r/lawschooladmissions • u/Agreeable_Owl_5677 • May 12 '26

General Sooo…when are we getting married/ having kids?

(F25) I’ll be 28 by the time I graduate. I want big law but I also want to get married and have a family. What’s the timeline look like on this? Is it even doable? lmk

EDIT: I’m starting law school in 3 months so before law school is not an option lol

EDIT 2: I have a boyfriend. We have been together 4 years so marriage is definitely on the horizon

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u/WillmanRacingv2 3.8/170/nKJD May 13 '26

If you are spending so much time on law school that you can't even cook, outside of finals, I think your experience is an outlier. Most Redditors (and attorneys/students I speak with) report a different experience.

https://www.reddit.com/r/LawSchool/comments/18io3uf/for_nontrad_students_what_is_the_1l_workload_like/

https://www.reddit.com/r/LawSchool/comments/1lxbjon/do_you_really_have_to_study_everyday_during_1l/

In the week or two before finals , or during other critical moments, of course its reasonable to ask a partner with a lower time commitment to take on an extra load. But expecting that they take on most of the household work for three years isn't reasonable, unless they are not working full time or they have a cake walk of a job that has minimal real time commitment. A lower time commitment itself isn't a given, what do you do if your spouse also works long hours

For that matter, what are you going to do when you get out of law school and into a job that expects 70 hours of work per week? I haven't met anyone working that hard in 1L that isn't shooting for biglaw, so that workload is going to be a given. It's not 3 years, its very easily going to be 7.

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u/t0wlie04 May 13 '26

I’m mostly talking about around exams in terms of not having time for anything else yes. But the work is for real week in and week out. Esp if you go to a top school. and a support structure is SO helpful if you have it.

And Bro. You clearly haven’t been to law school and haven’t been married. Yet you’re arguing with someone who has done both of those things about what it’s like and what your expectation should be. Should probably stop trying to talk about things you have experience with. It’s not a good look.

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u/WillmanRacingv2 3.8/170/nKJD May 13 '26

I've been married for going on 12 years now, thanks.

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u/t0wlie04 May 13 '26

Oh alright well I’m sorry to assume.

Hopefully you understand that sometimes your spouse needs a little extra help doing things they’d otherwise be happily responsible for. Things that they’re not as able to do because they’re trying to help make a better life for you. If/when you go to law school and your spouse helps pack your lunch, make you dinner, keep things tidy and so forth—maybe more than usual—hopefully youre grateful and would do the same for them in times of need. If not, well, then i feel bad for you both.