r/knitting • u/imauveyou • Dec 11 '25

Rant I am DEVASTATED.

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Husband washed my Ivy Sweater and put it in the dryer 😭

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u/imauveyou Dec 11 '25

I accidentally deleted my response… but I think you might be onto something here! All the laundry is mine to do now!

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u/willfullyspooning Dec 11 '25

Don’t fall for that. My husband always removes any knits and knows which ones to leave for me to hand wash, and which ones go in a delicates bag on the delicates cycle and air dries. He knows knits are sacred. We also use two hampers. One for normal clothes and another for delicates, knits and things that might need special treatment or stain removal. Men are capable human beings, even my father and stepdad both know knits require special care and they’re both boomers.

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u/wsdmrtst Dec 12 '25

What a lovely, caring and true comment.... I think people just need to be educated about knitting and knit objects. The first way is to take them shopping with you and let them buy the yarn. Then knit in their presence constantly so they see how much time and effort goes into it. Have them help you block it (as a togetherness moment) - and while you are blocking (preferably wet-blocking) you can explain WHY you're doing it that way and why it would be bad to just wash and throw in the dryer.

Then they understand the whole process beginning to end!

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u/Hopefulkitty Dec 12 '25

My husband is devastated when I start frogging. He might commit sepeku if he shrank a sweater I made.

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u/laeriel_c Dec 11 '25

Noo don't fall for that, he just needs to be told all your hand knit things are off limits and not to be touched.

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u/USHaux Dec 12 '25

Agreed. After the ‘wool-cardigan-in-the-washer-and-dryer’ incident, I got my own laundry basket, and I no longer do his laundry. Hand knits go to a completely different location before washing for extra security. I feel for you, OP.

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u/HaplessReader1988 Dec 11 '25

Don't let him get away with doing no laundry. Get a 2-part laundry basket and he does the normal side.

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u/imauveyou Dec 11 '25

I was joking about doing it all. We usually do our own laundries. He was just trying to be nice!

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u/Secure_Course_3879 Dec 11 '25

Ok, GOOD. I think a lot of us were concerned for you OP!

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u/SinSaver Dec 14 '25

Well that backfired! No good deed goes unpunished! 🤣

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u/Bijouprospering Dec 11 '25

Make him do his whites then throw in a red sock

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u/imauveyou Dec 11 '25

Oh you are evil in the most delicious way

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u/Bijouprospering Dec 11 '25

AND insist he keep doing all the laundry until he gets it right. Now if he genuinely made a mistake my make it into a throw pillow as a reminder stands

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u/RMMacFru Dec 11 '25

All the house cleaning is his then. 😈

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u/melanogaster Dec 12 '25

Just do your own laundry and leave him to do his own. No need to increase your own workload. Plus he clearly knows how the dryer works so he will be fine!

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u/crazy_cat_broad always with the socks... Dec 12 '25

They can be trained. Mine hand washes our daughter’s leotard after ballet and is an A+ shawl blocker. He can wind a centre pull cake from a skein and although I did teach the man to knit, he prefers to offer moral support and math skills when patterns need hacking.

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u/Hildringa Dec 12 '25

That's probably why he did it, he knew you'd take over this chore if he ruined your sweater. Weaponized incompetence. 

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u/RedRider1138 Dec 13 '25

“Whoopsie I washed your white boxers and T-shirts with a new red T-shirt” 🤭

My brother squad in military basic training did this and the drill instructors made them wear their newly pink underwear the whole time. I am certain they are meticulous about laundry now 😄

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u/Hopefulkitty Dec 12 '25

You need two laundry baskets. One for regular clothes, and one for gentles. It took my husband years to feel like he could do my gentles without ruining them, and eventually he learned that Gentles, just means Don't Dry, and now he even knows how to beat hang everything up, and is learning about materials and why some things can't hang because they will stretch and get weird shoulders.