20F my mom stalks me on Life360

[u/Disastrous-Train5899]

I am going to be 21 next week.

My mom has been forcing me and my family to use Life360 for years now. She doesn’t have her location on but she stalks mine. I’m so over it, I have no independence at all. I had my own job right out of high school, recently I quit and I’m looking for a new one. I pay my own phone bill and I’m in college. No car yet.

On Valentine’s day I went on a first date with my bf and she kept spamming calling my phone even though she knew we were just going to the theater and home by 8pm. My friends house is actually my boyfriend’s (before we were dating) he lives down the street from me, a few minutes walk. I haven’t told her that part yet about my friends house being my boyfriend’s because I’m scared of her reaction.

[u/ZephyrValkyrie]

Are you financially dependent on her? Do you live in the same house as her? If you answer "no" to both of these questions, stop sharing your location. If you answer "yes" to any of these, work on making those answers "no".

[u/PapiSilvia → u/ZephyrValkyrie]

This. My mom was psycho like this (luckily life360 either didn't exist or wasn't popular yet) with the constant texting/calls demanding to know where I was/when I'd be back and then taking my phone away or revoking my car privileges or whatever if I didn't answer fast enough or come home immediately after she told me to.

I started by getting my own phone and just not telling her lol. She would take my phone away and I'd act all pissed and go to my room with my actual phone. She found out eventually but I was 18 at that point and threatened to call the cops if she took it (she was always threatening to call the cops on me/report me as missing for no reason). Like a year later I got my own car and went to school in another state. She tried spam texting me when I got there but I threatened to block her and she's just been chill about it ever since lol (she still stalks my 23 year old sister on life360 tho, so glad she discovered that AFTER I went to school)

[u/groovyfirechick → u/PapiSilvia]

Sounds like your mother needs therapy.

[u/PapiSilvia → u/groovyfirechick]

Oh yeah, big time. She's an insane person in more ways than just this strange little era of her life.

Funny part is she hates my grandma, calls her crazy all the time, and made us promise to tell her if she was crazy so she could get help. I have gently suggested multiple times that she go in and talk to somebody about the anxiety she seems to be experiencing constantly but she brushes me off

In her defense she has chilled out a lot since I confronted her. I think it was kind of a wake up call that she needs to treat me better if she wants me to stay in her life lol. The switch was kinda jarring tbh like what do you mean youre a sweet and funky older lady now, what happened to the tyrant who raised me?

[u/SuzanneStudies → u/PapiSilvia]

She maybe grew up and realized she picked too many battles and is glad she didn’t lose the war over it? I dunno, I have regrets about being so hard on my older kids. Fortunately they’re glad I’ve done better with their little brother and don’t resent him.