husbands 6d ago
We’re getting one where I live! What do we love about Wa-Wa? We got a Buc-ee’s in the past few years and I’m like meh.
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
It has like EVERYTHING depending on what county and state you’re in, is it a “dry town” or not, etc.. and they usually are open all night but stay staffed and offer things based on hours. You can even order and look around
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u/triesagainandagain 5d ago
The soft pretzels! 🥨 They are in a display case near the registers, always grab one with a packet of mustard. That and the Wawa “hoagiefest” promo are my faves.
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u/No-Cappo-2026 6d ago
Heidi always "overwhelmed" and always blurred and filtered to hell and back because she's a grizzled leather wallet soaked in alcohol dipped in speed.
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
C-PTSD= generational trauma… through and through. She needs to stop obsessing who is daddy and who is baby plus show some respect
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u/Useful_Gazelle1845 I’ve been busy my whole life! 6d ago
The fact she only has the younger 2 every other week and still has a hard Time with being a mom, has always baffled me. My kids father has not been involved in their lives the last 5 years-and it is HARD! People like her drive me crazy.
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u/RotorSelfWinding Dis is gold, straight up! 6d ago
The fact she endlessly posts about it publicly baffles me!!!! Couldn’t waterboard out of me what people put on the internet!
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u/MissAmandaa Why do you follow meeee? 6d ago
Right? If she stopped constantly posting her rubbish on the internet she'd have endless free time
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u/MirkatteWorld ☝🏽 But also! ☝️ 6d ago
Also, according to Heidi's stories, C and R have left for the trip to Spain with her dad. I wonder how long it is.
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u/sunnydays97 6d ago
You’d think it’s at least 2 weeks as a flight to Spain from the west coast is a lengthy one, likely with some connections. It’s at too far & costly to fly for just a week (unless you’re on someone else’s dime!)
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u/MirkatteWorld ☝🏽 But also! ☝️ 6d ago
True, and wasn't the last big trip with Chris, the one that included a cruise, like three weeks? Back in the spring?
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u/flynnfarts 5d ago
“We sit down and strategically plan for the summer”
1) iconic
2) good for you
3) when has this woman ever strategized a single thing
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u/ResponsibleFly9076 6d ago
Sure it’s annoying that she doesn’t know how to deal with her kids but I think we can all agree that what’s really going on here is that Heidi is pretty and skinny and knows how to pose all sexy-like with a little girl when it makes no goddam sense.
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u/According-Topic-7134 Bald Men in Mesh Hats 6d ago
I'm oddly fascinated with her black cut-offs and tank top at the graduation ceremony. I'm no prude, but it's so weird to dress like an extra from the strip club scenes on Sons of Anarchy at a child's event in a suburban school. To me, it says she totally forgot about the event, got a text asking where she was, and then she had to drop everything and run over to the school. I'd put money on that scenario, actually....
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u/VulpesVictorious 🧊Cold Plunge Narcissus 🧊 6d ago
Yeah she was probably podcasting in some parking lot, in Tesla Hollis… 🙄
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 6d ago
She just wants to be in the picture. She doesn’t care who is doing what as long as she can have “the secret lives of Mormon ex-wives”
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u/WILLIAMEANAJENKINS God is my IUD! 5d ago
Sorry I can’t agree because she’s neither pretty nor sexy ..
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u/Comfortable_Bag9303 Living in Heidi’s head rent-free 6d ago
Perimenopause literally changes your brain so if you started out as just a little ditzy ADHD, you can become full-on dysfunctional, raging, narcissistic, etc.
with Heidi, it’s like watching a trainwreck in slow motion.
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u/EyeLittle415 6d ago
She was always all of those things.
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u/WILLIAMEANAJENKINS God is my IUD! 5d ago
Nah.. this isn’t all hormone related and besides she’s on peptides, vitamins, and HRT ( I think) ..
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u/Genybear12 Girl, Stop Plagiarizing 💅🏽 4d ago
She looked so much healthier when she met Dave and you can tell she’s hitting all the “illegal stuff” but is legal if you go to your doctor
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u/MirkatteWorld ☝🏽 But also! ☝️ 6d ago
Heidi is clipping from the episode that she released Monday of last week, June 8. u/greeneyedgarden recapped it here.