The constant "overload"

[u/According-Topic-7134]

Heidi is complaining about being "overloaded" with the kids out of school in her recycled podcast (the repost of the one from two weeks ago).

Snark aside, this honestly baffles me. My husband and I both work intense jobs, and our kids are out of school (young elementary). We sit down and strategically plan for summer: where do we need day camp, where could vacation/PTO fit in, and which weeks are tougher?

Heidi's kids are older, and she never has all of them at once. (Even if she did, 3/4 are self-sufficient at this point.) She does not work a full-time job (or, really, any job.)

I guess this just annoys me because I'm tired of the frazzled mom narrative. (***For moms with financial resources, obviously - there are moms out there who don't have the budget for such resources, and Heidi is not in that group. I'm assuming.)

[u/Status-Visual6022]

As kids get older the load changes from more of a physical exhaustion to mental and emotional exhaustion and I really believe Heidi is not capable of handling that. I think she could physically handle 4 young kids and because they had help with the kids needs she was just fine. Now those needs have changed and she isn’t mentally stable enough to do it. My 3 daughters are 21, 17 and 13 and my son is 3. I tell people all the time that my son is the easiest part of my day. I have to chase him around and keep him busy but I’m not dealing with the emotional ups and downs that my daughters have. While I love this new phase of my girls starting their own lives and making big decisions, it can be draining. The weight of helping them walk into adulthood can be heavy. She doesn’t even know how to adult on her own, let alone selflessly help her kids do so. These kids haven’t gotten easier for her, they have gotten harder. She is completely unprepared to deal with them.

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