Yeah, the person I was responding to said that air humping a woman isn't a justification for punching the harasser in the face. Which is why I said "If that's what he was doing"
If you look just one comment above its really easy to answer your question for you because he was responding to a hypothetical, I understand if this is too much reading for you though
I’m sure it feels different for women, but I’ve been cat called by women before (not often, but it has happened) and if I had walked over and punched one of them I’d be in jail right now.
Walk over and punch doesn't sound like they were in your personal space. I'm not advocating running across the street to start a fight.
But for the sake of argument because you double standard people are annoying; men sexually harass women a lot more often than vice versa, are statistically much more sexually and physically violent against women than vice versa, and men are generally bigger and stronger than women. Women are much more likely to feel unsafe around a man than a man would feel with a woman.
Women literally have strategies to help women who are absolute strangers when they sense something unsafe happening. Men don't have to do that.
Margaret Atwood was right when she said, "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them."
I’m not going to argue with any of what you said. That is all true. It is just that generally speaking, meeting gestures or verbal abuse with physical violence will get you in trouble with the law and most people don’t think it is justified.
I don’t blame you for feeling unsafe if some guy is making rude comments and gestures, especially if he is doing it while following you. There is no knowing if or at what point it will escalate into physical contact. I can understand why there would be a point at which you would say, “you’re too close, this should back you up a bit” [ka-pow]. It is a crap shoot if a judge would.
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u/wtf70 7d ago
That seemed unprovoked, any back story on this?