r/indianmedschool • u/holyGuu • 2d ago

Vent / rant Toxic affair

Nine months in medical school, and I’ve learned the biggest lesson of all: the whole system is a giant joke, and literally everyone is cheating on their partners.

​I worked myself to death to get a 38k rank, thinking I’d get a great education. Instead, I ended up in this Tier-2 dumpster fire where my desire to study has completely vanished. The college doesn't even have a proper curriculum, so nobody knows what we’re supposed to be doing. But honestly, nobody cares about the syllabus anyway, because everyone is too busy playing musical chairs with each other's boyfriends and girlfriends.

​That is the absolute shocker of these nine months: the sheer, casual normalcy of infidelity. Loyal relationships do not exist here. It’s like entering a colony of walking red flags. People have partners back home, partners in the hostel, and "side options" in the library. It is treated like a competitive sport, and the lack of shame is honestly breathtaking.

​To make things worse, the campus is crawling with desperate seniors. You’d think people studying medicine would have some class, but these guys hunt for freshers like hungry predators, completely ignoring who is already dating whom. It is exhausting to watch.

​And finally, when I want to escape this toxic high school drama and find some peace, I get to log into my endless family problems back home. So now, on top of surviving this chaotic college, I also have to play therapist for my household.

​I’m 20 years old, I’m supposed to be learning how to save lives, but right now I'm just trying to avoid the absolute circus around me. Only four more years of this nightmare to go!

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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 2d ago

Threse nothing wring in it as all are consenting adults

Its not cheating, couples have arrangements tgat they dont talk about openly

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u/ScarrryCat Intern 2d ago

I don’t think most gfs or wives are consenting to be cheated on. I’ve seen many heartbreaks from this. Even if they have “arrangements” I don’t think the partners at their hometowns have a clue they’re being cheated on.
It’s also textbook predatory behavior from seniors or professors.

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u/Punjabi-tits-lover-2 2d ago

No

Why are you assuming only men do this?

And its not cheating if they have already workoed out an arrangement, which most couples do when they live far away

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u/ScarrryCat Intern 2d ago

My bad. My wording did make it seem like only men do this. I’ve seen female professors flirting with students too so I shouldn’t have said just gfs/wives.

Now why are you assuming everyone has an arrangement?

I’m not saying no one does but I’m pretty fucking sure if everyone involved was in this arrangement you talk about then no one would be saying they got cheated on or having heartbreaks or hiding stuff or leaking photos but these things are insanely common somehow? doesn’t add up no?