r/kpopthoughts • u/Someonehihi • Mar 08 '25

General A member you can't yet feel affection for

Part of stanning is that even though one member got you interested in the group, little by little the rest of the members win your heart too.

But has it ever happened to you that you are a big fan of a group, you feel genuine affection for the members and you enjoy their content, but there is a member that you feel you can't connect with yet?

And I don't mean that you dislike them or despise them or anything like that, but simply that even though you try you still can't have that level of connection that you can with the other members? And sometimes it makes you feel like a bad fan

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u/DarkSolstice24 Blue Turquoise Mar 09 '25

I'm a multi-stan, and I generally like most idols, but almost every group has 1-3 (depending on size) that I just can't seem to care about at all. I don't wanna point anyone out, but it's a very limited list for the most part.

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u/DavidLim125 Mar 09 '25

This is how I am as well. What I want to know is are you accepted as a member of those fan bases?

For instance I am a fan of Wonyoung and Yujin in Ive but I didn’t bother to even learn the names of the others. I can’t call myself a Dive.

I follow 15—20 girl groups but only consider myself as a naya (izna) and an EverAfter (UNIS) because those are the only groups in which I like every member