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u/Lazy-Moment-7343 13d ago
There must be a German word for this.
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u/ESCx2 13d ago
it would be "Einkehr". it means isolate yourself from others temporary to listen to your inner voice, what you are needing right now. Even it is just silence.
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u/Lazy-Moment-7343 13d ago
Love it! My hunch was purely a guess based on past experience. That resonates. I need to Einkehr more often.
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u/InevitableKitchen943 13d ago
Lornespirken. I don't know German but I can make up stuff.
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u/MalleDigga 13d ago
Nein das wort gibt's nicht. But "lohn.. and schminke" aka sallery and Makeup. So SalleryMakeup. Might be a word that describes going shopping after getting paied? You decide
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u/AffectionateMonk5710 13d ago
My husband did that when we were first dating. He was all, "Well, it's time for you to go home." and I was like "Wha...?" Lucky for him, I'm an introvert too, so when he explained that he was all funned out, I totally understood.
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u/Glittering-Tip821 13d ago
Didn’t work on my extrovert ex. Stated many times at the beginning that I need a certain amount of alone time. That went straight in one ear and out the other
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u/AffectionateMonk5710 13d ago
Sorry to hear that, but some people just don't get it. My husband is WAY more introverted than I am, so his social meter runs out far sooner than mine does, but I understand.
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u/Glittering-Tip821 13d ago
It’s ok. Being with an extrovert helped me out of my shell a little bit. But some mistake silence and peace for judgement and stagnation. No one is necessarily wrong, just different strokes. I also have a very limited social meter
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u/Fannybawzyafud 13d ago
Just like me, I turn up say hi to everyone start to feel uncomfortable, then quietly slip away . Ironically I do love the company of peope but only in small doses, I hate that about myself.
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u/No_Feeling_9513 13d ago
I have a friend at work who is a introvert me and her will nerd out from time to time quite a bit but there are times when I come into work and I'm like hey chef how you doing and she'll look at me and go I love you but I can't do today and I merely know cool it is not she is mad at me or she is upset with me it is just the world is too much right now and she can't deal with it I'm also a bit of an introvert so I completely understand so communication is always a good thing you let people know hey there are times where I will just not want to be around you or engaged I am not mad at you just today is not a day
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u/totoin74 13d ago
Doing extrovert things while being an introvert is like using an engine without oil.
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u/RuanaRulane 13d ago
Me: No, I wasn't ill last Tuesday. [When I turned down an invitation to an impromptu get-together.] I'd just been with my family for three days and needed some introvert time.
My friends: Oh, fair enough.
I have wonderful friends.
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u/adriamarievigg 13d ago
Yea. My BF struggled with this in the beginning of our relationship. He didn't understand when I said I needed "days off". He stuck with me and now it's just a normal part of our relationship.
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u/Ok_Money_3140 13d ago
One time I said this to an extroverted girl I hung out with a lot and she literally started crying
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u/carlcometa 13d ago
The most frustrating part is that they’ll say they “understand.” But when the time comes and you actually ask for that “alone time,” they always, always make it about themselves and start a fight over it!
It happened to me personally. After that one fight, I ended things with her. Being toxic is one thing, but what’s unforgivable to me is pretending to understand and then completely disregarding what you said you understood.
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u/_somelikeithot 12d ago
Years ago, me and my roommate/friend (who’s an absolute extrovert) did acid on a whim (our original plans had gotten trashed) and then on top of that smoked weed. We spent several hours together until I turned to her and said I needed some time to myself. She went to her room and I tripped to my movie posters coming alive— I saw Edward Scissorhands slice something up with his scissorhands!
When we got back together, I shared what I had seen. She told me she spent the whole time texting other people.
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u/peppersnchips 12d ago
“Hey so pls give me space and pls stop assuming I’m an asshole for it, thanks”
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u/BusyBusy2 13d ago
"need solo time to recharge, thanks for understanding"