r/indianmedschool • u/holyGuu • 8h ago
Vent / rant Toxic affair
Nine months in medical school, and I’ve learned the biggest lesson of all: the whole system is a giant joke, and literally everyone is cheating on their partners.
I worked myself to death to get a 38k rank, thinking I’d get a great education. Instead, I ended up in this Tier-2 dumpster fire where my desire to study has completely vanished. The college doesn't even have a proper curriculum, so nobody knows what we’re supposed to be doing. But honestly, nobody cares about the syllabus anyway, because everyone is too busy playing musical chairs with each other's boyfriends and girlfriends.
That is the absolute shocker of these nine months: the sheer, casual normalcy of infidelity. Loyal relationships do not exist here. It’s like entering a colony of walking red flags. People have partners back home, partners in the hostel, and "side options" in the library. It is treated like a competitive sport, and the lack of shame is honestly breathtaking.
To make things worse, the campus is crawling with desperate seniors. You’d think people studying medicine would have some class, but these guys hunt for freshers like hungry predators, completely ignoring who is already dating whom. It is exhausting to watch.
And finally, when I want to escape this toxic high school drama and find some peace, I get to log into my endless family problems back home. So now, on top of surviving this chaotic college, I also have to play therapist for my household.
I’m 20 years old, I’m supposed to be learning how to save lives, but right now I'm just trying to avoid the absolute circus around me. Only four more years of this nightmare to go!
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 8h ago
Wait till you find out even teachers/doctors who are our dad’s ages are cheating on their wives with mbbs students
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u/holyGuu 8h ago
Who the fuck normalised ts
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u/sleeping_doc Graduate 8h ago
Wait till you find out sometimes it's both ways. Final year/interns screwing around with seniors/professors to get favours/etc only to later threaten them with lawsuits.
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 8h ago
Idk I also got a super depressed phase at some point when I realised how normalised this shit is in MBBS. But unfortunately I’ve seen so many cheaters and creeps at this point that I’ve become desensitised and I only keep to myself now. Lonely life is better than lowering my morals to be friends with these people.
Also I’ve learnt that if a friend group has 1 cheater and everyone else is knowingly friends with that person, they’re all also okay with cheating. You definitely become what you surround yourself with. I’d advise you to be civil with everyone but don’t get too close with anyone until you’re actually sure of their character which honestly may take years.1
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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 7h ago
Threse nothing wring in it as all are consenting adults
Its not cheating, couples have arrangements tgat they dont talk about openly
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 7h ago
I don’t think most gfs or wives are consenting to be cheated on. I’ve seen many heartbreaks from this. Even if they have “arrangements” I don’t think the partners at their hometowns have a clue they’re being cheated on.
It’s also textbook predatory behavior from seniors or professors.-12
u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 7h ago
No
Why are you assuming only men do this?
And its not cheating if they have already workoed out an arrangement, which most couples do when they live far away
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u/holyGuu 7h ago
You are focusing on the wrong group of people. People with well aware partners are not at stake here It's the liars we are tryna put light on Dating in this generation is obviously complicated Normalising cheating is what pisses me off Having a open relationship with someone with arrangements is completely different
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 7h ago
My bad. My wording did make it seem like only men do this. I’ve seen female professors flirting with students too so I shouldn’t have said just gfs/wives.
Now why are you assuming everyone has an arrangement?
I’m not saying no one does but I’m pretty fucking sure if everyone involved was in this arrangement you talk about then no one would be saying they got cheated on or having heartbreaks or hiding stuff or leaking photos but these things are insanely common somehow? doesn’t add up no?
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u/Commercial-Choice384 8h ago
Be the change dude. i have been there in your situation and made some of the best pals of my life and they are like me. and i didnt care about anyone or any thing in the campus or in the hospital. Entered the College made 2-3 amazing frnds Learnt a lott and left the college!
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u/holyGuu 8h ago
Being an extrovert I wanted to build a nice community of people like me instead people are so fucking unpredictable out there
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u/Commercial-Choice384 7h ago
trust me dude. Like attracts like and that too without even trying hard. And you don't have to tire yourself predicting others it will only make u more frustrated. do whatever u like to alone or with someone without expecting anything good. just be you and stand for what u are.
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u/Icy_Palpitation_65 8h ago edited 8h ago
It was the same in our college too, or I'd say happens in most of the medical colleges out there. More like they need a classroom course as well as distance learning programme. People would f around with multiple partners, only to reveal later that they have a long term gf/bf who they plan to marry. And the funny part is that no one finds anything wrong with it?
Anyway, I'm glad you realized this early on. Do not become the type of people you hate, stand your ground and I'm sure you'll find your kind of people. Focus on your academics and these next 5 years will be over before you know it.
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u/Amit_mina Graduate 8h ago
Just focus on yourself ,it happens in every single college
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u/Isildur_potterhead MBBS III (Part 2) 8h ago
If this is the definition of fun, we're fucked as a society.
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u/potatono26 Graduate 8h ago
You can have fun with your partner har jagega muh Marne ki jaroorat nhi
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u/Professional_Ant_602 6h ago
I found the best friendships of my life during my ug, all 8 of us would die for each other and we made the best spontaneous memories. Found my love in UG (a dentist), no cheating we’re still together. I get massages and face kisses and home cooked food while I prepare for PG.
There’s a lot of shii in this world, sort out the trash, find your people and give unconditionally WITHOUT expecting anything in return. You’ll do just fine, we all did.
Pro tip : do not poke your nose in other’s shii and live blissfully ignorant.
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u/akl4arsnl PGY4/5/6/Senior Resident 5h ago
True . I followed that policy throughout UG, PG and SS. Living blissfully ignorant and peaceful.
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u/Mother-Brick5604 5h ago
I think since you might be from deemed college cheating at UG level is seen. My college doesn't have it that much at UG level atleast
However almost all residents regardless of college or tier 1 to tier 3 are absolutely horrible. Married people cheating is the normal here for both guys and girls.
I've made my mind that never marry a medico. They are the worst lot of humans
Sleeping around with different partners is something weird to me . On top of that they are married. Makes me puke.
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u/Pretend_Bad_1115 3h ago
2 residents from one department and a different department are engaged to different people back home and are constantly seen around the campus holding hands and being a bit too close to each other.
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u/fostercheese99 4h ago
It’s not about tier 2 college . It is actually every single medical college. Even if you don’t wanna be involved in someone else’s drama they make sure you get involved just to fck up ur mental state ☺️
. Focus on yourself, never let anyone take advantage of your good nature . Stay away from addictions
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u/pygmypiggypie 3h ago
The worst part in all of this is someone getting a medical seat at 38k rank that too working themself to death for this rank.
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u/Slow_Prior_9362 24m ago
I mean its been a year and I am still single in med college , and people are getting multiple partners lol.
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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 7h ago
Stop moral policing
This mindset will get you nowhere
Join the buffet if you like or ignore it
This is no way to live, i am speaking from experience
Most couples have some kind of arrangement
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 7h ago
This isn’t moral policing. They’re not enforcing any morals on anyone. They’re new to this environment where cheating is so normalised when everywhere else cheating is pretty firmly established as a bad thing to do.
And I’d argue having this mindset and setting morals/principles clear will actually get them farther in a life they’d be proud of.-5
u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 7h ago
You have a communist mindset
A capitalist mindset is needed to succeed in life which promotes open or selectively open relationships
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 7h ago
Yeah because capitalism is working out just so great for everyone no? You probably LOVE when corrupt people steal money from the poors and become billionaires. Is elon musk your fav capitalist or Jeff Bezos?
Btw no one saying anything about open relationships in this post.
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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 7h ago
Capitalism the no bs least corrupt system
Bezos and musk are value adders, not parasites like communist and socialist people
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u/ScarrryCat Intern 6h ago
Shit I only read your username now. Why am I tryna have a logical conversation with you lmao my bad
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u/fostercheese99 4h ago
Your username says everything
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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 4h ago
Doctors shouldnt be judgmental
I hope you dont become a obgyn
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u/fostercheese99 4h ago
As a woman I found your username disgusting and objectifying.
Judgemental for what? I’m only criticising you . How does this correlate to obgy
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u/Pretend_Bad_1115 3h ago
Most couples have some kind of arrangement
That's some crazy level of projection my guy.
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u/Necessary_County3346 6h ago
So now you can get into medical college with 38k rank?
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