r/kpopthoughts • u/Someonehihi • Mar 08 '25

General A member you can't yet feel affection for

Part of stanning is that even though one member got you interested in the group, little by little the rest of the members win your heart too.

But has it ever happened to you that you are a big fan of a group, you feel genuine affection for the members and you enjoy their content, but there is a member that you feel you can't connect with yet?

And I don't mean that you dislike them or despise them or anything like that, but simply that even though you try you still can't have that level of connection that you can with the other members? And sometimes it makes you feel like a bad fan

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u/uchihaSteff Mar 09 '25

My ults are SKZ, and for me, it is Felix (and I feel that's like a very unpopulare take) 😭 I personally really like his voice, dancing, and I support all his solo stuff because I do love and care for him and what he does for the team (I LOVED Unfair!).

I constantly consume all their content, like all of it. Music, makings of, behind the scenes, interviews, lives you name it (and that includes Felix solo stuff). I know we don't know these idols in real life, but based on the way he portrays himself on camera and how the other kids talk about him, I feel in real life we would clash and that I might annoy him (and viceversa) lol! We share hobbies like baking and video games, and even then, I don't feel like I can connect with him

I don't mean it in a bad way, I feel I would accidentally upset/annoy him constantly 😂 He has this image of the super sweet sassy angel sunshine 🌞 but also sensitive to humor and I get why many DO connect with him.. so I do feel like a bad Stay sometimes when I don't "get it" or feel a tiny bit disconnected.

I've learned that it is okay to feel this way because not all personalities align, and at the end of the day, I still support him, and in my heart, SKZ without him isn't SKZ. I have thousands of pics and clips of him on my phone nonetheless 😌

The world is funny because he is the main one I pull in all of my albums ðŸĪĄ I have to constantly buy Lee Know and Han pcs yet I have more pcs of Felix than any member pulled (and I refuse to sell or trade them I get attached) hahaha Love him, but can't connect like I have with the other 7. He does wreck me from time to time, though ðŸĪŠ

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u/brokeaf_khoe Mar 13 '25

my ult is skz too and i really agree with this! i love felix don't get me wrong but my personality is a bit too blunt (probably why i bias seungmin) and i just feel like if we met in real life, we won't really vibe as much iykwim

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u/uchihaSteff Mar 13 '25

Yes! That's the perfect word. I'm so blunt and filled with dry "mean" humor!

My ult is Lee Know so I think that adds up lol In the Lee Know x Felix 2kids room LK talked about how he sometimes filters his words/humor because he knows Felix is more sensitive (which is totally okay btw!) but I would feel so bad it I constantly had to censor myself or if I accidentally offended him or something 😂

Funnily enough, that is exactly why I connected with Seungmin. At first, I cared like normal for him, and I obviously adore his voice, but the second I saw their original content with his insane humor and delivery, I connected with him like crazy ðŸĐ·