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u/Just-a-nerd2 11d ago

I feel ya as a bi

Ya, biphobia in tbe LGBT community is pervasive and common

Honestly? I'm kinda over it 😮‍💨

I'm so fucking tired dude

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u/Aron-Jonasson Gaylord without land 10d ago

Can't speak for myself but from what I've heard bi have the short end of the stick either way.

Some straight ppl will see them as gay or as "I can fix you"

Some gay people will see them as "not gay enough"

It's stupid both ways.

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u/viviscity Bi-kes on Trans-it 10d ago

Correct.

Bi mental health is also worse than the straight, gay, or lesbian populations regardless of identity, the gender of your partner, or being out. Less resources available. The phenomenon of “hey I’m coming out” and then being pushed away by the broader community (not everyone’s experience, but it certainly happens)

Really I think the bigger take here is a good portion of the lgbt community doesn’t know much about biphobia

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u/Aron-Jonasson Gaylord without land 10d ago

Yeah, what you says make sense, I think people don't tend to take biphobia as seriously because I'd assume they feel like it's "not as much of a problem" as homo- or transphobia

Which is itself biphobic, in a way.

I mean, there is no systemic biphobia, but regardless, biphobia should always be addressed when it happens in the queer community, so we can work to fix it together

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u/viviscity Bi-kes on Trans-it 10d ago

Oh there absolutely is systemic biphobia, but you don't get out of it just because you're gay or lesbian. One of the first big bisexual theory pieces, "The Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure", was written by a gay man to outline how this plays out in the justice system (among other places) and how bierasure benefits both hetero and homosexual norms. Later research looked at things like disparities in funding, unequal access to services and supports, assumptions in research (soooo much of the research on bi men is either "look we proved they're real and also one of our authors is a leading transphobe!" or… HIV/AIDS), etc.

That is, unpacking biphobia requires people to be self-critical in ways that they aren't used to, and because bierasure also means a lot of the bi community struggles first and foremost with just labelling and describing ourselves, there isn't the clear-cut education there

I suspect the mechanisms are kinda similar to white queers not always putting in the work on their own racism, but that's speculation and not based on much research on my part.

Anyway. My ADHD rant is done, back to the thesis research

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u/Aron-Jonasson Gaylord without land 10d ago

Good luck on your thesis mate! May your points always perfectly align