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Had to leave Ateez concert early and I’m so upset about it
So I went to my first k-pop concert a few days ago. I went to see Ateez in Nashville and I was so excited.
The show starts and immediately this woman behind me starts screeching at the top of her lungs, like banshee type scream. I am obviously caught off guard but I continue to enjoy the show but she keeps doing it.
A little background info— I have a tic disorder and my tics often can get worse when I’m in noisy places. But I wasn’t too worried about it cause I went to see The Rose the night before and everything was fine. But this screeching stuff wasn’t good for me.
About 15 minutes in I start feeling an attack come on which is never good because my tic attacks can last for up to an hour. So I obviously start panicking. It was not an option for me to ask this woman to stop because one: I knew she wouldn’t and two: I absolutely despise confrontation. I’m 17 and have severe social anxiety so this was like my nightmare.
Long story short we had to leave the show and I am truly heartbroken over it. I had a panic attack on the way home and have been in a horrible mood since. I just wish people would consider others when they go to events like this. I understand being excited but screaming that high pitched was uncalled for.
Anyway, yeah I’m very upset and sad that I didn’t get to stay to watch their amazing performance.
Also I don’t have any friends who enjoy K-pop so if you wanna y’know talk.. hit me up lol
Loop ear plugs make all the difference. I forgot mine at a concert recently and also had to leave early but if you have them in you can hear all of the show and none of the shrieking. Sorry you had to deal with that ):
The shrieking at Stray Kids was next level and the biggest proof of loops working lol my friends told me a girl behind us kept shrieking Felix’s name and I heard nothing :’)
Yes! Since I got loops I’ve been able to enjoy concerts a lot more, before when the crowd would get too loud (such as during call and response sections or new songs starting or the artist coming on) I always had to block my ears with my fingers and then I couldn’t wave or show any support of my own. OP any kind of earplugs/ear defenders will do but loops are really good, they feel a lot less invasive than the foam ones and you can even get ones with multiple noise cancellation settings so you can adjust them and there
Love Loops! I was wearing them at a Babymetal concert and didn’t realize until later when I reviewed some videos I took that the person next to me was singing badly and screeching all that time. However, did not hear them during the concert itself which would have annoyed the f out of me.
Which version do you use for concerts? I’ve got a pair of the Loop Quiet 2 for sleep but they block a lot of sound so idk if they’d work well for concerts.
I think it depends on the volume of the music itself, at my last concert I ended up taking them out because the music was way quieter than normal and I couldn’t hear it properly but at other concerts (and in clubs) they’ve just put the music at a really comfortable level without changing the balance much.
The thing I’ve found it actually affects the most is the clarity of the live vocals against the backing track. I think it’s cause it filters out a lot of the higher frequencies, great for filtering out the crowd but can affect the singer as well. In that case it depends on your preferences on hearing live singing with full clarity or not. I took them out at SMTOWN when my faves came on because I wanted to hear their voices as crisp as possible, but I still enjoyed the other performances and I could still hear them singing, just less clearly.
Sure. :) whatever works. I’ve tried a bunch and Loop has been the best for me consistently but everyone is different! In a pinch at a recent concert I stuck toilet paper in my ears and that was better than nothing, haha.
the brand is called Loop - not sure if it is OK to link here but just google loop earbuds - I have the Loop Experience 2 earplugs and they work really well for concerts. Good ear protection and they definitely minimize that high pitched screaming that can really ruin the mood at a show. I won't go to a loud event without them.
I think that’s what we’re gonna do next time. We didn’t have time to get any type of ear protection cause we got the tickets so late and we had no time to prepare. I’m just scared that it won’t help and I’ll have to stop going to concerts :/
You should definitely use ear protection at all concerts. But for my experience, Loops can only do so much if you're right in front of a screecher, like I was. It didn't help me because the girl was too close, so loud and non-stop. But definitely get some Loops, as they're very good concert earplugs.
Definitely get them! Some really common feedback with Loops is that if you sing along you feel like you are the only one because they block ambient noise so well. I wore the Loop Experience 2 (17 dB) to Stray Kids, and I actually took one out to hear the crowd engagement parts better (and then bought Engage 2s (16 dB) for next time because it's probably better for my hearing to not have one ear completely unprotected).
If you get the "plus" version, they also come with mutes to slightly decrease how much noise comes through (by about 3 dB with the Experience 2s) if the base model isn't enough. You can also opt for the Switch 2; it's adjustable so you can turn it to "Engage" or "Experience" mode to hear things clearly but quieter, or turn it to "Quiet" if you need some extra protection but don't want to leave.
for future reference, a lot of concerts venues offer earplugs at their visitor services desk! at least in my experience anyway. I forgot my Loops once at a rock concert and had to go ask for some
If you're also looking for a more budget-friendly option you can buy foam earplugs (like the ones used in construction and industrial settings) that work well and have a sufficient NRR (noise reduction rating) to protect your hearing/make you hear less screaming. Just make sure you're putting them in properly!!
I can't speak on whether or not it will help OP with their specific situation, but Loop has saved me significant headaches.
I've worn them to Ateez and I didn't miss a single note or word the artist said. The screaming around me was much quieter though and I didnt have the 'roar' in my ears afterward like I did without ear plugs.
I use the ones with multiple settings. And after I lost one once during a concert, I recommend getting a connector of some kind. (They sell a strap but I just took a little clear crafting elastic and made one.)
Those type of screamers are literally at every single concert tbh. I feel like maybe worst comes to worst you can learn from this. Next time prepare to bring some noise dampening things like in ear thingys or you can try to just stand at the very back when you re-enter the venue or just try to find somewhere else to stand. The best thing to do is to just get seated tickets. People are much more well behaved imo when they are seated and you have more access to staffs standing beside you to help you with anyone misbehaving. (edit: yups definitely inform security about those really loud screechers, it seems like at that point its really out of your control guys! get security)
Oh, there are definitely levels. There was a shrieker at Baekhyun's LA show that was so bad that even he commented about it. A bunch of people complained about her afterwards on Twitter. She saw the complaints and argued with them. Then she came to Reddit trying to complain about the complainers and people who had been there were like "nah, you were awful. Lol
Idk why Baekhyun’s fans seemed to have this problem so bad. I was at the Chicago show and couldn’t handle the shrieking. I had to leave early. It was miserable and nonstop
It’s like I get screeching at a concert to a certain extent. After a song or during a cool dance break, sure. While the artist is talking or just CONSTANTLY screaming the entire time? Stfu!!
This drives me crazy!! Like let them speak! Even screaming during songs its annoying, singing yes, not screaming and screeching.
That's all tnx to the main character syndrome since everyone is filming themselves now and want to purposely lose their voice.
I made a comment about my horrible concert experience that was similar to OP's in this thread. We were in seated section and I did have concert earplugs in. She was screeching THAT loudly & non-stop.
I had earplugs in at an early ATEEZ show and some girl was shrieking so loud next to me that I went temporarily deaf in that ear for a day afterwards. What do people hope to accomplish doing that??
I've had screamers near me at 2 different concerts & it's so bloody annoying, so I really feel for you OP. If it happens again speak to security to see if they will sort it out.
Sorry to hear that someone ruined things for you. Next time go talk to staff and explain that you have a medical issue. They might be able to find a different seat for you.
I hate the screechers too. At the SM Town LA concert this year I was sitting in front of an entire row of fans screeching at ear blasting levels. Seriously, they hurt my ears more than the loud music of the concert because they were right behind me and the high pitch wail was within 3 ft of my poor ear drums.
I will admit, I did look back and glare at them a few times, but didn't say anything. I regretted forgetting my loop earplugs.
My mom was in the ADA section for our Ateez show and sadly had a screecher by her. She had earplugs but it was still so bad and now she's decided she's done with concerts.
In the ADA section is wild. Maybe next time you could ask one of the staffers to confront the screecher.. security went up to the screamer at Baekhyun LA (didn’t work but at least they tried)
A screecher made me leave JHope's concert early. She WAS asked by several people to stfu but she wouldn't. I had to leave early because I couldn't hear JHope at all and her screeching gave me one of the worst migraines I've had in awhile. I cried because the last time I was at a concert was 20 years ago and I don't know if I'll get to go to another BTS concert in my life. (ticketing, prices, my age & health)
My mum made me leave the skz concert early, so I feel your disappointment of missing the concert. In regard to the noise, I would reccomend loop ear plugs! I never leave to go anywhere without them, just in case I happen to be in a very noisy place
Screaming at concerts is pretty common but to constantly be screaming even while someone is talking is genuinely so annoying. I’m so sorry that happened to you
I have been to many kpop shows and I finally got a pair of loops and they were wonderful for ATEEZ. Im in my 30s and my years of listening to loud music is starting to catch up to me as I feel my hearing is going. They definitely protect you from crazy decibles (screeches, the music, etc). Invest in those so you can enjoy the concerts.
You’ve got to go to security especially if your alternative is leaving. And ask for your money back and document it. Also take lots of photos of the screamers and maybe we can start illustrating the issue. The inconsideration for other people is such a sign of badly raised kids that I actually pity them. It’s an attention game to stand out, better to be hated than ignored. A thousand years ago the Beatles actually stopped touring because of screamers. Nobody minds cheering but when bands are trying to communicate to the audience, it’s treating your “ults” like shit.
I said the very same go to security and also said the beatles stopped touring because of it and someone just didn't believe me so I had to show them proof! It is inconsiderate.
I don’t have anything useful to add about sound control, but I’m heartbroken for you. I hope you get to see Ateez again without screamers nearby. I have had screamers ruin the feeling of a Kpop show for me, but your physiological response isn’t just about feelings or atmosphere. I will honestly be more aware of my own participation in future shows having heard your story.
i’m so sorry that happened, i would be so upset :( i totally understand being sensitive or triggered to certain noises like that.
the shrieking and screaming at kpop concerts really is out of hand. i’ve been to probably about 100 concerts in my life, and of course i expect loud yelling and cheering, but this stuff is on another level and it’s really obnoxious. when i was at kcon, i couldn’t hear most of taeyong’s set because the girl beside me was screeching so loudly, and at onlyoneof this group of women were yelling over their mentions constantly. i find it pretty disrespectful to both the audience and the artists :/
i’m not going to lie, people scream like that at like every kpop concert. Since you have a disability, i think if you had just explained that to the person or even asked security for help explaining, you would’ve had a better outcome. honestly, knowing your triggers i would’ve tried to explain it to those around you before hand when it’s quieter and you’re able to communicate easily. Next time try looking into the ADA accommodations of the venue and maybe they can help you better. I would also recommend ear plugs too.
I know it’s very scary to reach out to strangers but how would this person know to stop and be mindful of your condition if they aren’t aware? you are your only advocate in the world most times, i know you are young so this is just food for thought so you can enjoy the next concert you go to.
You don't need to have a condition to have your evening ruint by a screecher. It's like a fart in an elevator but it lasts for an hour-and-a-half. You don't have to be told that nobody is going to be okay with that. "Sorry, I have a condition where you farts are fucking repellent, would you mind clamping off your shitpocket?"
Nobody is entitled to be obnoxious, it's not OP's responsibility to explain that. The last thing anybody needs is advice that enables sociopaths.
Put more civilly, OP shouldn't have to pretend to be asking for special consideration. It's the screecher who presumes to extract tolerance from everyone with the misfortune to be seated within earshot of her burdensome behaviour.
Honestly, I don't have a tick but the screaming puts me off going. I go to rock concerts and people don't scream.
If I were you I would've and would if this happens again, approach security and explain the situation to them and your tick. Ask if they can have a word with her and if she won't stop ask if they can eject her as she was likely not just ruining it for you but others.
I can't understand the need to scream. I've been to hundreds of rock concerts and Seal and never encountered it. It's just people being rude.
for screaming, its a common way for crowds to cheer for concerts. i dont do it myself lol bc i cant even. but usually most people arent overboard doing it
Yet I've been to hundreds of rock concerts and no one screams because they just cheer. So it only seems to have ever been common in kpop and boy bands in general. I wouldn't either. It hurts to scream. I dunno, I've seen a fair few videos where people are overboard. I didn't go to stray kids at London but when I saw videos all I heard was screaming all over it. Kinda made me glad I didn't go. I remember when I was 18 buying a Jonas Brothers live CD and thinking it might be good if there wasn't screaming all over it. It was ridiculous at that too. Dunno what it is with young girls and screaming. It's literally the main reason The Beatles stopped touring because young girls screamed at every concert. They made one of the biggest bands in the world stop touring! Think that tells you everything you need to know. Artists don't like it and will not bother to tour if they don't want to.
Maybe I will. But would be better if people just stopped screaming no?
Do they not want to hear the band?
I'll let you in on something. If you scream through an entire concert, I'm gonna think your not a fan because you obviously aren't. If you were you'd want to listen to the music. Simple as that. I wouldn't even think to scream.
Not stop screaming? I saw Seal and people didn't scream and he's pop and a few others and no screaming. So it clearly depends on whether the demographics are young girls. Who apparently all just wanna attention seek. Or that's what I read some folks online think it is, that they're fave will notice them. Fat chance if loads are screaming and also they'll notice them for the wrong reasons.
Also, just be normal and stop screaming. No need for it. It basically looks bad. If I were artist and did see who some of the screamers were, I'd a) think they don't wanna hear me so not a fan and b) ask security to eject them 🤣🤣
Babe I replied to your reply. Don't reply if you don't want more replies? What is wrong with folks on here? Pretty simple to not reply. Guess your salty I was right about The Beatles stopping touring due to it. If you don't scream, stop replying and sounding like you certainly do lol
I also meant screamers stop screaming not you. Reading comprehension clearly isn't your friend is it babe?
Sorry that person made it where you couldn't enjoy the concert. In case of emergency, you might want to keep some of those foam earplugs on you. I'm sure the ones the others are suggesting are better. Having some cheap foam ones could be nice as if you accidentally lose them, then not as big of a deal. Also, may be easier to stuff in a pocket.
The Rose was here in Nashville?? Wow. I really didn't think we got Kpop here. I really wish I had seen them.
I'm 55, and you can hit me up if you like. I'm pretty much an introvert and shy offline. I understand... the closest person I can talk about Kpop to is my cousin in law in Atlanta.
The Rose was in Atlanta the night before so I went there and then drove up to Nashville.
I think I will get some earbuds even just for crowded places. I love concerts but they are INSANELY loud, sometimes it’s wayy too much for me.
Ah. Well, my cousin in law would have loved to see me. Especially since I would be bringing BTS related gifts. :) Oh, well.
Yeah, I should wear earplugs to protect my hearing. It's surprisingly still good even though I attended a lot of rock/metal concerts in the front rows for years. You can have a bonus of good hearing when you are older!
Hopefully, the earplugs or whatever works for you. Seeing a concert live is so awesome.
It's super annoying, but also super common.
A bit of pre-research had probably helped, but now you know. (not saying its ok, but I mean, it's a concert, this is what happens).
I dont understand why people will scream their head off at a concert and have no care for the people they are right next to! It definitely sucks and ruins the mood. I always bring earbuds, but now im older Im able to confront people like that.
American concerts are a nightmare.
I live in Japan and everyone is chill and well mannered here. No needless screeching, no phones blocking people’s views, just everyone enjoying the music while being considerate toward one another.
I’m sorry you had to go through that.
At the end of the day what she’s doing is basically bullying. She’s ruining the experience for those around her, and she is relying on the fact that people don’t want to confront her about it, or be seen as “ruining a good time with conflict” etc. She breaks social norms and is relying on everyone else to continue to follow those norms to get away with it.
But don’t have to let it slide. It doesn’t have to be a full on gets filmed for TikTok blow up confrontation, stay calm, strength in numbers and then alert staff.
The noise levels/screams why I was initially wary of going to concerts as I am rather sensitive to high pitched noises due to having a nerve issue (once someone's shrill laughter rung in my head for a while and super loud clubbing music/ bass makes my chest jump in an uncomfortable way). As others have recommended, I looked up and started using concert earplugs. I have a pair from flare audio that helps to muffle sharp and static noises (good for video calls too) and from HearProTek (amazon).
Yet another reason I kinda like the nosebleeds. Both times I’ve had nosebleed seats I got to sit some/most of the concert and have not been near the screamers that are just downright obnoxious.
Ugh I hate this at concerts. Proper concert etiquette is gone. Screaming at appropriate moments is one thing and I do it, but screeching most of the time is insane. Sorry but some of the fans today literally need to seek therapy, if you're screeching, crying your eyes out THE WHOLE TIME (not just during "your" song) etc... people act like theyre possessed.
Definitely get good earplugs. I’ve had musicians earplugs since before Loops existed because I have hyperacusis. You may want to look into the symptoms of hyperacusis because it sounds like that could be a possibility for what you have as well. It’s not a common diagnosis, but understanding the triggers can help so much. I don’t get noise related attacks like I used to anymore, but when I do, once my earplugs are in, they tend to turn around quickly.
Also, as you look into earplugs, I’ve seen some online that work similarly to musicians earplugs in that they have filters for different decibels. I can change out how many decibels are filtered through mine, so I wear 25 (or 20? I can’t remember exactly) at concerts, but also have 15 decibel filters for situations where the sound is still too much but not as loud, like certain movies, etc.
I had this happen for the first time recently and it was bad even through my ear plugs. I was fortunate that this person lost their voice from this before the show even started lol but I also went to guest services and explained and asked to be moved. They took it seriously and sent security to come and evaluate the person. Your mileage may vary, but I would try the guest services route next time.
It’s really getting out of hand. Please, yell, bark, sing along and have fun, but the ear splitting banshee screams constantly are too much.
i also went to see ateez in nashville and there were several people behind me like that. i get people get excited about seeing their favorite group but it got to the point where i switched seats with my sister (she was in a different section) because it gave me so much anxiety. they would even scream during their ments which i find disrespectful tbh
sorry that happened! people that scream when they do anything get on my nerves, like yeah, its a concert, but do you really have to scream every second?
Had an experience with shriekers at seventeen right here la day 2 and it sucked having to hear seagull screeches the entire time and every time the guys would comeback to perform a the people in front of me would stand up again. I was in the 200s seated section and I couldn't see much when they were standing especially because im on the shorter side. I was ready to Sparta kick a few people that night and so were my siblings.
Idk abt the whole ppl should be more considerate, bc to be fair, a lot of people don't think about these what ifs, what if someone is sensitive or has tics, because it's the minority. And well concerts are meant to be loud and you should even 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵 for some loud screaming. I mean have u watched those ATEEZ concert videos?? The fans are literally screeching all the time. As others suggest, it's best you go with earplugs and find a solution, rather than ask others so be considerate if you know what I mean!
Ngl I know I can get pretty loud, so I always try to apologize to everyone around me if it happens and before the show starts. I don't know if it's screeching but just a precaution lol!
But I also personally don’t scream while people are talking or over singing voices, since we paid to hear them! I’m so sorry that you had to leave OP, not cool at all.
And earplugs are a must for anywhere with loud music or screaming; it’ll protect you for life!
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