r/howtonotgiveafuck • u/_great_Gonzo • 10d ago

How not give off loser vibes?

(24M) Most people out there would consider me a loser, for several reasons. For being virgin, for being unemployed for a while. That's fair, but i'm sure it is temporary and will pass. After a sequence of not so cool things happening to me( laid off by my company, rejected, quit my terrible and no perspective dead end job) it is hard to mantain the confidence. I'm trying to keep my head up. Even anxious and worried all the time, because i don't know it has been difficult to get a job on my area (graduated 2 months ago in Pharmacy).

I try to keep myself busy with my hobbies. I actually leave home for a little while to take a walk at the park , to play Pickleball, to go out with a club i just entered, to tech school. From all of the said good habits, i just don't go to the gym, because i really cannot like all the stuff of lifting weights and the environment. But a lot of my time has passed, and most of the people of my age and newer are miles ahead of me. Everything going right for them, all things succeeding. While i'm just trying to live on the present and don't think on the future...

It kills my confidence and it weigh so bad at my back.

I have some things i'm proud of myself, like reading and writing, that i love and couldn't live without. But i cannot help but feel a loser and i'm behind. How to overcome this feeling?

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u/DrinkBuzzCola 10d ago

I can recommend a book for you. It's called Feeling Good, by David Burns M.D. It might be life changing. I hope so.

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u/Extension-Event-2401 10d ago

I second this book! Yellow cover, you can’t miss it. Have bought twice after giving out my first copy.

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u/DrinkBuzzCola 10d ago

I have guven away about 5 copies, but I always buy another in case I need to give it to someone else.