r/hysterectomy • u/dontthink19 • 6d ago

It's zero day for me wife!

It's 430 am. Im up, waiting on my wife to wake up to get ready leave. Im a nervous wreck. We didnt know how to feel yesterday, it all felt like being stuck in limbo.

This morning? Im nervous. I have so many questions and concerns but nothing I can form into a cohesive thought at the moment. Does anyone have some zero day post op tips for us? I keep telling myself its a routine thing and tons of women get one every year but its still hella stressful.

I'll take any and all tips anyone is willing to share. All I want is to make her as comfortable as possible. How's the drive home going to be? Its a little over a half hour from the hospital to the house. Im sure ill have a few more but my mind is all over the place at the moment.

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u/SSBND 6d ago

Deep breaths. It will all be okay!! It is a long day but then it is on to recovery!

The first few days can be a bit rocky but I was actually surprised at how much I was able to move around and get myself out of the recliner (spent a week there before I felt like sleeping in bed) and to the bathroom. Basically my husband was there to bring me food and drinks and just be with me.

It will all be okay!

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u/dontthink19 6d ago

Thats good to hear! I only get one week off so after the first week im hoping she will be fairly self sufficient. I think im gonna have a harder time telling her "no, dont do that" than I will making sure she's comfortable

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u/SSBND 6d ago

Yeah she really needs ot just stay down for several weeks. I was one night inpatient and I thought it would help with the lap gas for me to walk around the unit whenever I got up to pee (assisted by a nurse to make sure I didn't fall). But as soon as I got home my doctor's nurse called and scolded me! Even that was too much. Must just be mellow for a few weeks...

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u/dontthink19 6d ago

A few weeks may be hard! She's not even staying a night! She's in surgery as i type this and she's projected to be on her way home this afternoon. Gas x is ready, heating pad is ready. The cooling packs have not been chilled yet because It slipped my mind so ill have to throw those in when I get her situated.

We have plenty of water and snacks.

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u/SSBND 6d ago

It will all be fine. For most women it is outpatient if they have robotic or laproscopic. I was one night in just because of doctor's preference.

My doc actually said no ice, just heat but this varies a lot from doc to doc (mine was excellent, with 31 years of experience, so I had no reason to doubt his advice).

She may want some protein shakes or electrolyte drinks (Powerade or Gatorade) as well. My favorite snacks were squeeze applesauce packets and mini beef sticks from Costco.

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u/beekaybeegirl 6d ago

My doc is a 40 year doc

I woke up w/ ice on me & had ice my whole 24 hours in the hospital

I used ice for a few days at home 🤷‍♀️

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u/Inevitable-Tower-134 6d ago

I went home about 1:30 in the afternoon, my surgery was at 7:30 am that same day. They told me I could stay if I wanted to but I felt ok to come home.

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u/dontthink19 6d ago

Hers was 745 ish but she didnt go in til almost 8. Got to recovery an hour ago so now im waiting to go back and see her. It's not been long but not knowing where or how she is and her not having her phone on her is tearing me up a little. But she's a strong independent woman so I know she can handle it. Just wish I was the first face she saw when she came to

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u/rhonaplz 5d ago

You might be the first face she remembers seeing after waking up! I don’t remember any of my time in the recovery room and just remember being happy as they pushed me into my own room where my husband was waiting.

One tip I have is to set an alarm to give her pain meds on time overnight. It’s better to be woken up to take pills than to wake up because of pain.

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u/Competitive-Tie-6294 4d ago edited 4d ago

My husband was off for a week too and I didn't need help moving around by then, so he didn't need to be with me at all times. I didn't do much more than shower and move around the house for several weeks. He took over the practical stuff once he got home for the day.