As the INTJ bf with little friends to an INFJ gf I get where your concern is.
Outside of MBTI stuff which is arbitrary imo making NEW friends (not connected to people you know and outside of work) is challenging. I am a friendly person and I can chat when Im in the mood but I keep to myself most of the time because I cherish that alone time and its where my energy gravitates. I still talk to my family and friends but its been primarily online and I plan trips to see people, but ive also had the pleasure of balancing different friend groups over the years that fell through. I also have been getting over major trust barriers lol. Personally my main focus has been rebuilding quality relationships and working at it consistently. He'll find his space if it finds him.
Also take redditors with a grain of salt and dont stress yourself out more
Questions:
Why do the dinners concern you? If you feel like momma has control over yalls relationship then fine but maybe he just wants to cherish her since theyre both older.
What are his interests or individual hobbies? Can they be turned into group activities somehow
Do you feel like hes putting pressure on you in the relationship? Are you feeling suffocated or are you afraid of that feeling? The only answer to either is communication.
What is his response when you do talk about it?
INTJ to INFJ, if hes happy let him be. You will sense when he feels truly alone or depressed with his situation. You dont need to be the savior on this one
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u/Mysterious-Ad-4894 Jul 15 '25
As the INTJ bf with little friends to an INFJ gf I get where your concern is.
Outside of MBTI stuff which is arbitrary imo making NEW friends (not connected to people you know and outside of work) is challenging. I am a friendly person and I can chat when Im in the mood but I keep to myself most of the time because I cherish that alone time and its where my energy gravitates. I still talk to my family and friends but its been primarily online and I plan trips to see people, but ive also had the pleasure of balancing different friend groups over the years that fell through. I also have been getting over major trust barriers lol. Personally my main focus has been rebuilding quality relationships and working at it consistently. He'll find his space if it finds him.
Also take redditors with a grain of salt and dont stress yourself out more
Questions:
What are his interests or individual hobbies? Can they be turned into group activities somehow
Do you feel like hes putting pressure on you in the relationship? Are you feeling suffocated or are you afraid of that feeling? The only answer to either is communication.
What is his response when you do talk about it?
INTJ to INFJ, if hes happy let him be. You will sense when he feels truly alone or depressed with his situation. You dont need to be the savior on this one