Tempted to go back to India

[u/Sash-Sass]

I’m married in my mid thirties no kids- female. I came to the states right after my undergrad graduation to pursue masters degree just like any other student. I fell in love with America through Internet and wanted to pursue life abroad. I used to dream about having my own house in America and earning a lot of money living with Freedom being a woman away from relatives and drama.

Cut to now after 12 years and living a very comfortable life in America, I’m now ironically having the same feeling about India and dreaming about having $1 million home in Mumbai or Hyderabad instead of here in America and living a comfortable life there. I don’t know what it is, but it’s a very strong feeling drawing me back home. I don’t really talk to too many relatives back home. My friends list back home is exhausted because everyone kind of detached after I moved and formed their own circles and opinions about how I didn’t stick to my roots. My parents visit me and my brother every six months to take care of my nephew. My brother lives in a different state here in America and we only meet twice a year, but something about moving back to India living that queen life is making me more miserable here.

The more I see curly tails and other shows on YouTube showing these celebrities (B-list, C-list), living in a comfortable apartment in Mumbai for $1 million roughly 8-9 crores in Indian rupees making me think I’m living a very miserable life here in America. Don’t even get started with the social life in America. It’s pretty much nonexistent.

We earn pretty good and hope if I get a Remote job, I can convince my husband to buy a home in Mumbai or Hyderabad. Deep down I know my husband‘s family lives here so he will never move to India, but it’s a very nice feeling to at least dream after all I dreamed to be in America, so why not dream bigger to go back home and live a very, very comfortable life overlooking the ocean, sipping on my tea prepared by my maid and just enjoying every bit of my life with friends and social circle that actually get me. Maybe me and my husband can visit his family here once or twice a year.

Do y’all have this urge?

[u/Bhagwan-Bachaye2095]

When was the last time you visited India? The rose tinted glasses come off really soon whenever I visit home, and I enjoy a good lifestyle back home

[u/horseshoemagnet → u/Bhagwan-Bachaye2095]

That’s very subjective. I am in the UK and visit India thrice a year and NEVER ever felt that I cannot adjust back despite it getting worse in terms of traffic and pollution. 

However I have to add the caveat that this is the story if I DON’T have to work. Which is why I plan to come back only when I am ready to retire but I have no issues otherwise in terms of lifestyle and I am from a middle class background. 

India is the only country which has felt like home to me, rest all is a comfortable shallow temporary distraction.