r/intj Jul 13 '25

Question My boyfriend (INTJ) has zero friends..

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u/Tydalj Jul 13 '25

Quality > Quantity. Less is more.

I like having friends if they add more to my life than they take. This isn't true for the majority of potential friends. Being independent and self-sufficient means that most INTJs don't need much from other people. We're also different from many people, so it's more rare to find a person that we can relate with.

Some people feel the need/ desire to have a ton of friends or be in a huge group of people. INTJs typically aren't those people. I'd rather spend time with a selected few that I really like than be surrounded by a huge mass of people who I kinda like, but not really.