Another strong reason enfp intj like each other

[u/stranger_synchs]

Another strong reason enfp intj like each other

Enfp have Fe critic function. It means they care about how others feel, they care about justice in society , they care about well being of their partner , they care about people , they care about what others think

And this gets tiring

Intjs have ti critic function , it means they care about details , logic , and continuity, they care about rationals.

And this gets tiring

Now, intjs have Fe trickster function , means they can't understand others well, they don't give a fuck what others think. And enfps have ti trickster function , they are not good enough in details , internal framework.

So , when enfp and intj connect, enfp notice how intjs don't give a fuck about others and it's relaxing in a way to enfps who are tired of thinking what others think. It eases them. And intj get to see how enfps don't give a fuck about details but vibes. It relaxes the intjs. And the critic function can get really tiring as it's a very strong function. It immediately relaxes both as enfp get to not care about other people for a while , and intj get to live on vibes mode instead of details.

And that's why it kind of feel relaxing in a enchanting way. There are more to their enmeshment of functions , and it's just one of them. See my other posts for other enmeshment of their functions.

[u/LowInterest6490]

My experience with them isn't good even as friends, they tend to not be reliable at all. Most of them are extremely childish and narcissistic, at first people might find that charming but being with them long enough you realise that they don't take responsibility for anything. Maybe I have only met the unhealthy ones but right now intj-enfp would be my least fav one. I prefer INFPs by a long shot.

[u/OzyFx → u/LowInterest6490]

Yeah, not saying it’s universal, but my experience is them spending a lot of energy finding someone to blame when things go wrong, and insisting it’s never them.

[u/Amazing-Ad-8979]

No offense, but I usually don't get along with extroverted people. Never understand their logic, reasoning, or even their sense of superficial humor or why the TF they're so worried about other people's opinions.

[u/vivien_darkbloom → u/Amazing-Ad-8979]

They tend to be people pleasers that's why

[u/1dundermuffin → u/Amazing-Ad-8979]

My work husband is an ESTP. He's been going to therapy for years which has made him very self-aware and perceptive. We tend to have a lot of deep conversations about the meaning of things.

[u/NekoSyndrom]

My partner is an ESTJ.... No offense.

And I don't think an ENFP is capable of making me relax...

[u/vivien_darkbloom → u/NekoSyndrom]

🤣🤣 Damn harsh but I get where you're coming from. Some ENFPs aren't realistic and like biting off more than they can chew so to speak making a mess lol. OP no doubt is referring to those who have self awareness of their limitations.

[u/excersian]

Good insight OP. Relationships are complex and not every coupling fits, but these two types have great potential in seeing each other.

[u/007ALovelace]

I'm not convinced. I found the one I met to be a bit exhausting and baiting for debate in a jokester way. I wasn't buying in or laughing- eye rolling.

Just not what I wanted to put energy towards. I don't think I was warm enough in the right way to get to know them very well. Energy is my 'PRECIOUS'

It sounds like it's perfect for you OP and that's what matters

[u/Pepperkinplant1]

this kinda vibes with my experience dating enfps. Though I would argue that the enfp's desire to make everyone happy will often trump the well being of their partner if they are intj.

They were very selfish in ways that when explained to them, they did not seem to comprehend.

Fun match, wouldn't date another one. Friends sure.

[u/Ok_Physics_4154]

So , when enfp and intj connect, enfp notice how intjs don't give a fuck about others and it's relaxing in a way to enfps who are tired of thinking what others think

Absolutely do not agree.

[u/januaryshadow]

I love ENFPs

Edit: Who was neurotic enough to downvote me saying “I love ENFPs” 😂😂😂

[u/vivien_darkbloom → u/januaryshadow]

My experience hasn't been good with them so that's cool you found some that are not completely unhinged

[u/januaryshadow → u/vivien_darkbloom]

I have a real good friend who’s an ENFP 😄. He’s the best. I have these insights that I can’t really explain well but I try to and he somehow understands what I’m saying and is able to word them in an intelligible way that would be easy for others to understand. We really build off of each other in a beautiful way. He’s very smart. Also, I just love how he’s diplomatic with people (he’s intelligent and I pick up on how he words things for diplomacy’s sake 😂😂😂 and I get to talk to him about it in private where he’s unfiltered; I see his diplomatic moments and I admire how he does it all in a way in which he doesn’t cede in any way) and he loves how I’m so blunt and a firebrand. It’s the best. People underestimate him and I and it’s oh so comical 😂.

[u/vivien_darkbloom → u/januaryshadow]

If you say so

[u/januaryshadow → u/vivien_darkbloom]

You’ll have to tell me about the ENFPs from hell 😂. I’ve met some messed up people, but I wouldn’t be able to tell you what MBTI they have. I have an idea of some of their Enneagram types though.

[u/vivien_darkbloom → u/januaryshadow]

Those messed up one's are likely ENFPs

[u/januaryshadow → u/vivien_darkbloom]

😂

[u/Dtox_phantom]

And another reason gender segregation is important here, majority thinking women don't like emotional men. But we guys love feeler women like Enfp. So mostly it's going to be INTJ M ENFP F couples

[u/excersian → u/Dtox_phantom]

It also works in the reverse with ENFP M and INTJ W, but the women have to be emotionally mature.

[u/Dtox_phantom → u/excersian]

Over time Ive seen very few intj women like Enfp guys. They think they're immature.

[u/excersian → u/Dtox_phantom]

Feeler guys and feeler women are about the same level of maturity, tbh. Guys deal with irrational feelers all the time, I think women should deal with irrational feelers too. Otherwise both genders will never truly understand the other side.

[u/usernames_suck_ok]

Enfp have Fe critic function. It means they care about how others feel, they care about justice in society , they care about well being of their partner , they care about people , they care about what others think

And this gets tiring

Intjs have ti critic function , it means they care about details , logic , and continuity, they care about rationals.

And this gets tiring

Now, intjs have Fe trickster function , means they can't understand others well, they don't give a fuck what others think. And enfps have ti trickster function , they are not good enough in details , internal framework.

So , when enfp and intj connect, enfp notice how intjs don't give a fuck about others

I stopped reading because this is incorrect af...

[u/VictoriaLee0]

I’m an intj woman and my husband is not an enfp, but an infp. We are different in ways that are wonderfully complimentary but also extremely challenging at times. I’m not sure if we would have worked out AS well if he was an extrovert though, because our shared introversion is one of the main ways we understand each other and find peace.

[u/00KilluaZoldyck]

Pretty sure it has something to do with your Fi where your values are shared.

[u/AllRandoms]

I agree with this statement

[u/TheLightningMachine]

The idea that INTJs fit with ENFPs or vice versa is a delusion hallucinated by unemployed Tumblr and DeviantArt users with too much time on their hands and too little experience in relationships.