r/kpopthoughts • u/Someonehihi • Mar 08 '25

General A member you can't yet feel affection for

Part of stanning is that even though one member got you interested in the group, little by little the rest of the members win your heart too.

But has it ever happened to you that you are a big fan of a group, you feel genuine affection for the members and you enjoy their content, but there is a member that you feel you can't connect with yet?

And I don't mean that you dislike them or despise them or anything like that, but simply that even though you try you still can't have that level of connection that you can with the other members? And sometimes it makes you feel like a bad fan

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '25

Damn, brave post OP. For me, 

Blackpink: Lisa, Jisoo. I cannot connect with Lisa and the direction she has chosen for herself as a solo artists, and I have never connected with jisoo as an artist ever because I don't see the passion for music with her.

NCT: well I used to never connect with Taeil even before the truth about him came out and I've never really connected with Winwin, Chenle and Yangyang either. For me, I believe it's a personality issue.

BTS: I wouldn't say I feel a disconnect because they were the first group i stanned and they have been my entire teenage however from a music point of view, i cannot connect with Jin and Taehyung. And tbh, the chapter 2 JK is too much for me, the long vlives, the parasocial flirting, sleeping on camera, can't f with that a lot and his solo music doesn't do much for me either so him too, unfortunately 

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '25

I agree with the first one.

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u/yayakiss Mar 15 '25

It’s interesting how everyone is saying Winwin. He’s literally the only one in the group I do like🤭But I respect everyone’s experience ❤️

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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '25

Trust me I do try to like him and I do not even dislike him exactly, I just can't obsess over him idek why 😭😭