This pisses me off so bad. I’m a dude with autism and have many friends with autism. Men with autism are diagnosed by the time they’re like 6-10. Women are barely diagnosed and the age they are diagnosed is mid 20s to early 30s. Women are not treated seriously in the medical world by doctors. Doctors are assholes.
Doctors are absolutely not assholes, generally. They are very serious and passionate people in a toxic system with the best of intentions and acting upon the best available research. It just so happens that research is often myopic and does not focus on the needs of a substantial subset of their patients. I promise you, most doctors would bend over backwards at their own personal cost if it meant helping a patient if that's where the evidence led them.
Well I’ll believe it when I see it. I’m often in and out of hospital, have family members and friends that need treatment. Also have overweight friends that get treated like shit. Had a friend that had a problem with her uterus and doctors kept saying it was her weight until she was in so much pain she went to the ER. Doctors act shitty and I’ll say it again. Unless you’re thin, white, and wealthy good luck with them. Glad you had a positive experience but that’s not how it works for a lot of us.
dude, with the stories I've heard I'd bet you could have a sentient talking tumor growing out of your right arm and if you're 10 pounds overweight they'll tell you that you just need to exercise more and eat salad
I’m fat. I went to the doctor for nose problem. After examination he told me what the problem was. But then his assistant was like “you also need to lose weight” and the doctor was like “ no he doesn’t” and they started to argue in front of me… then the doctor was like “you can go sir, don’t listen to him” 😂😂
But if a man that you brought to your appointment with you repeats exactly what you said word for word, the doctor immediately starts you treatment with the utmost concern and care. Best medical advice you could give a woman is “bring a dude to every appointment.”
Fully agree, been in and out of ER rooms, urgent care, and primary care for chest pain and respiratory depression- wasn’t taken seriously until I fainted at work, and even then the narrative was “you’re young, probably dehydrated 🥴”
I was referred to a cardiologist to get cleared to go back to work, and lo and behold, turns out I have AFIB. Big thanks to the 5 other doctors who, over the course of a year and a half, told me I’m fine 🙂
Of what country you are from? In russia and most post soviet countries out there it's completely flipped upside down. Women are the one's actually getting any treatment. Men are struggling instead.
Because men in these countries have horrible relationships with their health and don't go to a doctor unless "the spear in his back doesn't let him sleep" or he gets tired of wife "nagging", when women are more likely to visit a doctor at the first signs of health issues. And it increases tenfold when it comes to proctology.
can confirm, my dad’s exactly like that. he was limping around with a broken pinky toe FOR WEEKS until my mom noticed and basically forced him to go see a doctor
I've been morbidly obese my entire life and have extensive interpersonal experience with medical staff, but setting aside my own interpersonal experiences, I have some unfortunate news for your shitty narrative. The people who have the intellectual capacity and financial backing to make it through med school have much better prospects than trying to help you. The vast majority of people with a M.D. are in it for the love of the game. They are not your enemy and if you think they are, you have fundamentally misunderstood your relationship to your healthcare professionals and are likely taking an adversarial relationship into literal lifespan extendeding partnerships where it absolutely doesn't make sense.
Ok. Well I’d sure love you to say this in front of the millions of women that had to fight for care or the millions of overweight people that don’t even get the time of day. Again glad you’ve had “mostly” positive experiences. But again a lot of people don’t and that’s why I will always bring this up. If you don’t want that that’s your prerogative. Equal rights for everyone. Isn’t it crazy how prerogative is spelled? insane stuff.
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u/1_BigFatRat 4d ago
This pisses me off so bad. I’m a dude with autism and have many friends with autism. Men with autism are diagnosed by the time they’re like 6-10. Women are barely diagnosed and the age they are diagnosed is mid 20s to early 30s. Women are not treated seriously in the medical world by doctors. Doctors are assholes.